The #1 Word A Narcissist Absolutely Cannot Stand

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By definition, narcissists are rather enamored with themselves and they presume that you should be too. But what if you are not, and what if you choose not to play by their rules? Psychotherapist Dr. Les Carter identifies the #1 word that drives narcissists crazy as you indicate that they are not in charge of you.

Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who lives in Dallas, Tx. In the past 40 years he has conducted over 60,000 counseling sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder.

[victoriac.attorneyatlaw]

Why did the narc cross the road? He/she thought it was a boundary. 🤦‍♀️

[billthebax]

Best way to deal with a narcissist. NO CONTACT

[jamesmcbeth]

Is it just me or do narcs seem like making other people miserable makes them happy?

[aarynunite]

I actually think that "whatever" is a dangerous comment to use on a narcissist it is also a favorite word that narcissists use. It is extremely passive aggressive which is why it is the verbal fighting tool of so many teenagers trying to get under their parents skin. This word will provoke many narcissists. I think a safer word is "OK." You can't win against a narcissist EVER- all you can do is create some space to either move on or move out. I also think that habitually using passive aggressive narcissistic statements yourself, actually starts to change and damage your own psyche.

[vickielewallen]

Finally breaking away from a narcissist feels like being let out of prison.

[Annedowntherabbithole]

You can't fix them with love. You just end up being abused if you try

[gardengate]

The word they can't bear to hear is "no" but the word they can not utter is "sorry".

[blen]

They hate the word "no" a whole lot more than they hate "whatever" in my opinion. When you respond with a no and they know that you really mean no, they'll rage out on you because their bullying tactics didn't get them what they wanted. 😊

[anitsazubovichdoesntlivehe]

When the Devil can't get to you he sends a Narcissist.

[flybaby]

My grandmother used to say in Spanish, “Argue with a fool, then there are two fools.” 🤔😜

[ElizabethF]

The narcissist will either play the victim or the hero, never the villain.

[amodernalchemist]

Narcissists don't like to be called out for what they truly are, *narcissists.*

[burnerjack]

Q: What should you do with a narcissist?
A: Walk away. Don't say 'sorry'. Don't say anything.
. Just walk away.
. Get on with your life. You'll be better off.

[tbd]

They also hate being called crazy, because it’s true.

[davvidcrouch]

I lived with a narcissist for 25 years. She eventually filed for a divorce from me because i started saying NO. I was blamed for everything. She controlled who i could see, what i did, even put me down for going to church. I never knew what was going on until now. I have no friends, i have no family contact, i have no self esteem and i am damaged emotionally. I have been away from her for only 3 months and i am slowly getting back on track. I was tricked into believing i was the problem. I did not even know what a narcissist was. The only reason i looked this up was because she kept calling me a narcissist. All i can say is WOW. What a fool i was.

[ahoffmann]

Absolutely! My therapist gave me an example of how to disengage with a narcissist. It's like a game of tug of war initiated by the narcissist. They set the boundary and throws you the other end of the rope. If you pick up the other end of the rope you have engaged in their desired war. So, don't pick up the other end of the rope, leave it on the ground. Look at them straight in the eye, don't say a word then turn around and walk away.

[Tune-O-matic]

I noticed they like to cause problems/drama where there really isnt any....sick !

[Idothinkysaurus]

A combination of "no" and "okay" works wonders. You can say "okay" to everything that's an opinion or idea, and you can say "no" to demands. It's a total shutdown if done right.

[ceebee]

They really can't stand being told "No". Guaranteed narcissistic rage or tantrum.

[jkdbuck]

"Whatever" is a good thing to say. The narc I have to deal with only wants the fight. They WANT the argument. Took me a long time to figure it out. They want the turmoil and the argument, I won't give them what they want.