5 Subtle Signs that You Are Actually Codependent

In this video, I uncover the 5 subtle signs of codependency that you may not even realize are affecting your life and relationships. Codependency is a behavioral pattern where you rely too heavily on others for emotional support, validation, and even your sense of self. It often means putting the needs, desires, or problems of others ahead of your own, leading to self-abandonment. These behaviours can be subtle and hard to recognize, but understanding them is the key to finding freedom, happiness, and peace.

You'll learn how to identify if you're struggling with codependency in this talk. Recognizing these patterns is the first step towards building healthier, more balanced relationships and a stronger sense of self.

If you want to break free from these patterns and build a more authentic, fulfilling life, this video is for you!

Watch now and start your journey to breaking the cycle of codependency!

Keywords: Codependency, signs of codependency, emotional support, validation, self-worth, personal growth, healthy relationships, break free from codependency, self-improvement, mental health tips.

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Julia Kristina, MA, is a speaker, teacher, master therapist and mental wealth coach who helps smart, highly sensitive, heart centred humans get past anxiety, stress, and self-doubt so they can have better: Better relationships, a better life and feel better about themselves.

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[conedawg]

I used to struggle with this. I felt obligated to please my parents, church family and ex wife. I did find value in myself and thrived off of it for a period of time. I never done much for myself with self love and self care. This is why I was attracted to my narcissistic ex wife at that time. I finally woke up from all of it and learned how to set boundaries with everyone around me. I’m much happier now and don’t feel the pressure of people pleasing. I don’t need that validation from others anymore.

[laurenl]

Thanks! ❤ I see some of these signs in me as a recovering people pleaser.

[katec]

Hi, I’m new(ish) here too. Always feeling like it’s something I’ve done resonated a lot.

[edwardboyle]

Really brings tears to my eyes. Julia helps open my eyes . I relate to this video. You are bar none Julia. The best of the best.😂

[MandyB-jxzm]

100% codependant here, got sober from that 2 months ago....however I still have self doubt. I am a sigma female who is very independent, self made, lone wolf. However, I'm a healer and of service so if someone comes near me I automatically take them on as my responsibility and care for them. I'm 2 days into a divine intervention from my higher power connected to my health not well last weekend, and I've been receiving only (not giving) for 2 days. However I felt rejected by a client and spun out in self doubt...that's when I found your video. Thank you so much!!! XOXO

[johnfarago]

All of them.
Thanks for bringing this subject back up. I'm feeling these less but still experiencing them.
Getting your 6 tips.
Thanks again Julia. Your videos always help!

[Nidhi.Kapoor]

This video really hit home for me. I didn’t even realize some of the behaviors you mentioned were linked to codependency. It's eye-opening how subtle those signs can be, especially when you're so focused on taking care of others that you lose sight of your own needs. Thank you for shedding light on this topic! Looking forward to more videos that help with emotional growth and self-awareness.

[amill]

I grew up this way. Hopefully less so now. I can see now that my therapist never told me this and I think he should have. I can imagine growing up with very low self worth is the major contributor.

[lesliengo]

After learning about codependency, not only am I am able to identity and work on combating codependency in me, I am also able to identify codependency traits in others. I used to outsource my sense of self and validation from my parents, teachers, mentors, etc. and would get upset if I disappoint anyone. I believe codependency heavily stems from people pleasing, which I engaged in a lot. Now I feel more in control of my life and how I want to think about myself.

[NFSMAN]

Helloo Julia!! Happy Thursday friend, hope you are well.
Thank you for this video. I was guilty of being codependent in my younger years, but i'm overcoming it.

[FloridaGulfCoastLife]

Once again Julia, thank you 🙏. I can see some signs growing up, religion habits and expectations from family members. As I am on my recovery journey from narcissistic abuse, childhood emotional neglect, and other traumatic events, I come to see more signs after these traumas.
Thank you for always sharing very impactful content.
Now, to get to work.

[chrisdigitalartist]

My thoughts and notes on Julia’s YouTube video (09/05/24):
5 Subtle Signs That You Are Actually Codependent.

WHAT CONNECTED WITH ME:
One area that I used to struggle a lot with was with number 2. I used to want to seek validation from others especially, always wanting to seek a compliment and to look for others to make me feel good, worthy and valued.
One example was after a crush broke my heart, I called up her friend and wanted to seek validation (Am I attractive enough?) But looking back, I can see just how I was in a mental mindset compared to where I am now. Since being a Shifter, I have done TONS of work on myself. I repeated to myself that I am worthy and valued. I can love and accept myself just as I am right now. That mindset has created an inner confidence. Doesn’t mean I still don’t have moments or days that I don’t feel my best or believe in myself, but hardly look for external validation now. It feels so freeing!

My Notes:

1. You have difficulty saying "No":
You will push through, take on more and help someone to please them and not want to disappoint them.

2. You find yourself seeking a lot of validation from others:
You look to others to assess and evaluate whether or not you are good enough, smart enough, confident enough, capable enough, interesting enough and attractive enough.

3. You have a really hard time making decisions:
It can be small decisions (which flavor drink you want or food menu item) and you may fear that you will make the "wrong" decision or fear of disappointing others with your decisions. (Different from crowdsourcing.)

4. You struggle a lot with second guessing yourself:
You are afraid you may make the "wrong" decision and worry that you may disappoint others if you made the wrong decision. Even if your decision has nothing to do with others, you value their opinions more than your own.

5. You think everything is your fault:
If something goes wrong, even with a group effort, you think it is because of something you did. If something goes wrong in the relationship, you may blame yourself.

[mayibongwedube]

Really love your videos. I first came across the one about other people's judgement.

I'm guilty of a lot of the stuff you mentioned. So obsessed with not doing anything that would get the disapproval of others. I'm really loving your material.

[allheartandsong]

I get how I'm doing all of these things, but I dont understand HOW TO stop.

[CrAZychicke]

Yep, this is so me. I am working on this in therapy.

[amill]

All the damage sustained in childhood must have created a certain kind of humor within myself. Perhaps even creating me to be an INFJ.

[bleedingkansai]

I intensely struggle with all of these. It's debilitating.

[joekido]

Could having narcissistic parents and being criticized bring on symptoms of Codependency in their child? I connect with all of them..thank you

[banthatracks_gaffisticks]

I thought it said competent. That's why I clicked on it. Haha.
Will you do a video on how to know if you're competent?

[yukifeline]

Can you make a video about fear of not being believed? It’s hard to find videos talking about that.