Symptoms From Narcissistic Abuse That Don't Fade Quickly

If you have endured extended time with an abusive narcissists, it is a virtual certainty that (A) you have been wounded, and (B) those wounds won't go away quickly. Dr. Les Carter discusses how narcissists create pain, and more importantly how you can take specific steps toward healing.

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Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his YouTube channel, his videos have received more than 120 million views.

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[vickithompson]

Anyone who tries to take away your dignity is a THIEF....so you❤❤❤

[brucefriedman]

Having been bamboozled by a conniving narcissist is something one never forgets, because surviving narcissism is both a badge of honor and a wall of shame.

[Wings]

It's about self care now, and loving our own lives.

[yukio_saito]

It's hard to heal insidious wounds caused by them. You often don't even recognize it.

[judithrasmussen]

I think I have all of the symptoms of abuse except self-harm although I do enjoy a glass of wine! I’m 85 and just walked away from a 50 year abusive marriage. Thank you Dr. Carter for your messages that explain and give hope for healing.

[Lola-mtne]

Since going through an emotionally abusive narcissistic relationship, I have come to think that this should be taught in Junior High School.

[SallyKlee]

1) Difficulty trusting people again
2) Anxiety
3) Letting go of maladaptive coping mechanisms (i.e. eating too much or too little, drinking alcohol, smoking)
4) Not trusting oneself and our view of the world
...my first guesses. It takes time, but we can find our way out of this. Listening to Dr. C, going to therapy if we can, being kind to ourselves and being thankful to have opened our eyes (otherwise, we wouln't be watching this videos). We are all capable to love and these toxic people won't take that away from us if we stay true to ourselves ❤️

[OhPleaseMary]

Good one, Dr. C! One more time for us in the back: "Anyone with ongoing disregard for you, has NO Right to establish your identity"

[elenakalliste]

I think the best way to realize just how severely damaged you were by a narcissistic is to talk to another victim of narcissistic abuse. The parallels and commonalities will hit you like a ton of bricks. But it’s truly eye opening and allows you to really see that you were not the problem.

[crystalmorrison]

Every time they're nice, my 1st thought is, Now what do they want from me.

[Loneranian]

Having been around narcissists all my life really took a toll on my self-esteem as I often question my self-worth and leads me to feel shame and self-doubt. It’s like there’s this constant nagging voice in the back my head, always telling me I’m not good enough, even when I know I’ve done nothing wrong.

[sterry]

One other sign of NPD abuse is the inability to have enough headspace to be able to take in any new learning. I do believe that I was so unable to be present, that folk thought I had dementia. I had no relief from the grief, from trying to understand what I got myself into.

[gillianbrookwell]

They can be very inconsistent; let you think they're on your side, and then give you the silent treatment. Narcissists hate confrontation.

[incognito]

They are not even worth the time it takes to revover. Just RUN AND FORGET AS BEST YOU CAN.

[jeankipper]

Everything you say is true. Lots of reading, lots of study, lots of videos. And still I find trust so incredibly difficult.

[susanmercurio]

If you stand up for yourself and enforce your boundaries, the narcissist will be sooo insulted, because you are acting like you are as important as they are, and they don't believe that.

[lzwjxsj]

“Anyone who tries to take your dignity is a thief” great wrap up! 👍👍👍👍

[flightydancer]

I walked away shattered, not by the narcissist, but my self-punishing insanity. I wade in my broken self, inner violence and endless tears. I stop wanting to be close to anyone. I lost myself. Anyone who think they can do anything they want and don't care about how they affect others don't have any conscience.

[SusieAspen]

The devil’s attacks are fierce, but I’m shielded by a higher power.

[andreastevens]

My marriage of 17 years was so abusive. I finally left with my life nothing else.