Reframe Your Negative Thoughts & Change Your Outlook - Complex Trauma Prisons

Tim explores how Complex Trauma may have fueled your Negative Thought Pattern.

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Many people navigating Complex Trauma find that they have a negative, critical mindset. They often realize that this mindset serves various purposes, like self-protection and coping. However, what starts as a defense mechanism can lead to increasingly harmful consequences. Tim dives into why this happens and shares some practical ways to start shifting those thoughts.

We’re here to help you through this process. With the right support, you can begin to change your mindset and create a healthier outlook for long-term healing.

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[jenmarie]

Tim is amazing. On my therapy journey my therapist recommended these videos. Its been 14 months and I couldnt do it without help. Grateful for these videos. They changed my life., gave me the abilty to reflect, and learn how to really love myself and love life even on the bad days. Thanks Tim ❤❤❤❤❤♥️

[Ruby-wise]

Omy. I just remembered saying…” I’ll be quiet. I’ll be good, just don’t whip me again.”! Fawning became my almost …constant posture.

[johanna]

Wow, this was another tough one. I realised this about myself when people around me complained that I complain all the time. And I'm like, what, isn't that normal? What, it's not? My mother is a narcissist and she finds fault with everything and everyone. I talk this way because that's how she talks. That's what I grew up with. You mean other people don't find fault? That is incomprehensible to me. So what do you actually think in your head? You mean you don't notice every imperfection in someone else? So you notice it and not say it, or do you not notice at all? I really don't know what normal is. Now I have learned to keep my mouth shut, but the fault finding still runs in my head.

[sebastienblais]

Another friday night banger from the OG!

[triplejmom]

As a fawner I’m more critical of myself than anyone else. 😢 I can become untrustworthy towards certain people though, but it takes time.

[karissafuller]

Heavens reward fallacy! Never heard of that but it is certainly something I struggle with. I was raised in an extremely evangelical Christian household. Thank you for giving me new information to help my perspective.

[TrentAdam]

One of the few ways ive ever connected with my mom is talking crap on people. Started very young.

[chrismckillip]

O M G!!!! This Is my Mind...i even remember some things that brought this on when i was a kid. Omg. Omg. Omg. Thank you for hitting on this. It was EXACTLY WHAT I WENT THROUGH GROWING UP. I CAN EVEN HEAR THE VOUCES. Maybe now I can start healing from this. Thank you! This is a bullseye for my sibblings as well. Wow, wow, WOW😢

[JayceeKovacek]

Many people dealing with complex trauma develop a negative, critical mindset as a defense mechanism but it can become harmful over time. To know more read this book the teens workbook to self regulate.

[donnag.]

IF THE NEGATIVE ONES SPEND TIME AROUND THE UPLIFTING ONES, THEY END UP DRAINING THEM & THE UPLIFTING ONES CAN NEVER GET THRU TO THE NEGATIVE ONES!!!

[corinnarose]

Tim Fletcher, I am french. When I listen your words, I feel loneliness far from me. It's precious. To heal my wounds. It will take time. I just want to live with serenity. Oh it's si difficult with traumas

[Bobomcbagpiper]

Translation: If they get to know the real you, they won't want you. They only want you as long as you keep pleasing them. Once they find out youre actuall a human who is sad and has anger and has been traumatized and is afraid of not being loved if youre authentic and being abandoned for being a normal person with flaws and feelings, they will abandon you for being human and having flaws and having feelings and fears and needing them to care about you when youre not taking care of them.

[aquariusstar]

So grateful for this video. I have come to take responsibility for this neg thinking pattern over the years. Tracking the details and triggers in a systematic way has been nearly impossible. One beam of recent awareness i recently became conscious of--but doubted--was the fear of everything going well and being joyous. I think my misunderstanding of God and man's Will confused me as a child, so i succumbed to a bekief that im not supposed to be happy. You nailed it when you mentioned the spiritual belief that life is supposed to be bad. This has been a deep unconscious pattern that may be the M.O. of all of my neg thinking.

I appreciate your pptx outlines. It helps me to look at this in an organized way. Im excited to see i am on the right path to correcting these problems. Thank you again, Tim!❤

[patteegee]

Thank you for making sense of this mindset. I related to the mention of the person waking up in the morning and just looking for something to feel negative about and set them off. This was my mother. My dad described it as our mother "being on the war path." She would emotionally abuse or physically beat the child that was her target that day. Us children lived in terror of setting her off, for no logical reason, and becoming the target of her abuse. She took pleasure in releasing her wrath upon us and never apologized. My dad was too weak to protect us. Perhaps he lived in fear too. I never made the connection that she was using this pattern of behavior as a valve to release her deep anger that had built up inside her. No wonder why she appeared to feel better afterwards.

[CrimsonWave]

This is incredibly validating. Thank you so much, as always.

[Muck-qyoo]

After listening to Tim Fletcher I am desperately looking for points that don't apply to me. 😅

[Buzzoit]

Incredible. You’ve helped me so much since I’ve discovered you this last year and I don’t know how I’ll ever thank you for this free education. I never even realized I was in this toxic thinking pattern. I would even realize I have a problem with having negative thinking patterns and didn’t know why nor what to do. Today I’ve been enlightened a little bit more and I’m so grateful 🙏

[maggiesalle]

Thank you, Mr. Fletcher, for being professional and refusing to be nasty.