The INFJ is cold inside

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[LisaImhoff-vq]

I often wonder how can these 2 sides of me co-exist? Especially in any kind of relationships where I love and/or trust deeply. And this is only reserved for the very few I let in. No matter how much I love and trust you, once you cut me deeply....you're dead to me. I'm able to shut off when the situation merits.

[pragmaticpoet]

Brenna Brown did a study on the most compassionate people and what they have in common and that thing was - Rock Solid Clear Boundaries, this allows greater compassion 💕

[moniquelemaire]

I would say that I am not cold, but simply have deep conviction about what is right and wrong..I will be rather quiet mist of the time. However, if I get in s certain mood might voice raises and I will start speaking up and even preach if i need to. Thank you for your channel and everything you do ...
I have learned a lot about myself.
It helps me to deal with me and others that i interact with!!
Miss Monique 😁🙏💗🙂

[irodirod]

Absolutely!, also, perhaps, (depending on the situation) a lot of emotion is expended on empathy about a possible negative outcome, that when it finally happens, the INFJ has already experienced it many times over.🤔

[kayliacrockett]

I would describe my core as cold.. I would like to say it was aloof as some suggest but after many experiences, i cannot say that it is not cold. I often experience myself having a very detatched and calculating deposition that separates the desire of connecting socially and emotionally. When i was younger i misunderstood my intuitive feeling for my own emotions and often over-connected and carried so many peoples emotions and problems. Now i am more mature and find myself understanding but knowing that those feelings are optional to feel. Knowing this does make this cold core more prominent but at the same time, it leads back to the last point in this video. My understanding for what people need or lack on a subconscious level and my moral and spiritual grounding on what is right and wrong, makes me capable of support and nurturing that is very effective in leading people to healing. On the other spectrum i have the door slam and strong inclination towards detatchment when i feel shifts in energy from others and any sign of intentional manipulation tactics... Finding the balance in being grounded with intention towards others is my current battle. Some of the shifts and signs are subconscious as well and forcibly ending a connection can be so counterproductive to all the positive progress the other person has made just by knowing us. Sometimes we can leave them in a worse state than what we found them.. If you are struggling with this also, make sure to "plant seeds" of love and insight. If you doorslam, those seeds will still be there. God will grow them if they are meant to grow.

[bethb.]

Thank you for explaining this. You have shared so many useful, practical insights in your teachings. I am grateful for your service to the INFJ community.

[junemacauley]

This is how we get things done, follow-through on the vision. I love that part of myself; it never occurred to me that it could not be Love-able.

[penneyburgess]

I don’t think of it as cold. I think of it as aloft and still. Totally different perspective than others.❤

[fraewn]

I noticed this coldness in myself and I could never describe it really because my behavior is so different (towards other people). Thank you for pointing this out! I think this also explains partly why we do so well with intp types in relationships because it fits or cold side. I think in a relationship a truly warm person could get on our nerves pretty quickly when spending so much time with them. As friends, sure.

[lindateuling]

This is a very unique approach and I like it.

[مجتهد-خف]

Yes, we are cold with toxic narcissists and emotional with good people





[depthsowned]

Yes , utterly cold inside. I kiinda knew this when i was much younger, surrounded myself with good people i trust so i can feel as they do.
Need people, but need space. Always a balance.

[ocho]

Affirmative. This quality is helpful in a number of other ways, as well, I think. Stressful situations, for example.

[ambraiezzi]

We are goal oriented a f i say. 😄
Then the emotions.

[jannettre]

Is that why I feel weird at funerals? I don't know what to say or how to behave.

[jonlaidley]

Thank you for this, it summarized something I’ve struggled to explain to others

[commoncitizen]

It is not that cold. May be just may be, it is a protective shield developed and fortified unconsciously over a very long time in response to continuous undue attacks and projections.

[veronicalodge]

Thankyou Wenzes xxx You are such a blessing xx

[naturelover]

wow not me, I am sensitive, overly and artistic

I have to try to be cold, as cold as normal

[Johnnyo]

You can’t speak on it unless you’ve lived it exactly what you just said it comes across cold but that’s only because we can see the potential is so much more and if you have to explain it to somebody, there’s a good chance they’re not gonna understand can’t stop laughing takes one to no one young lady always a pleasure You do good work very good work it’s a strange little world and this community is even stranger when you consider the vampires that are out there but when we’re left alone, it’s magic lol it’s so hard to get people to understand and the ones that do you’re very grateful