How to Connect to Anyone | Soraya Morgan Gutman | TEDxWilmingtonWomen

In this dramatic presentation Soraya explores the diversity of human personalities and cultures, simplifying them into 2 basic types.
Soraya developed her ability to teach others to connect by doing it herself, out of necessity. She learned how to connect with "big picture" lovers of change as well as detailed, systematic people. Connecting to others is as simple as recognizing the nature of another person and then mirroring the preferences of their personality.

Soraya founded, grew and sold her business advisory firm, Morgan Business Solutions. As President of Brand Launcher she focuses on helping entrepreneurs and C-level Executives thrive by increasing sales and employee productivity. Soraya won the 2016 New Castle Chamber of Commerce Speakers Award and is a top ranked speaker for The NJ Association for Women Business Owners, The U.S. Military,
Leadership Delaware and the Delaware Youth Leadership Network. Having lived and worked during political, economic and social turmoil in England, Germany, Egypt and Turkey, Soraya has a deep understanding of the challenges business owners face during all economic climates.

[geoffas]

The differences in her family's behaviours also reminded me of the difference between Italians and Scandinavians. Romance language vs Germanic language. Mediterranean vs Northern European. Sunny weather vs cloudy weather. And so on.

[iamgraceyeo]

How does this video not have more views? That was such a moving and inspirational speech. Thank you for the practical advice and vulnerability Soraya

[and__lam]

Connect with people with active listening and being authentic

[s.h.]

How to connect
1. CAD - Connect authanticly with disarming .
Eg . Clipathra - she wasn't a native . She was very educated or she invested in herself . And she protected people from attackers .
2. How people act, behave, words you use, body language, mentality, comfort zones, how they deal and percieve facts or dreams or goals, etc .
3. Connect with people in real time from point 2 .
4. Human nature -- Safety comes with being with same minded people .
Growth takes place when you are not safe .
5. Most powerful connecting word --" because " as it gives totally good or bad message to the other person .
Eg. Thankyou prachi . Because of you i was able to do it .


How to sustain that
1. Be authantic .
Strategy :: focus on your common goal and commanalities .
2. You can disarm someone by body language, yor humbleness . And by using this powerful word and say these words only when you know are authantuc and true to yourself -- "i may be wrong" "shared activities" not just because you have to but because you want to . Eg . Family visit on holidays and festivals "-- you can say all these things in different ways . Eg . Lets talk about it again in that cafe .

[Caroline-rtqx]

I am not German and need structure and goals too. Latina here

[darhemceniza]

Great delivery of the message. She made it personal by citing examples about her family. Someone many instances also came to me where I could have connected better with people. Brilliant! Thank you!

[romeovelasco]

There is a better way to love your neighbor as yourself, its loving others the way Jesus loved you....

[victorking]

Wow! This is one of the most riveting, moving, inspirational & authentic talks I've ever experienced. Utterly brilliant... . Thank you so much Soraya for being so open whilst teaching & sharing so genuously because the message your lesson brings is essentially so fundamentally important to our humanity, spiritual selves & hapPiness. .

Your family & you are marvellous living proof of how, irrespective of our differences, we can all learn, grow & thrive harmoniously together in a spirit of Love.
God is Love.
Let's stay connected...
Namaste

[Susicruzz]

Sorry but as a chinese born in Germany, this whole talk is based on stereotypes. Which simply doesn’t work that easy. There are many german comedians and as myself living and traveling in a van doesn’t make me necessarily a planful person . You connect through authenticity. everything else is connecting on a superficial base..

[khale]

I am an engineer, I am extremely detail oriented and stiff. I want to be more like Egyptians.

[caitlincraighead]

I like the idea behind this, but think it might be more inviting to all listeners if the “German” and “Egyptian” labels could be “emotion based” and “logic based” instead. I feel like this change would also prevent placing definitive character descriptions on all people from a single heritage. These character traits are not limited to single ethnicities. Just think it is applicable on a broader scale, related to someone’s life experience rather than solely based on their race or heritage.

[merphmain]

Thank you for sharing such a powerful experience. Life changing information. Thank you. 🙏🙏🙏

[notagain]

اللهم اغفر لوالدي و ارحمه ، May Allah have mercy
on my dad, losing a family
Member changes us in ways no one can predict ... This talk shows how its possible to stay strong, than you

[amorascottREDC]

Wow! I so enjoyed Soraya... She is beautiful inside and out! Kindly, Amora

[vii]

Great speech, I learned so much from her... Will listen it again and again!
It is really very useful in any situation: work, business, sales, presentations, friendships... Connecting to others is as simple as recognizing the nature of another person and then mirroring the preferences of their personality, also using a lot of humor, unexpected and a bit outrages turns

[goodintentions]

If only it was this simple. I enjoyed the talk yet when someone is set on disliking you, "because you're skinny" (... Normal weight on weight chart) before they even meet you, it's a real struggle.

[lowxyy]

You should reach the same level of the person you talking with so they can feel comfortable with you and that’s how we connect

[MiCHUNT]

Decided to experiment: watching the last 5 minutes of Ted talks; I may be wrong.Listen, observe,   find a way to "break the ice", "disarm", be authentic.

[eilsmile]

Fabulous lady giving genuine good human advice for us

[rachelklein]

This was excellent! Thank you for opening my mind up to the difference in humans. I feel the need to go see my mother but it’s 1 in the morning. She is a German and I am an Egyptian