These traits will get you the relationship you've always wanted

Order my books:
"How To Be The Love You Seek"
"How to Meet Yourself"
"How to Do the Work"

How to attract a healthy person
These traits will get you the relationship you've always wanted

Keypoints:
0:00 Intro How to attract a healthy person
0:20 Understanding complex trauma
2:16 Emotionally healthy people
2:56 Leaving dysfunctional relationships
3:17 Picking healthy partnership
4:11 Self-worth
4:43 Traits to attract a healthy person
4:51 Have clear values
6:19 Take care of yourself
7:01 Unrevealed anger
8:14 Put yourself out there
9:21 Give people a chance
10:00 Share in the comments: which of these traits do you already see in yourself? Which onces will you continue to work on?

#healthyrelationships #selflove #selflovejourney #attractlove #personalgrowth

[shafaqnoor]

Unresolved anger hit me. Because my therapist said you are passive aggressive and have repressed anger in you. I was shocked to hear that. Because I never realized that also always though I don't get angry. So really need to work on this.

[melindaferreira]

Why did no one ever teach me this? I needed this 30 years ago... I realize I have a lot of unresolved anger. Thank you for teaching what you teach. Still learning at 54.

[smileyface]

This is so validating and encouraging! I am in my first healthy relationship after being single for over a decade. A lot of healing has taken place since then, especially in the last 4 years. I feel like i have clear values, take care of myself, have forgiven myself and made peace with my past, etc. When I met my current partner, it wasn't butterflies initially and she wasn't my usual "type", but that was such a good thing! I had made a list of all the things i was lookiing for in a partner and the kinds of people i would no longer date, based on my past trauma. I realised she didn't have any of my non-negotiable red flags and would logically make a lot of sense to date. I opened myself up to dating her and our chemistry and connection has only deepened with time. It's still early days, but this is the healthiest relationship I've ever been in. I think we both bring out the best in each other.

[duke]

I’m so tired of having to put so much work into improving myself. It’s overwhelming to have to teach myself every basic life skill that other people take for granted.

[ifiwasamagpie]

I'm currently working on my unprocessed anger, getting comfortable sitting in uncomfortable emotions, and my bedtime routine, and financial freedom.

[CallyBailey]

I love the part where you talk about you attract the traits you become - everything is energy, and like attracts like. It's like the saying "treat others how you want to be treated" but instead, we look at it as "treat OURSELVES the way we want to be treated". How would you want someone else to respond to you when you're struggling? Treat yourself that way, and watch what happens 💕 thanks so much for this

[mb-sktq]

Some people are carrying a lot of unresolved fear, not anger. Either or both emotions can stem from life traumas and lead someone to remain stuck in unhealthy relationship dynamics or have a ‘bad picker’.

[annagramm]

I see the red flags but then I rationalize and "maybe I`m too sensitive" anyway. Trying to rescue (emotional not available) women is my thing. This channel is so helpful 🌱

[danajohnson]

For me, it is allowing people in. On one hand I want to allow people in. On the other hand, the winning hand, I love my peaceful life. I am 54 and have only ever known trauma in relationships. I have spent the last 5 years working on my CPTSD. I find it so hard to invite anyone into my new found peace.

[msbg]

I grew up with narc parents who had an absolute awful marriage. Had a history of dating partners with emotional issues, went to therapy for two years prior to dating again. Here I am once again in a relationship with a self centered emotionally unavailable person who miss treats me often I must say I have gotten better at expressing my needs which I am proud off but I ignored lots of red flags in the beginning. Now they are waving red flags and I am planning my exit, this can be an exhausting journey but I am still optimistic I will find love or still be happy if I dont.

[bestever]

Met someone who is the opposite of my type, but after three months I suddenly started seeing their inner qualities and realised they are a really really great person

[BlueHippieGoddess]

I swear I was crying about this earlier. So funny u posted this today. I needed it.

[AstOak]

I commit to take care of myself <3 Honoring my boundaries and prioritize my own health, before I help other people.

[racheldesimone]

I also thought I did not have anger to resolve. Also said, my 'picker' is broke 😂 I realized that I picked based on 'does not do the damaging thing the last ex did', but didn't do the work to look further into their compatibility and values.
Definitely chased the high of new relationships, not thinking ahead to what happens when that high wears off

[LPRH]

Yes work on yourself and just be content with ones own self

[bmae]

I really like the advice to have clear values and to live them. I will be making this my focus. Thank you!!

[A.K-hp]

I am grateful for your tone and delivery of information. You are Wonderful. Thank you!!

[cristinachaliandroi]

Clear values:love, affection, support, and fun

[wellingtonsboots]

My problem lies with thinking that I'm going to get hurt again.

[yeahyeahyeah]

I need to committ to having clear values