My husband works and provides. I stay at home with the kids. I homeschool, garden, make all our food from scratch and my husband doesn't do housework. He does however do the maintenance of our home. When he comes home its his rest time and spending time with kids and I We are both happy and wouldn't change a thing. Traditional roles are great and fulfilling.
LadyMcGinnis
This was the american dream 60s 70s after WWII because economy allowed a single income household, the current neoliberal doesn't. Social problems are extremely linked to economy.
vaelicusthepaladin
So what happens when your husband gets sick and you’ve got no money coming in or when you get sick and the whole house is a mess and the kids are a mess ( which is the reason why men leave there sick wives so often ) do you not think it would be better for both parents to engage in taking care of the kids and chores and finances so that way if something happens the house still moves smoothly or smoother than it would if parents just had set jobs to do while the other parent gets better do you not think that would be more efficient ? Or do you think women should give up there interests in life and stay home and probably be become depressed as that’s what studies say when a parent becomes a stay at home one that the routine becomes way to familiar everyday and it eventually becomes depressing which I can imagine you don’t do the hobbies you used to because your constantly cleaning up or attending for your family you don’t see people no social interactions even if you do have them it’s way more limited
r..
This was wonderful. A breath of fresh air compared to all the nihilistic depravity in other conversations about relationships.
You actually give me hope that men & women can function again one day.
jonnjones
As someone in a successful marriage, “traditional” gender roles aren’t necessarily something to strive for. My wife and I take on many stereotypical gender roles due to natural preferences, but we don’t divide chores based on gender.
For example, I’m happy to renovate our kitchen, re-roof our house, or install rain gutters; these are often viewed as “male” activities. There’s no amount of money you could pay my wife to do any of these things. That said, the thought of folding laundry sends me into a spiral, whereas my wife is happy to fold laundry while watching TV.
For all the chores that we both don’t like, we divide as evenly as possible. I happen to like doing a lot of “guy stuff” and she has a preference for lots of “girl stuff” but it’s not forced. Splitting up roles in this way ensures minimal suffering and prevents any sort of resentment from forming.
I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all solution for role assignment. Sit down with your partner, have a conversation about what you like/dislike, and split the burden in a way that makes sense for the two of you. You should absolutely have clearly defined roles, but they don’t need to be “traditional.”
BlackGhostAudio
As a full time working mother of 5, I agree. My situation isn't the ideal. I'm so grateful to have the job that i do. It does allow me to be home a lot and connect with my kids more than many other opportunities. I only am employed because my family needs me to be.
salemthorup
America, 80% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. The average house payment right now is 1300+ and that’s for a house it’s not even brand new. The average household income is about 65, 000, there is no way a woman and stay home and not financially assist the man without him getting an enormous amount of stress and being incredibly depressed because all the bills can’t be met.
This is the reason both and spend time with the children, both help with the chores, and both should help with the finances is why gender roles have evolved because of the economic inflation that has forced the society to create this. A canna soda used to be five cents we’re not gonna ever go backwards economically, so there’s no way that we can push this idealism of having the Mothers stay home work. America lives for profit and nobody gives a shit about the average Joe.
eviebernal
0:59 Pause frame. This look is perfect for a thumbnail. I'm only noting this because a third to half of your thumbnails look forced or with a fake smile, but this is a genuinely pure still frame.
(edit) I mean when you say "pa-", but it's a shame. You look so much better in video than in thumbnails.
masscreationbroadcasts
Yes. It's an ideal. Claiming anything else is always absolutely against dogma is bearing false witness. (Which other certain people are doing right now).
lunalee
Being a single catholic man it's hard to find a catholic woman to date.
josephvincent
Strict gender roles are not good. Ppl should do what works. Sometimes men become disabled and the wife has to bring the income. If his whole identity is tied up in provider it will be a recipe for disaster. Also not all men are natural leaders. It’s a special skill and can be a personality trait.
peanutnetwork
A woman who only fulfills the role of a nurturer might raise happy kids, at best.
A woman who is a great nurturer AND provider, who brings more extra $$$ to the table on top of her husband’s AND spends effort on her family, would send her children to Deerfield or Benenden.
A mother with a successful career at Wall Street would know just the right people to write her daughter’s reference letter to Harvard. A doctor or engineer mother can prepare her teen to become a finalist at the Intel Science Fair.
There are perhaps countless children who could’ve grown up in Ferraris and Chanel’s and private schools, instead of doing drugs at some crappy public school, if their mothers had been given a chance to start a business.
zhuangjoy
The most super ideal is: both parents (without kids) first work super hard and invest. Then they have kids and both stay home taking care of them. This way both were providers first and then nurturers, plus without the stress of the money...this is the ideal
viviana
Hate to be the language police but it is supposed to be "nuRture" in the thumbnail
constantine
If you want to have gender roles in YOUR marriage, then do so.
What others do is none of your business
wyleecoyotee
Another ideal is: the man stays home taking care and nurturing the kids while the woman works and provides ❤
viviana
Well I disagree, if your wife wants to provide for your family alongside you it's fine but if you or your wife wants to share your time with someone else or worse show interest in someone else then you should be ashamed of yourself, it also depends on what kind of society, family you live in do you live in a rich privileged society where you can't spend a day without driving cars showing off your wealth then cries about being oppressed how mentally ill you are or are you living in a society where you don't even get proper food, fresh water, where you hardly earn 200 dollars per month in such case you have very little choice or else you will not live long so life is not same for everyone,
