Why Good Men Must Have Strong Boundaries In Their Marriages | The Happy Wife School Show Ep. 56

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[Steverz]

Great show Karen, I Made the mistake in my 1st marriage allowing Her to re connect with a high school boyfriend from 40 years ago.I Really should thank him for taking her & allowing me to have a loving wife to replace her.

[adamsims]

All I want is for my wife to be Happy healthy mentally and physically. And I realize now that there isn't anything I will ever do that will make her happy. So I'll just keep on doing what I have to do taking care of the house and us. I'll continue to be as supportive and helpful as I can to the process.

[majorsam]

Another great video, Karyn. My wife has taken vacations with her girlfriends in the past. I got the ‘look’ when I asked her if I could come along… Sure didn’t feel right at the time. I held things together for as long as I could, for sake of our children. Then she asked for a divorce after our youngest went off to college. The cost has been very high, but here I am, and the kids (as far as I can tell) are with me.

[Wandererkryw]

My comment is unrelated to this exact video but i just wanted to give a perspective that i have now. Since awakening to this all i see now is the truth of most women. Almost all the women around me focus on problems. All of the faults of our partners as if they are supposed to be super human. We have so many faults of our own and yet find problems in every solution. Even with women towards other women. At work, i work at a hospital, if i tell a woman something i think is a solution or helpful, damn near everytime they will find a problem in it where there isnt one to be had. It is my karma to experience this and must be so madening for men. It could all be so SIMPLE.

[Darren]

This channel has to be in the top 3 for the best information on Youtube. Outstanding👍👍🇭🇲🇭🇲

[thebiharivoice]

Hi Karyn, while you have said there is no way to save such marriages, which is very pessimistic, I would like to offer a different opinion. The marriage can be saved if the man recognizes his masculine self and starts living life such that it becomes clear to his wife that whether she stays or leaves, the husband is unbothered. For a man, being completely untethered to his wife's emotions, not reacting emotionally, being in his masculine logical and STOIC self, and focusing on his own life goals is the key.

[Wayne-modv]

IHAD TO LEAVE SHE GAS LIT ME FOR YEARS THE LAST STRAW WAS HER ADULTRY. SHE DID EVERY THING YOR AMAZING VIDEOS SAY. THANK YOU IT TOOK A LONG TIME TO RECOVER

[freddierodriguez]

I’ve been binging your videos for the last few days. After years of listening and watching other “experts” this is the first time I hear anything pinpointing with almost psychic precision what’s been happening to me. Our marriage has failed and still as I’ve listened to your videos I think to myself, “maybe she would change if she hears this.” But she hasn’t even taken the steps of seeking help from anyone else even through traditional ways. I’ve been so flexible because I love my child and I don’t want to spend a second away from him. I would almost rather not exist than to do anything that hurts him. As strong as I want to be he is my kryptonite.

[SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

I was gaslit for some of these things before my wife filed for divorce. Karyn knows what she's talking about!

[jwv]

If I could foresee how things were to unfold, I would have offered to help pack her suitcases 12 years ago when the first threat to our marriage was evident, instead I opted to jump through hoops to gain approval. The hoops got further and further apart, I got to a point where I had no choice but to give up, as I had lost myself. I lacked boundaries that defined me as separate from her, she became me and I became her. It sounds a little messed up, because that is what it was.

[thebiharivoice]

Hi Karyn, Boundaries are only effective when they can be enforced. A husband cannot physically stop wife from going anywhere, meeting or calling anyone and doing anything she wants. If he tries, in western society, women can call the police at the drop of a hat, and the husband will be removed from the house ( talk about humiliation). Husbands have no agency and no authority. Its a loose loose game. The only power husbands have is to file for D. And many of us do not see that as an option and we are leading lives of quiet desperation.

[dovuga]

Hi, Karen, love your show and everything you are doing, its been a real life help when i found your channel, God bless you and your family, if you could please explain gaslighting, how it works, because it's been happening between me and my wife, thank you

[ronpreece]

Sunny in Vancouver BC love your school

[Bourgman]

Watch out for platonic friendships with other females that get really close as well. There have been same-sex infidelity stories as well. Not saying you shouldn't let your wife have any friends, obviously, but just keep your eyes open.

[Bourgman]

Karen, I just started on your stuff a couple weeks ago. You describe my wife's conduct amazingly, but I need to believe that not EVERY woman shares these "woman ways." Surely there's some variance among newlywed women.

[TephaRhi]

Wife or husband, you’ll only see a change in your marriage by changing yourself and how you relate to your spouse. It’s never hopeless because you can change.

[marcwhite]

Would love to follow your friends podcast but can’t find it.

[orangeandslinky]

If a man is willing to lay down the law of the land as you say, he will be in jail under current family laws of the land. If someday you hope your kids will see the truth, just spare them and you and don't ever get married.

[moxenman]

I was gone when she went on vacation without asking me beforehand.

[filmjunkie]

Love your informational videos. However, marriage seems 100 times harder than solving Rubik’s Cube blindfolded 😬