Using the gray rock method on a narcissist could aggravate them

[tiffanybluetarot]

Indeed, they can. Scary stuff. If they start trying to ‘trigger’ you & you don’t argue back or react, they get mad. If you do argue back, they get mad. If you try to physically walk away or clearly state you don’t want to argue, they get mad. They just won’t let you out of having a confrontation. There is LITERALLY no way to avoid arguing with them when they want to argue. It makes NO sense. That type of sh*% is SOOO exhausting & can often be pretty scary.

[IndorilTheGreat]

I witnessed this a few times with my ex. It was wild watching her switch tactics mid-conversation in front of my eyes. Like I had a front-row seat to her thought process.

[cheriemoskowitz]

The more we learn about narcissism the more we realize how many narcissistic people we have in our lives.

[kellik]

Grey rock takes time and yes they will rage. Over time they get bored and move on

[terri]

i kindof went grey rock without even knowing and it pissed him off alot first then he quickly discarded me, at first i felt more sad than i ever had, but i thankfully got over that, narcissistic abuse is just such an immense effect on the other persons life that it can shift their personality and reactions to other people for many years and possibly need support to get through, they make such a massive hole in your soul.

[BilqisAaliyah]

Definitely got so upset that I was not reacting to anything they would say and following me around the house and have a full conversation with my door 🚪

[busybodyhandmade]

So true! When I stopped responding to the things he done and said and stop being emotional he immediately found another source to abuse.

[HeatherGrace]

This explains so much!!! He kept triggering me with every trigger he knew of and could use to his advantage. When I stopped reacting, he SWATted me. Upon advice of sand help from the police and dv shelter and an attorney, I went ultimate grey rock (I moved with no forwarding address and all my bills go to a different address and all are password protected. He will have to work VERY hard to find me

[cynthiadennewith]

I appreciate the insight from a Narcissist on how they think and react, and why. Understanding a personality disorder, and learning how to work with what you cannot change, is a beneficial approach to start with.
Narcissist or 'normal', we are the only person we can change that will make a difference in our lives. So trying to manipulate change in a Narcissist isn't much different then them manipulating you.
And yes, when you change, the Narcissist does not like it, and they will Amp up their efforts to regain control, undermine, unsettle, and aggressively try to destroy you, gaslight you, love bomb you, intentionally misunderstand everything you say and do, just to feel they are the victim of your behavior.
Know your own truth. Be strong. Be consistent. Be aware. Acknowledge them but don't play along. You can love a Narcissist, just don't require them to participate in a way that puts you first.

[realtruthtalks]

This is Explains much and True for my husband-- he'd ramp up all the way to getting physical and also get more and more accusatory, almost like ANYTHING to "get to me"

[AngelPyra]

Yup. This is how I got toward my mother in law. -_- She tried to manipulate me every time we talked. And I drew clear lines that said I was wise to her crap. She hates me because I don't give her play room and made manipulating her son more difficult. It was 1 thing to be immune. It was another to help her son grey rock her for his own mind.

[freddiejuniorministries]

This is so true I started gray rocking my children’s mother a month ago and I’ve had so much peace since then mentally

[myfirstnamemylastname]

No matter how much I learn there's no substitute for these videos. Keep them up please.

[dshe]

Great video.
Grey rock isn't for punishing the person with NPD, but they might perceive it as so. You aren't giving them the respect they think they deserve and have gotten used to.
I find a very polite, 'excuse me' and then leaving the room works well. The physical distance shows the emotional distance you are working towards.
And being so polite - who can argue with that?

[jewelparham]

They're living in a fancy world. No matter what you feel is wrong. One told me why do I have to always be right. I left mine on and off for 25 years. He even proposed to three times without a ring. 😆 🤣 😂 I am done.

[kavyahealing]

The only issue I see with this, from experience, is that the narcissistic person will try to deflect everything onto you. This mean accusing you of being a narcissist and giving you the silent treatment… so when you “grey rock” they think (because I’ve been told this) “you’re punishing me and playing games” or “I’m not saying anything because you’ll just get upset” when what they say is deflection, denial, backhanded insults, etc… it’s all very confusing.
I have come to realize that exercising your authority with a narcissist only makes you a stronger individual. We have to make peace within ourselves that they have a role to play just as much as anyone else and not everyone was made to be Mr.Rogers.

[tranquility]

One bastard narc that I knew would ignore me at the dinner table. I fixed his ass and brought a book to read at the table while I ate, he was pissed 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[colingrant]

Grey rock has now become my favorite stone ! 🤣
The 'nastycist' can rage as much as they want, and I only respond if I wanna, , and I never wanna, nor can never be forced to wanna !
They lose that episode as I leave the house and close the door behind me 😂

[ashcash]

Man first off these ppl are crazy! This is what i do. I just mirror him back. Like if he tells me i am worthless. Ill say it right back. Ur worthless. It use to really get me saying these things but now this all makes sence now. And we apologizes after our fights. I use to think it was a bipolar thing cause he has that too but i reliesed after a while i would put what he acts like and see what it said and bam! It showed me narcism. He fought with me like this for yrs. I am in tears cause nv knew what was going on. I was on the brink to insainty. Thank u for yours videos.

[chasehatchett]

I love messing with narcissistic people. Ever manipulate the manipulator? It’s a true joy.
But it can be dangerous so I don’t recommend it to everyone. If you’ve found yourself in a relationship with a narcissist, playing mind games on them is not a good idea. Just run.