INFJs are cold.

Why those warm and fuzzy INFJ types can be very cold sometimes.

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[carries]

That's why Narcissists love us...and why having a cold side comes in handy, cause when were done, were done. I can ghost better than a ghost.

[haleberry]

INFJ don't have thick skin-- we just wear a thick skin costume so our sensitivity isn't exposed!

[ManipulatingMatterSince]

I used to say "I'm everybody's best friend but who is my best friend."

[darkpheonix]

I feel sad when other people dont even bother to know how i feel while i try to understand everyone...

[chielojean]

*"we are just a dumping ground for everyone's feeling and emotions"*

ohmygosh this is my whole life summed up in one sentence

[amalkiimasha]

I think we INFJs can hurt someone's feelings so hard if we want, bcz we know exactly what can hurt them the most, I realised it recently,

[jaylews]

I've heard the doorslam be described as 'I don't hate you, I nothing you' and I think that sums it up perfectly.

[hb]

And literally it seems like the way we make people feel understood and cared for, nobody does the same for us and we're left to fend for ourselves in bad situations. Because even if we tried to explain, it would be nearly impossible putting it all into words, and maybe other people don't have the ability to understand as good as we do

[juliafreitas]

"You give all of yourself and get nothing back" I felt understood right now let's take a moment and appreciate that

[rosestudstrup]

Yes, INFJs are "nice". We really listen, empathize, and make others feel understood. That's the warm part.

But don't take our niceness too personally - we're nice to everyone. That's the cold part.

[irenegoldie]

The best thing that I ever learned in life was how to say 'No' - and mean it.

[Ang.]

Boundaries and self love give INFJ’s what they need. I had to stop giving to ppl that don’t deserve it. It’s so simple but it took 33 years to learn this.

[danihaiden]

I thought I was rare until I saw the comment section lol

[a.kenneth]

Omg. I just started learning about my INFJ-ness, and this hits home so hard. I’ve been called Ice Queen, cold, stand-offish, etc. — but simultaneously told how warm, wonderful, caring I am. I’ve always thought of myself as a “weirdo-magnet” — the person who attracts all the broken, needy, odd, eccentric people, and can’t seem to shake them until I cut them off, completely. And then, I get the guilts, the depression, the worries, the what-ifs. Ugh! Anyway, thanks — this vid of yours is valuable. One I’ll rewatch. Shared too much. Gotta go recharge. 10/10

[tinasteig]

That's why I have dedicated myself to cheer up INFJs giving them a ear when they need it, hugs, food, going the extra mile. I am ENFP and have at least 3 INFJ friends who need this kind of support. I try as little as possible to throw my negative emotions on them. I believe the healthy happy ENFP can really help INFJs recover from being an emotional sponge

[veethau]

Why do people seek us when they are down and for unloading but never when they are happy? I am always a afterthought. I would love to hear good news and not just the blues.

[bookmouse]

my advise is to hide from people when you can

[젠장미]

As an adult INFJ, I've learned to protect my emotions and avoid unnecessary drama/to get so attached to every people i meet. As a result, my friends call me cold or ghost . 😬

[erica]

INFP with a close INFJ friend here. I can see what you describe in my friend. I know her well and I know she's deeply deeply empathetic and caring and warm heated. She doesn't SHOW a lot of emotion and she can be very straightforward when she's annoyed or when she finds something stupid, which may come across as COLD to those who don't know or understand her well. She also has a very acid sense of humor, which i LOVE but some may find harsh. But it's just a matter of communication and whether other people accept pure honesty or not, I guess INFJs are not easily understood by everyone. I personally like her and appreciate her a lot. We don't see each other or talk that often, we don't need to TALK a lot to be close, but I know she's honest and reliable and she's there for me or anyone if we really need. I wish there were more of you INFJs out there.

[asseyez-vous]

Beware the narcissists though! I am, unfortunately, like a magnet to them. Narcs will drain you of ALL your energy. I've learnt when I'm being targeted by them now, and stay away as much as possible. Beware the narc they're users and takers and only give back criticism and gaslighting. Love to all INFJs ❤️