What Women Actually Find Attractive In Men

What Women Actually Find Attractive In Men

[katekeepsitreal]

went to a bar once where a married man, was trying to flirt with me and my friends, I pretended to give into what he was saying and asked him for his phone so I can put my “phone number.” I texted his wife the situation and 30 minutes later she showed up, smacked him across the face and took him home.

[motorola]

There was a girl at my work who liked me and I liked her, but I was always nervous around her. Well we went out with some members from the office one day and I'm not a big drinker so I bought a beer to calm my nerves. That one beer made me entirely too tipsy and she gently took the beer out of my hand, and told me that I don't need that to talk to her. And she walked me to my car and we sat in my car and just talked for around 3 hours while came down from my tipsyness. That was 15yrs ago and I still remember it.

[lasshrugged]

I agree that drinking to excess is not a worthy quality and not something you should want to bring to a relationship.

But I also think that we shouldn't pursue a life partner based on attraction. Choosing a life partner is perhaps the single most important decision you can make in life. The only thing that should matter is if you are both directed toward the same purpose or goal in life (grounded in shared values). Nothing else really matters.

To be clear, if you define attraction as "that which is aligned to my values, " I think that is fine (as is the case in this video, drinking to excess demonstrates behaviour not in line with their values). But it (attraction) has to be something more than a subjective feeling because feelings are rarely a reliable long-term indicator of anything.

[kevindabbs]

How do you feel after we sober up, were not perfect .

[trenchcoatmafioso]

I stopped drinking, and dating, to better myself. Both are a waste of money and will drag you down.

[charlenesorley]

In the initial stages of dating or whatever i can see it being a turn off but if its a rare occurrence and he's not fundamentally different when drunk i have no problem.

I think a reason it can be a turn off is a drunk guy isn't a very good protector no matter how he acts when drunk. If I were to go out with a guy to a bar, event, or restaurant and he gets drunk without us already having planned for that it could make me feel insecure like I'm now in charge of looking out for us in terms of sketchy people, how we're getting home, how he's acting, etc.

If before going out you talk as a couple about expectations as far as who is the driver and how tipsy/drunk is okay then there shouldn't be an issue. Husband and I do this where one of us knows they're the driver and the other has a limit on how tipsy/drunk is too much and because we respect each other and take turns it hasn't been an issue.

[gk]

As a Christian we shouldnt be drinking at all. It’s so bothersome when other Christian’s say they don’t get drunk but you still drink and open up a door to something worse. This is why I don’t watch girls gone Bible. They have a lot of work to do.

[jqfzcob]

I call bullshit. What what women say and what they actually respond to are often in competition with each other. Every woman says she wants caring, sober, blah blah blah, but who do they actually date…..yeah.