Hidden Autistic Traits - Uncovering the Lesser-Known Signs of Autism - Part One

Hi! I'm Orion Kelly and I'm Autistic. On this two part video I explore some of the lesser-known #autistic traits that you should know. In part one we discuss lesser-known traits connected to speech, communication and perception. #orionkelly #actuallyautistic #autism #whatautismfeelslike #asd #autismsigns

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[TheKjoy]

My brother was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 4 (I'm the autistic one). He had to do speech therapy in first grade because he had developed nodules on his vocal chords. His Ear, Nose, and Throat doctor told Mom that he was experiencing vocal abuse from being too loud. He still has issues with his volume and he is almost 40. We frequently have to remind him to turn his volume down, because one of my sensory issues is how loud things are around me.

[TheEdgejoe]

In regards to the volume of speech. My wife, with ADHD can be loud without knowing it. I am the opposite. I will mumble at times, thinking I am loud enough. I am constantly being asked to speak up.

[ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

Oh man, I get asked where I am from So often! Lol. I too, have been telling myself to talk slower (and have gotten used to focusing on speaking quietly). It is often a real challenge to talk slower, because it's like a massive impulse, where I am trying to hold myself back from a compulsion.

[carolynwebb]

Orion, what you just said about the “autistic accent” resonates with me! The lack of modulation in my voice which, here in F—ING intolerant America has unfortunately caused people who are neurotypical to mistakenly think I am stupid and as a result take liberties with me that they would not take with most neurotypical people such as, trying to dominate me, hound me and manipulate me into doing what THEY want me to do! They accuse me of having no empathy and no respect for THEIR point of view when it’s really the other way around—THEY have no respect for MY point of view!

They think they are doing me a big favor by just giving me unwanted, in asked for nasty criticism about the decisions I make for myself and the way I want to live my life and they never stop hounding me and manipulating me into doing what THEY want me to do! I tell them to get off my case, mind their own damn business and keep their malicious domineering opinions to themselves because I do not want to take my marching orders from
Thrm but it does no good!

I am an undiagnosed person who could be autistic but I don’t want to get a diagnosed? I just want to get those domineering bastards off my case! Have you got any ideas?

[MsLisa]

You are hilarious, and explain so well and in depth. I really appreciate it. I don't think I can ever date another NT after being with my bf. He is so very authentic, no guess work, no hidden agenda. I'm crazy about him.

[greentoke]

I am constantly told that I come off aggressive or angry due to my volume control issues as well as my tone and cadence. I constantly frustrate my wife with the butting in and I can relate 100% to that part. Described it exactly as I experience it. The more intensely or passionate I am about the subject, the louder I get and the faster I speak. I constantly flip flop between being excited and wanting to contribute to the conversation and feeling like I've just messed up and chased everyone away from the conversation. I'm often told I am "intense".😞💯 Just simple communication has been a struggle my entire life. I do much better in writing where I have time to organize my reply without social pressures or awkwardness. 🙄💯 I don't know how to express what it means to me to hear you describe situations exactly as I experience them. Trying to relate these things to others has proved impossible for me. I was certain no one would ever understand what I go through. Felt so broken for so long, never knowing why people react to me the way they do.😞 Now at least I have some answers, some logic to the chaos.😞💯

[helenayamez]

Over the years I have taught myself to filter because I've lost friends over it. I talk too loud when I'm excited about something or emphatic about something, but otherwise OK. I often get accused of talking posh and have been asked if I'm from the other end of the country which I found strange, but realised its because I pronounce the odd word as if I do lol. I have the opposite of face blindness in that I never forget a face. I'll forget their name though. The big one for me is open, honest and direct communication. I can't do subtext and never get the hint. Looking forward to part 2. 😀

[durhamskywriter]

A couple of years ago, I was trying to figure out why I was having such a hard time recognizing people. I realized that I don’t really give my brain a chance to process their faces. I only quickly glance at them. I’m still not the best, but at least I’m getting better by actually looking at people when meeting and talking with them.

[carissstewart]

I deal with face blindness a lot. So even if I have no idea who this person is, I'll just play along and be friendly. A few weeks back, outside of church, a woman spotted me and said, "there she is!" She asked for a hug (I still didn't know who this person is) and told her husband "she hugs me every week." Thoroughly confused and feeling bad for not knowing who this person is, I went to Mass. When the service was over, the couple approached me again. The woman gave me another hug and told her husband, "I met her when she was at Olympia sports." I'm not athletic. Neither of my kids are athletic. She really mistook me for somebody else!

[pityparty]

Went to my sons wedding. A beautiful lady came walking down the sidewalk and I greeted her and welcomed her. Stood beside her during the ceremony. Afterward found out she was my baby daughter! She’d had her teeth fixed and that’s all it took to lose me. I’m still embarrassed even 10 yrs later.

