It’s so hard to heal some days💔 #cptsd #trauma #hypervigilance #childhoodtrauma

[johnjohnstone]

Trying to live up to outside expectations, while living with unseen, invalidated, untreated wounds, and then being criticized for poor performance and then turning around and judging yourself, I think that about sums it up.

[xiqueira]

So true. The little hurt kid is doing their best to be the nurturing adult to their kids while still wounded. So true.

[allwellandgood]

It is a contiual juggle. The shame I feel in those moments when I do act like the parent I'm trying so hard not to be 🙏

[JDforeveralone]

It was. Overwhelming.
And still trying to come to terms with everything that happened.
How I was part in messing up my own kids.
Not having realised that I had those wounds - just always felt “special” not like other ppl.
Healing??? I don’t even know how to start or where to begin or if I deserve to feel “normal”
It was … just everything falling together.

Ps u summoned it up so well in just a minute - yet give me stuff to think about for days on end….

[dscrerar]

The hardest part for me is being unable to ever get answers to my questions as a child, or as an adult. I've learned to accept the things I cannot change and to try to let go. It's a work in progress, and it never quite leaves me. I try my best to be the parent that I wanted as a child. I'm the best parent that I can be for my child. I also respect my inner child. ❤

[BigHeartNoBS]

Meditation helps keep me calm. Same with regular exercise. Some people should never be parents. Thank you for your content. ❤ I appreciate you.

[DrKimSage]

Which parts have been most difficult for you?💔❤️🙏🏻

[amyawalyn]

Thank you so much for your content! Whenever you talk, I literally feel so much Resonation with you. I feel less alone and that you absolutely understand it really does make a difference. Thank you.

[snowyowlz]

Kim you’re so right, I would add if there are medical “complications” stemming from the childhood trauma in the equation, it is a roller coaster ride that is wicked.

[NoraSelf]

Hi dear Kim! Can you speak a bit more about ways to set boundaries and limits for children and pets in a loving way, when you're still healing and struggle with guilt and confusion around these topics?

[TaylorFamFeelosophy]

Hey Sis..just told my children...my past and what you know about my loss has nothing to do with the lack of consistency/lack thereof, i receive from my children. I see you. #parentinglevelsallofus

[pauladuncanadams]

So hard to hold back the tide, yes. And then you stuff, which isn't good either.

[Coexistwithmyfist]

Yea, one of the biggest thing I don't want to do is tell a person what my mom told me. "You set yourself up for it" this was after I got sexually violated. Idc if they were on drugs, (I admit I was), you do NOT tell anyone that!

[obscuriosities]

This is very well articulated, & true also (I mean it usually overlaps w cPTSD esp in adults, how could u not have it) of the “2nd puberty” process trans people go through transitioning in adulthood. It just oft comes w the physiological relearning side as well.