Love is a choice - Not a feeling

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Love is not superficial, it's hard work - but it's worth it.

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[NowBloom]

Disclaimer: Hi everyone thank you so much for your support and your kind comments! I just wanted to pin this comment on all of my old videos to let you guys know that I started my YouTube channel one month after I became a born-again Christian and was baptized, prior to that I was deep in self development and some New Age beliefs so you’ll see some of that in my old videos however the reason why I am keeping a lot of my old videos up is so that you can also see the transition that the Lord took me through! I do apologize if you hear things that are unbiblical because of the stage I was at in my faith at the time 🥰

[streamsofconciousnesstarot]

Falling in love is not a choice but staying in love is

[aaronthomas]

Yes, one must choose daily to love their fellow man, husband/wife, parents, friends, etc. Just like the line in the movie Dan in Real Life, “Loves not a feeling, it’s an ability.” It’s an attitude and characteristic one must exercise just like building a muscle/endurance. Love allows a person to conquer offense and perception and continue in unity and harmony with those whom they love.

[melodykubiak]

Love is also feelings. Feelings don't have to fade, they can grow stronger, deeper than we ever thought possible. We've been together since 1978. Many years ago we made the choice to dedicate our lives to each other in marriage with God as our center. We don't need to choose each other every day because we already made that choice, for life. We are living that choice. The feelings of love grow deeper and stronger with time. Yes, we make choices every day because we love each other and put the other ahead of ourselves, but I think those choices just deepen the feelings in love. Truly being in love is devotion which is shown by our choices. That is the fruit of true love. This is why it is impossible to be truly in love with two people. "You have my whole heart" and "You have my whole heart too" doesn't work.

[davidrivas]

We live in a quick fix society here in America and believing in the disney fairy tale fantasy that once we fall in love, we'll be like forever and live happily ever after expecting the other person to make us feel happy all the time. Love is definitely a choice which is unconditional love. That's why we have a high divorce rate in America because we go based on our feelings. Once the other partner loses feelings, that's when divorce and cheating begins.

[eyoelalemayehu]

It is better to say that love is not only a feelings rather than saying love is not a feeling. If we say so, we mean that emotional attraction is not needed between couples to enter ti relationship. That emotional attraction is very important as the other components of love...

[annapiwowarczyk]

This help me soo much cause im in relationship more than a year and its perfect relation for me but i dont feel this butteryfly anymore and i was thinking that something is wrong with me and i have a lot of problems with that and with bad thoughts!

[dianaburgos]

Yes ! Exactly! I love how you stated everyday you make a choice.. ❤️🙏 it’s not a casual thing! God bless you! And anyone who reads this 🥳

[bradtoepfer]

I know you didnt mention this in your video....but I've always disagreed with "love is love". I think it takes away so many aspects of love. Love is a choice. You absolutely choose who you love and who you don't. Nice video.

[angelacoleman]

Falling in love is a choice...watch your step!!!

[esthersurgrim]

Love is a choice that we have to make if we love d person or not

[guillermosanchez]

If love is simply a choice sounds like a business decision. Without a feeling of love you don’t make choices

[fae]

Choosing partner is a choice... I think love is the feeling that backs this choice and the glue that holds it together

[guillermosanchez]

It’s really both. Can’t be just choice. There’s feelings of love and how you act when you’re in love

[kylecorcoran]

I liked this girl I even loved her and I still do, I’ve loved her since junior year in high school. I’m now 21 years old and I was about 17 at the time. I don’t think at this point I’d say that’s it infatuation but real love and maybe I’m wrong but I seriously don’t why I still have her on my mind. I want her gone forever but she just won’t leave. Can anyone tell me what hell this is.

[jasnarmstrng]

Saving to share and come back to again and again. 
Succintly summed up.

[christinmii]

How does one differentiate choosing to do things and saying ilys because they truly do love each other from actually not loving each other and you just feel obligated and forced to do it because you’re in a relationship?

[Orcanislupus]

I believe there's a difference between feeling and emotion. A feeling is a physical experience. An emotion is an illusion created by thought. Love is an emotion that you choose much like hate and fear.

[Sam-fpzm]

greater love hath no man than he who would die for his friends the bible says. So unless you are willing to die for someone you dont love them. jesus showed his love for the world dying for us while we were still sinners

[macoycoy]

I learn from a pastor, love is not blind, but feelings is blind.