Narcissistic Abuse Erases Authentic Self| Cptsd = Stuck In Protective Self

OCTOBERS THEME: OVERCOME SOCIAL ANXIETY & REAR OF REJECTION

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[jswjanjan]

I've always felt that the narcissists most damaging crime is identity theft.

[rosettesionne]

Narcissist project to us THEIR ideas about us and we live trying to satisfy their false fantasy because if we don't, we will be abused or rejected. The Golden Child is the person who succeeded in be what the narcissist wants them to be but they lose themselves in the process while the scapegoat are those who wasn't able to satisfy the narcissist expectations and suffered the damaging consequences like abuse and abandonment hence no matter what we do for narcissist in the end we will always lose. We either lose ourself in trying to please them or we try to be ourselves no matter what but we get destroyed by narcissist and hence we develop a "protective self" in order to survive their abuse. In my case I remember that when I was young I was very open-minded but I grew up with dictatorial jerks who lived with the idea of "children should be seen not heard" hence each time I was trying to express my feelings I was either threatened or beaten I suffered a massive depression because of that because I knew that my authentic self was been rejected I then develop a protective self, I became more introverted and I spoke only when necessary, it had help me survive in the hands of narcissist but the massive drawback is that I don't know how to express my authentic self in public.

[breakthroughmoment]

The stains of trauma cover up the authentic self. We can re-emerge it by discarding the false labels and aligning ourselves with our original soul traits of peace, power, love, and bliss.

[xiaoxi-chelsea-akiko]

When I first moved out from my parents’ place for school, I learned and develop more about my authentic self! I was surprised to see myself laughing from my heart! When I moved back after I graduated, I felt I got erased and then found more information about narcissistic abuse.

[vhayashi]

I am actually happy now being alone and I am protecting myself because I find most people around me have the Narc traits and I always give too much and get nothing back. As a single parent I cannot afford to have people drain me and take my energy and time, I have autoimmune problems so I can't risk someone stressing me out. Life is easier being alone. I do have a handful of genuine friends I love and we support each other. Wishing everyone healing and love...

[JohnDoe-fzhz]

once I stumbled over a nice little metaphoric story, a dialog between soul and ego, the ego starts to build a defensive wall. The larger and massier it got the less the soul could get in contact with the world. After a while, the soul asks the ego "what are you doing?" and "What is going on there outside?" The ego calms the soul "See there are rules in this world. I need to protect you from harm. Trust me I take care of you!" The longer that goes on the less the soul could interact with the world it weakens and slowly it becomes stunted. The ego grows gets stronger and stronger and leads the way. Another one is about a little appletree a family plant in the garden. First the tree notice they are happy that he grows. So he decide to grow as high as it can but the family didn´t like that. They fear it will break in a storm and destroy the house and cut its height. Then the tree thought maybe it's better I grow in width but the huge shadow wasn´t in the favor from the family and they cut it again. As the tree grasp, it can´t grow anywhere it died.

[Chris-]

Oh yes. I'm definetly stuck in protective-self. It's hard for me to trust anyone at this point. Especially a romantic interest. In fact, I have no romantic interests because of my trust issues now. I feel I'm doomed to be alone.

[citizenearth]

I love how you point out that the Narc crafts your false self for you and tries to convince you that that is who you are. I so know what that is like! Life is great now that I have found me again! They (I'm surrounded by them!) despise me now because it turns out my authentic self is really good at art and writing! I have now learnt who my true friends are and I shower them with all the love and support that they have always provided me with! The others are just noise that I shut out. Lol!

[izawaniek]

We must work through protective self to get to the authentic self. We absolutely must give ourselves patience and time. Our authentic self is there waiting for us to get to it. Let us enjoy the journey with all its pain and struggle since we are experiencing our own rebirth. Let us not give up.

[johnpaul]

Reinventing yourself has become an everyday struggle but you help Michele Thank you 🙏 God bless you again for being you in finding your beautiful self

[jeanettemaxwell]

Never new my true self, I was abused as a child then my second husband and his mom also abused to me, so I have loads of what you say and even more, trying to get better but not sure if I ever will know myself

[ChooseTruthAlways]

... That's exactly how I feel most of the time - Erased😞
Thank you Michelle 💌

[marieke]

Yes, narcisstic parents . I do my best to heal from it . Innerwork, doing knowledge. No contact is the best for me at the moment.

[peterknyk]

Thank you Michele! I feel like I am living in that protective self most of the time for probably, most of the time, a good reason....Even with a good reason it's not a healthy place to be. My authentic self screams for recognition and I need to address that! Thank you for this series that explains more about CPTSD! ❤️🙏🕊

[velvetsunshine]

So much information in such a short video - it’s fantastic. It’s so great to hear someone that really just gets it

[piotrkost]

Haven't listened, haven't started yet.
Just feeling about the title
"Narcissistic Abuse Erases Authentic Self| Cptsd = Stuck In Protective Self"
I was waiting for somebody to say that this way.
Here I want to add:
Narcissistic places, towns, settlements, families - sub-cultures.
The places where faith doesn't exist, or there is little of that and is being defeated in the end.
But, with some awareness and people "out there" maybe this faith can be kept.
Faith as something "itself", not referring much to what is going on and makes suffering.
Just another space of me, or for me. Not expressible probably

[johnjohnstone]

I Once Had A Real Self But I Had It Surgically Removed. Peter Sellers. Too Many Roles. Funny But True Quote.

[anna_ulrike]

It makes so much sense to me that I spent more than half my life trying to find my self . Wauw, thank you ❤

[janicemurphy]

THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH FOR MICHELLE. THIS MAKES SO MUCH

[cajuncrackerranch]

You are precious! Thank you for posting this. I realized this a couple of days ago and peeling the layers of protection back.