Gender Roles | What is a woman’s role in the home when she works?

Women and men can’t seem to agree with each other about going 50/50 financially. Gender roles and double standards seem to be both lived and hated by the same people. There are men who don’t believe in paying all the bills complaining about their full time working women not cooking and cleaning daily. There are women who think being a woman entitles them to a life free of work who also want their man to do half the chores when he gets home. People tend to believe in gender roles that make life more convenient for them. Women complain about sexual double standards but support and agree with financial double standards. Today we are talking about house work as I answer her question about a woman’s role in the home.

[nidzaboricua]

Every couples relationship is different. When I get into a relationship I will have the conversation of housework and finances before ever moving in with someone. Having those conversations will save a lot of resentment in the long run.

[rhianawilson]

I think this is a contributing factor to why the divorce rate is so high. I have known of situations where both the man and the woman works. He expects her to cook, clean, look good all the time, and pleasure him. He gets mad that she argues with him about helping around the house and cheats on her because she wasn’t “submissive” enough. Dudes like that can’t have it both ways. If you are expecting your woman to work full time and help with the bills then you need to help with other responsibilities. He wants a traditional woman but doesn’t want to be a traditional man by providing financially. It’s like living with roommates you aren’t always going to have it your way when it comes to house the house hold is being ran. Everyone is paying rent and bills. Why should it be different in a relationship if both genders are paying bills?

[yh]

I LOVE THIS! I have seen so many woman burned out from raising children, taking care of the house and trying to bring as much money as their husbands. All of these issues were the leading cause of divorce. A woman can only do so much before she lashes out & stops having the sex he wants. I have never been okay with men not being the provider BUT if we are 50-50 on EVERYTHING or at least balance things out in equity then is a perfect balance. This is a must see video for men and woman. Bravo 👏🏾

[Dr.Mahadrasjethwani_MD]

Good day I'm a wife of 31 years and we had a sit down, wrote things down before we married ( we never lived together before marriage, this is not a part of our culture) anyway 31 years ago and in theories that was all great, then REAL LIFE TOOK OVER and you may need to have that talk on a regular like going to the bathroom regular🤣
Remember it is impossible to know where a person's thoughts are/is. After 31 years it's like a vampire, you never know if a person has turned. ALL MARRIAGES ARE DIFFERENT....Your marriage is based on what you guys want it to be 💞

[weraz]

I broke up with my long term boyfriend after having a conversation that I wish I had at the very, very beginning. He expected a split based on pay (he safely made quite a bit more and was very specific about money, with everything apart from himself) and all the chores because I was a woman. Talk about slaving away to a man who wouldn’t contribute his share to a two person relationship.

[CelestialBeauty_GAP]

I think that a partnership is when both parties are in 100/100 regardless of what it looks like! Wherever one is absent physically the other one is supposed to be present without complaint and vice versa! As well as maintaining a positive outlook! Neither one of us has shown up as superhuman yet so it's both of our responsibilities to make sure we are equally comfortable!

[analyticalchick]

I do most of the cooking and cleaning, but I work part time and my husband works full time with overtime like every week. My husband still helps so much. He often loads the dishwasher and does laundry.

[day-dreamer]

IMO it's all about sitting down and having a conversation about what will work best for you guys. Each relationship is different. For me, I expect an even(ish) cut of the responsibility if we're both working. We both need to eat, we're both making messes, we both live in the house so we both do the work. How/if that's divided up can be different for everyone. Ya just contribute what you can as it makes sense for the relationship. Again...my opinion.

Side note: CONGRATS Kev! So excited for you in this next chapter of your life! Can't wait to see how you grow. 🧡

[lakeshasanders]

I'm glad 😊 you ❤ speaking on this 🔊 😌 ❤. It should be about partnership and team work and other things in a relationship etc.

[allisonrae]

I enjoy cooking and cleaning, especially if I'm not working full time right now. If he's paying the bills etc. Do your part.

[queenrubygoat]

Women are supposed to receive the love . Women don't need to be anything other than what they are already. Men are supposed to love on us in his own way. Ying yang ☯️

[maria.c]

This is very supportive and affirming to listen, thank you Kev! Congratulations for your courageous move, may it be fruitful and blessed! I do not know you, but from what you create, what I feel energetically and the way you hold and present yourself, I feel grateful and glad that you exist and I can see that there are man like you in the world! May God bless me with such! Much love and blessings to you and your family 🙏🤍🦁👑🗡️⚡☀️

[kaiaballobey]

It all depends on the relationship as each relationship is different. In my relationship, my wife and I pay the bills, share the chores, discipline the children equally. Basically, it is a partnership that works for US.

[thelegendofsel]

Thank you.. for being fair to all women ...

[jewel.kn]

Hi Kev, thanks for sharing your opinion on gender roles, love how you explained it. So My dad is unemployed. It's either he hustles or sometimes he's mostly at home. my mom works a 9-5 job. when she comes to work she is expected to cook and clean while he just eats and messes around the house, I help around and do my chores as a child of course but that's beside my point. The point is, According to my general observation of my parents and how their partnership works, it's totally not quite nice and fair, I can see how stressed my mom is at most times as she is the provider; keeps the household running, she has a lot on her plate trying to provide for the family while her partner isn't always meeting her halfway.
Their relationship differences or whatsoever has nothing to do with me and I love them both and I obviously wouldn't want them to not be together. I just wanted to share this and hear from you and everyone to give further feedback on what's right or wrong

[onetruth]

He wants u to do everything so he don’t have to do anything. Most men don’t like. Household work . I used to live with my bf and son and my they become deaf when I ask them to do household work.

[creativeraven]

I really like the evenness of your perspective on roles. That's feminism done well and I appreciate your openness regarding your household.

Red Pill got ppl thinking loving people with actions makes you weak. sigh.

[whatisthis]

Let's not forget the "I do physical labor all day and you sit in a cold office all day" type....as if the type of job matters at the end of a 40 or more hour workweek....critters 😒

[VegasLady]

I'm old fashioned. I'd rather the man go out and work and me stay home and clean and cook. But I've been around Latinos a lot of my life, so all the time, I'd go to my friends' houses, and the women are in the kitchen cookin' up some lovely Mexican food, men are outside drinkin' beer and blastin' music. Idk I like the idea of woman take care of house, man take care of bread (money). I'm used to that tho. Some women wanna do both the housewife and work thing and it works for some couples.

[hannahgattorna]

I have a question, how can you tell if a guy is testing your patience on text or he’s generally busy or slowly pulling away?