How to Stop Compulsive Lying

There are many reasons why someone might compulsively lie, and if you are watching this then you may be someone who is sick of compulsively lying. In this video I talk more about the reasons why people lie, and I'll share 7 tips you can use to start being more honest.

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++ Video highlights ++
00:00 Introduction to How to Stop Compulsive Lying
00:13 "I'm a compulsive liar!" A case study
01:15 Do you lie?
02:24 What causes compulsive lying? Why do we lie?
04:02 Tip 1. Be true to yourself
04:55 Tip 2. Remember the truth is often easier
05:28 Tip 3. Know what lying is
06:16 Tip 4. Stop compulsive lying to protect your reputation
07:18 Tip 5. Stop compulsive lying one step at a time
08:16 Tip 6. Stop compulsive lying by meeting your emotional needs honestly
09:28 Tip 7. Use self-hypnosis to stop compulsive lying

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[audreyallbritton]

i'm mostly an honest person, but out of nowhere i will make up crazy intense lies. i don't know why, i hate it. i always take it too far with the lie too. i don't even understand why

[starborn]

I'm a compulsive liar and I do it to get attention. I hate myself and I can't stop 😔😔😔😔😔

[mohitblues]

The fact that you guys came to watch this is a first step to improvement in itself!!
Good luck everyone 👍

[-A-c]

For me, my constant lying came from a place of caring too much about the opinions of others. Other bad habits like people pleasing seemed to go hand in hand with the lying as I simply could not see myself as "worthy" or "enough."

Regularly forgiving myself rather than being hard on myself when I fall short seems to give me that foundation of self esteem.

Slowly I am improving each day by trying to increase my awareness of anticipating a lie. Sometimes im successful, other times not so much. But I keep a record of most incidents and I am happy to report the trend is going towards less and less lying.

So for all my fellow recovering compulsive liars out there who don't know how to begin the process of changing your behaviour....

Forgive Yourself.

[chae]

Just reading through the comments makes me cry. I’ve never met or encountered anyone who is a compulsive liar. I had never felt more alone until now.

[kalanyou]

I wanted to change my memories. I couldn't do it for myself so I'd try and change it for others memories of me.

[soso-hhlc]

My entire life I thought I was the only person who felt this way. This comments section makes me feel seen. I don’t know why I lie, it started because my parents would ask if I got homework done and I’d say “Oh yeah, of course.” even when I hadn’t done a single bit. Then it turned into a huge problem and I began telling all of these intricate stories I made up in my head in order to feel special and I couldn’t stop. It’s hurt my relationships and made me feel absolutely horrible. I don’t want to be like this- but I’m glad I’m not alone in my struggle.

[catmii]

I can't stop it. I have intricate stories about friends and family that don't exist and boyfriends I've had that didn't exist and pets and experiences. I don't even know why I do it, I hate it so much.

[veniceisnothere]

I grew up lying because I was afraid of what others would think of me.


—Edit;;

One year later, I'm progressing and improving myself slowly and slowly,
It was never easy and it was difficult, Every experience is, I hope you all take care and be safe. You'll go through this

[lilyk]

I really hate myself sometimes when I lie. I know it's wrong, and yet I can't stop. I know it's bad, and yet I can't do anything. I want to stop. I really do.

[neganlanciani]

My father used to yell at me till I cried as a child, and upon deep reflection, I think I lie to avoid conflict because of my previous experiences with it

[hd]

I’ve wrapped myself so far in lies that I believe them sometimes and I make up memories in my head that I think are real- I’d say things to sound cooler or more interesting- just because I don’t think I’m good enough, I love attention so I end up lying about something for attention but I end up hurting people but if I come out as lying about stuff no one will ever trust me not even the one I love, I don’t want
To unwrap the lies so I’m considering just slowly muttering them out
Into the gutter-

[jonathanford]

I lie because I wanted to be considered interesting, maybe I’m insecure about things I haven’t accomplished. I also used to
Believe you’d have to go through hell in order to be great but that evidently isn’t true

[undercurrentsd]

I am a compulsive liar.
I have lost my relationship and I have lost respect from others due to my constant lying.
My ex has publicly exposed my many lies and cheating. She just told me to never speak to her again. It hurts to know that she is absolutely right in doing so.
How could I have lied to the person I was supposed to love the most?
I am starting my honest journey to break this habit, be honest with myself and others, and free myself of this vicious trap that has cost me everything at once.

[Dansthoughts]

Never realized that lying is a form of theft, so true.

[fernstephens]

I’ve never felt so comforted reading comments in my life. I have lied ever since I can remember- I didn’t know why I did it, but after some therapy I now know that it came from self preservation from my alcoholic mother. I never knew what kind of mood she would be in, so I’d lie to protect myself. It then became a habit, a very very bad habit that I am still struggling to break. I am hoping that I can save my relationship with my boyfriend as I have hurt him so badly over the years. I don’t deserve his forgiveness really, as he has put up with so much but I can pray. Thank you all for commenting here, it has really made me feel far less alone.

[hotcheesestick]

I'm a compulsive liar, and I am aware of it. However, everytime I say something true my brain tries to convince myself it's not true. So now I can't tell what's true and what's not because I can't remember. I've lost so many friends and it's so lonely. I feel like shit but I want to be better. I want people to believe that, and I want my friends back because I hate abandonment.

[SharlenesJourney]

I’m just realizing this at 24. My childhood was very chaotic.. I lie to do people pleasing and to hide my feelings. I never noticed it until I got on meds for my anxiety. Which probably explains why I lie I’m anxious of what others think about me the people pleasing and fear of them hating me after I tell the truth.

[awesomeinacan]

I started liying and i could not stop myself I wanted help...

[zeecaptain]

I have no excuse for my lying. No abuse. No ptsd. Not because I want to seem normal.
Other than the constant lies to save myself from every little uncomfort or mistake in life, I have no other reason than that I feel the need to tell these exiting and out-there stories, exaggerate and change the truth to seem.. I don't know... out there? Experienced? Interesting? Sometimes I lie just because I can't stand silens or tension in any social situation.

I lie about my real diagnosis and give a much more empathetic and what I see as respectable reason to my needs and mental health issues. I wear my very much real eating disorder on my sleeve as I know that that part give me sympathy and positive attention
I feel that my real self is uninteresting. Not worthy to be one of the gang. I want to be admired. I want to be seen as quirky, exiting.

But most of all I am scared to death of one day being caught in a lie. I'm an actor with 15 years of acting and improvisation training. I have perfected lying and spinning tales. I have never not been able to explain away a big lie. But one day that day will come. And I'm so afraid.

I don't know if anyone will ever read this, but it felt so good to write it out. Don't know if I'm ready to change it. But I have realized that it is a part of my problems and it feels a little bit less chaotic in my brain