Narcissists Who Feel Entitled To Control You

A hallmark of healthy relationships is the willingness to allow each other the freedom to live and prioritize as we deem appropriate. But, as Dr. Les Carter describes, narcissists are very reluctant to let you experience free choice. Instead, they honestly believe they are so enlightened that they can and should control you.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

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[Henryism]

When it comes to their entitlement one of the things I cannot wrap my head around is they bully you, belittle you and generally hold you in contempt but they will then turn around and expect you to kiss their butt for it. They really expect you to be grateful and accept the way that they treat you. And if you don't then you're the one with the problem. If they do happen to tone down their actions and be more respectful towards you know it's all an act and temporary to draw you back in. Give it time and they will go right back to treating you like garbage.

[deirdreryan]

The funny thing is that they will blame you for the argument, even though they started it.

[jds]

This is exactly how my mother has treated me my entire life. She has always wanted me to be this ignorant boy that she can easily manipulate and control. She wants me to not be able to do anything on my own. I am 59 years old and only in December of 2023 did I finally figure this out. She expects me to always praise and thank her for what she does for me. I have practically zero self worth and zero self love. My mom likes to tell me. "I love you with all of my heart". The only love that I have ever felt from her is a very superficial love.

[Nancy-ywrr]

I can't imagine any narcissist not being controlling since they are paranoid and think others are trying to ruin their lives.

[amandaliverpool]

It's hard NOT to retaliate. Even when you think you've mastered the art. They catch you off guard!

[girlintherain]

Whilst having a never ending list of dictats, orders, instructions & rules, he says " don't tell me what to do, ever!"

[artroomantics]

“it’s my way or the highway” “that’s for me to know and you to wonder” “do as I say, not as I do”………the narcissistic has a book full of such phrases! It totally messes with your sense of being for life.

[loisrogers]

I slice up a tomato. He takes all the center slices, leaves the ends. Small example, but ....

[the-chillian]

Very little enraged the narcissist in my life more than when I told her, "I'm not answerable to you."

[lovecatspiracy]

I set a boundary yesterday: I don't have to let her come over and make me uncomfortable in my own home. Of course, she immediately attempted to triangulate first my husband, then my brother against my choice, but I didn't engage. I feel fabulous this morning! Thank you so much.

[randytusha]

The only way I have found to deal with narcissists is simply to say NO, and just go on without bending to their demands. Just ignore them and move on. Work together with the people who are willing to be reciprocal and negotiate, and completely ostracize the narcissist.

This is hard to do, especially if the narcissist is a boss, co-worker, or family member.

If is still possible in all those situations.

[rouxtheday]

I'm not going along with the abuse from these goons anymore. Reversing twenty plus years of being told that I'm lesser, and don't deserve to be happy.

[aaronkwolfe]

I could sense her giddy glee as she “taught” me how to do life, the “right way, ” HER way.

[randomcertainty]

They will hold you in contempt if they think you are or have been assigned control.
Family dynamics are their favorite territory to make toxic.
Being an Executor, Trustee or P.O.A. of an aging parent will unleash their no empathy chaos.
Testifying on my behalf, they will choose conflict over compassion every time.

[dianebinpa]

I was attacked with “you’re acting like a little kid” when I refused to respond to the verbal abuse. Tried four times to provoke and still got no response and finally backed off huffing and puffing in more anger that I didn’t respond. Never ends and then this person acts like nothing happened after they were so verbally abusive. Ridiculous…

[nancybrooks]

“They’re entitled to your deference.” A brief, powerfully eloquent statement, Dr. C.

[SurvivinThrivin]

The ever faithful doctor's assistant: Gus 🐶. Seeing him peacefully curled up on the couch 🛋 always makes me happy.

[truthteller]

Thank you for the truth about these dangerous individuals. I removed my mother and almost my entire family, and a dangerous very dangeours ex husband.. Please be safe and listen 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[sage]

A narcissist once said "I would never steer you wrong."

[brendamertes]

It's wild to me that these people think to themselves, "I absolutely have the authority to control another human being because they don't leave"