[kyliecarpenter]

The face blindness ohhh yeah. Whenever meeting up with people I’m always so anxious I’m not gonna recognize them, especially if I haven’t seen them in awhile. I have a very difficult time recognizing my coworkers outside of work. Like one time my coworker bumped into me at the store and I didn’t know who she was at first😭. Even when they’ll come through drive thru to pick something up, I have difficulty recognizing them coz they aren’t in the coworker setting. When I take orders from customers, I try to pick something they’re wearing to remember so I know who the order goes to. There are sometimes I’m at the store and I’ll recognize people I’ve met before, but I never announce myself haha

[avnas]

Not diagnosed autistic, but am pretty sure I am. Don't really have face blindness, I'll remember peoples faces, sometimes even remember where I once knew them from or how they know me, but I'll be damned if I can remember their name😅. I have gotten better at forcing myself to remember names of people I work with, but I for the life of me will not remember the names of people outside of my workplace. Like my moms friends I see sometimes, their faces I will remember, but not their names😅.

As for comunication, I am very careful with my speech. I have learned long ago that if I am just speaking naturally, speaking my mind and not filtering then more often than not people get angry or annoyed at me. So monitoring my speech is something I do all the time. Which also means my tone, pace and how I choose to put my words together is always done with great effort and thought beforehand. I have come to realize the majority of people don't put so much thought into talking as I do, which is frusterating. As I take my time to carefully explain something, they will just ramble through their explaination and often leave me confused somewhere along the way...

Don't think I do the austic accent thing🤔... at home I will talk in accents from other countries just because, but I don't do that in public because I know for one people will stare at me weirdly. sometimes my voice will change tones halfway through my workday. It will become more monotoned, tired or bored sounding as I run out of energy to wear my mask throughout the day. I work customer service as a grocery clerk, its a unpleasent enviroment to be in for long peroids of time. My store was rebranded as well over a year ago, before the rebrand it had been pretty quiet and thus not stressful. But now the place is bursting with people and thus is a hell of a lot noisier, which I have just started to really notice how it overwhelms me and such an environment exhausts me as well.

As for tone and pace in talking. I am either told I am too loud or too quiet😅. I haven't ever had anyone comment on the pace in which I speak besides my mom, who always just says I take too long telling stories...not because of my talking pace, but that I give too many details in her option.

[Rubiastraify]

I find your videos to be incredibly helpful, not only because I believe I have at least some autistic traits (on the spectrum), but also because I deal with the public. I try to size up a person while I'm speaking with them and observe how they respond in a conversation. So, if the person seems to me to be autistic, then I try to be more patient, and try to accommodate them the best that I know how.

[t.ht.h]

Face blindness
No Filter communication
Autistic accent (unusual speech, voice...)
Speech pace And volume

[adamcolley]

I have a highly context-based memory also. Like your illustration, I struggle when I meet people out of context. I also struggle with the feeling that I've "lost time" when I return from a trip away from my usual routine. People will say something like "missed you last week" and I have to stop and think where I was (because to me, in that context, it's like I never left).

But, it's also benefitted me in my occupation as I can be away from something for years (even decades), and as soon as I get back into the correct context, I can recall things like it just occurred. I also attribute that to my proficiency for maps. When on a road trip, I'll usually remember places I've been to once whenever I get about 15 miles (25 kilometers) away from it (I call it my internal radar 😉). Thinking about it more as I type this, it's likely the reason I do so good academically also.

[mariuszwisla]

fun fact in regard to voice volume - working in a supermarket full of people (roughly 500 - 1000 inside at a time), tills beeping, kids yelling, all that stuff, I'm speaking my normal voice and people can hear me at the other end often, or from the warehouse floor above, they do not want to experience me shouting, they do not know it unfortunately, except few, I had once a very loud meltdown walking the stairs up to warehouse, they did hear me on a busy street outside, only 1 person saw me, so not as humiliating as other two occasions on a shopping floor, during my 7 years there.
If I did not see someone for a month I struggle to add name to the face, I recognise face, no idea what name is though

[sheaballard]

I have a problem with recognizing voices over the phone, especially at work. When I pick up my work phone, I don’t necessarily know who’s on the other end. If they don’t say who they are, I will often not recognize the voice. Of course, once I find out, it’s obvious, but before then I honestly have no idea.

[marite]

Face blindness!!! That’s what I have wow, I’m 69 and have struggled all my life with this. If I see my neighbor anywhere away from her house I don’t even say hi because I don’t recognize her, it’s bad.
When someone comes towards me with a smile to greet me my generic question is How is everything at home? I try to make them talk as much as possible to get any information that would help me place them somewhere. I’m not autistic but I have a son who is and his life is not easy trying to fit with “normal” people. Greetings to all 🌻

[MarleyDay]

You do an EGGSellent job of explaining each of these I experience and have been unable to define. When I'm communicating with my Autistic friends, we have multiple conversations at once. We think about something we want to share even if it's not the current topic. We easily circle around to the other topics and share our thoughts. NT do not have this skill. When we change our communication for NT, we accommodate them. In Reality, the overall accommodation ratio is NT 10% | Autist 90% My work is really great at accommodation, but the rest of the world is that ratio only because NT are the majority and the majority designed the environment. I appreciate you :=)

[GenXForPresident]

Thank you Orion, it's your videos that led me to seek answers and now I am in line to finally know once and for all why I am and feel the way I do. ❤ diagnosis, here I come.