Stop Helping Someone Who Doesn't Want Help

[danejarouse]

Powerful content. I immediately subscribed. I like your no face persona and how your videos are 1 minute long. This helps people to more accept the message your making rather than accepting the message because of who you are, if that makes sense. You also consider the fact that people now a days have grown impatient and not hear messages that are 20 minutes long. So this 1 minute mark or less is the the best way to get your point across. More power to your channel sir.

[xenithfreelancer]

After a few bad relationships and watching a lot of videos on trauma stuff I came to understand that I had some serious co-dependency issues, or...that's what seems to fit the bill anyway. Back then I told myself, "They're the only one I want, I love them and I'm dedicated" but really it was, "They're the only one that acknowledged me, they're my only option"
That's why I stayed so long, because I was starving emotionally. And I understand now that back then I knew my true motive deep down. Because through the whole ride I was preparing for them to get tired of me and leave.
I still get those bad days where I feel like I'm worthless on occasion. But it's not as bad as it was.

[luckyfox]

I’m in a very hard place since I kept helping someone more than myself. Thank you I needed to hear it

[antreynolds]

I was just talking about this with my mom about my niece who has a drinking problem and everything you said was on the point thank you for your service and advice

[jeffwhipple]

The timing of this video popping up tonight couldn’t have been any better in the universe. Thank you so much for this guidance.

[shaneabraham]

Agree. Respect their decisions, but warn them.

[Christodoulosts]

All the issues are ours!!! We just take the decision to let people affect us more than they should

[TimelineTheSchizoid]

This has been my family's saying for 5 generations

[tuinh]

Nice advice 👏 btw can you explain the meaning of "anti prophet"?

[tinapuddin]

I dont look at the time that i stayed up for days to be with my friend to make sure she didn't od as wasted time I look at it as it was more time I got with her before she did go. Which I hold that guilt in me because I just asked her to not use that day she had went and got her methadone she did not need to use that day I just wanted to come home and see my dogs and sleep in my bed for one night and that night she left me at they think around 3am so at 6 a.m. her driver shows up at my house and the police are calling me because I'm her emergency contact I made all the arrangements because I knew she was leaving and on June 13th 2021 before I answered my phone or my door I knew she was gone. And I carry that pain and and I will never forgive myself for leaving her that one freaking night. I cherish every moment with her even if I was pissed off at her.

[UnlovedSpoon]

Reporter/suicide rights activist: "This man didn't want to be saved, this man didn't need to be saved"

Mr incredible "I saved your life"

Jumper:"You ruined my death"

[manhoosnick]

But how can one know that one needs help and doesn't want to be helped, I mean who doesn't want to be help! Is that even possible.
Great content btw

[ACloudWithoutAir]

the lack of awareness in your postmodern philosophical life problems are staring you right in the face in the mornings when you rinse your face after waking up.

I could easily tell you, its your wife, thats why you tried helping her, she is a part of you, you signed off that you and are partners intended for the rest of your lives. You are stuck with one another you two thought. Anybody would want to help the other. it is part of your moral responsibility.

but I'm not going to tell you that you are bad now, because if i did, you'd ignore me even more. you simply lost sight and have conditioned yourself to the ways of what the world tells you, and not what yourself tells you.

But the reason you tried helping your ex wife was because, well, shes your wife.
People forgot what the f is holy matrimony anymore.

People help others not only out of selfish desires and dreams, or ulterior motives, but because of what we base as the ultimate good, at the best of our experienced and intellectual knowledge. We have confidence as humans to believe in a right and wrong, it is innately built in us, to see what is a dark room and what is a lit room.

at the end of the day, you're chalking it up to egoism and that altruism cannot be even a shred of truth in it all, that at the end of the day, that we are just selfish creatures.

there is more to life than just yourself, and part of yourself even acknowledges that when we lack power.

im sorry but just because a person has priorities, doesnt intrinsically make them as valuable as yours because of the simple fact that humans have priorities.

if people have priorities that are equal, then you would have naturally had no reason to push your priority to help her or even "fix" her. Your priority has lost its own value and meaning, by dehumanizing it in yourself and chalking it up to indifference.

you know priority comes from prior in latin, and it simple means what comes first.
Humans naturally have a hierarchy scale of things that are important to themselves. and inherently. humans have a choice to be selfish or selfless in their priorities. Do I do what i do to benefit myself? Do I do what i do to benefit others? Or do i do what i do that benefits us all for the best that it can do?

and A Priori in latin is on the basis of self experienced truths, a reasoning or logic that has been surmised by the individual. we base out priorities based on our perception of truths.

for thousands of years, it was a man's duty to see care of his wife until his dying breath. There was a form of noble action, humble and honorable actions that went into marriage. You were doing the right and noble thing to fight for her even when she did no want to fight for herself.

Some people need others to fight for them, because if they didn't. then people will never ever see the light of day.

It feels like a waste to do good and get nothing out of it. but that is because you are devaluing what you have done as if, results only matter, and that is because in our postmodern society, only results matter.

the entire basis is the insecurity of feeling weak at times. it is ok to feel weak. but it is not ok to embrace weakness. the human condition is suffering, and to fight to rise above it, and make the best of your situation.

you avoided taking the high road because it was riddled with more friction, you choose the valley below because it is a smoother and faster ride, confusing it with power.

Socrates claimed we have an inherent moral responsibility to do what is right, regardless of status or power. the silver man, will do what is morally right, even should it cost him his own life. in the doing of right, not a single thing shall be spared, even if it meant the ultimate self sacrifice. We live in a very selfish world today and it is difficult to sacrifice things you want to hold onto.

You are beating yourself upon the rock of adversity. You do not defeat adversity by avoiding it, human nature will always find a way to create adversity. You beat adversity by playing its game that life has nothing else but to offer you, not denying it and complaining about it existing. you cannot slither around and run from the human condition.

Power is only as illusive as the viewer sees it, and its only as convincing as the people around you see it.

Some people can improve when you stop helping them, some people do better on their own. But you cannot tell yourself. I did bad by helping.

Those people who do better alone to fix themselves. it is in their darkest moments of self reflection, that they saw the importance in why you tried to help them for so long, and they realize now how important it is that they pick themselves up. You helped them even after you "gave up".

but the sad reality is, no matter how much you try to help people. some people are too bad. their actions have encompassed all that is bad, and they have made chaos of their innocent soul. You can't save everyone. But that is ok. It was your duty to protect and serve in the way you were assigned tasks.

There is no greater man than he that lays down his life for his friends.

and those who hold onto their life, shall surely lose it. but I tell you, those willing to let go of their life, shall keep it for eternity.

[uno]

Please please take off that mask… if you don’t want to show your face .. use another way …it looks weird and it discredits your advise. You could show pictures depicting what you’re speaking about or something anything but that mask. That really puts out the feel that there is something wrong with YOU… that is not normal.