What The REAL Cause Of Your Anxiety Is - With Dr Gabor Maté

Dr Gabor Maté explains how he believes that most mental health disorders - including Anxiety and Panic Attacks - originate in childhood experience as coping mechanisms.

He also explains how revisiting the real cause of the problem can help you overcome it.

Gabor is a renowned expert in mind-body health, addiction, stress and childhood trauma.

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#anxiety

[MsBaruschka]

Anyone else is REALLY calmed down by his voice?

[sukran]

“All mental health disorders originate as a coping mechanism” This is a truly self respect boosting statement. It’s also enormously relieving.

[maximeb]

After dealing with generalized anxiety and chronic pain for the past 9 years, I have to admit that this man is hitting the nail right on the head by presenting chronic anxiety as childhood coping mechanism. I've learned very late in this process after years of medication, cognitive-behavioural therapy and meditation, that the most relief I've come to feel was when I finally allowed myself to cry when I couldn't contain the suffering anymore. Since then I've discovered that whenever I feel the pain or anxiety creep up, if I can actually get in the proper mindstate and let go, tears will start pouring down, and I observe the pain and anxiety melt away as a result. The child in me is freaking out and needs to feel heard and comforted. Any negative emotion that is repressed and not allowed to be expressed outwards in an healthy manner will turn inward, compress, and start damaging you from the inside until it is finally allowed to come out and be released. I've come to realize you can store these unresolved feelings for years, decades... and when they finally come out, it's as if they were never altered, they are still perfectly intact... or worst, but time has never got them to shrink. Slowly and surely opening up to a therapist was one of the greatest contributing factor, as the therapist's role in this context was to provide my the relationship and care that my parents didn't know how to provide in order to finally heal those childhood, and then lifelong wounds.

Time doesn't heal all wounds. Time + conscious and voluntary attention and care will heal all wounds. Time itself has no power, since it is a relative illusion.

[Tierneycristian]

I could remember several years ago, heroin addiction actually destroyed my life. I suffered severe anxiety and mental disorder. Not until my wife recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms.

[anagcbr]

I’m so glad I didn’t listen to people who told me to let my daughter cry it out and not to pick her up when she wanted to be in arms, or she didn’t want to fall asleep alone in her room, until now she’s 5 and sometimes she asks me to stay with her and read for her until she falls asleep, and I am there. Always to reassure her that I will never deny her from love. I stayed home with her until 2 years old and started nursery step by step during adaptation process, she didn’t cry because she felt safe. It makes me feel, it was the right choice.

[claudelebel]

One of the things that struck me when I went to Ecuador in the 1980s was that you rarely heard a child crying because they are always in somebody's arms, a big sister or other and not alone in their room or in a pram. Modern people can be so dumb. A crying child is one who needs to be reassured, picked up and held.

[akkamiau]

this "do not pick up the kids when they are crying" effected and fucked up the whole generations... so true...

[MaruErnekr]

I suffered the borderline disorder for over 23 years, with so much anxiety not until I came across psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment actually saved my life honestly. 6 years totally clean.
Never thought I would be saying this about mushrooms

[pinkstaaa]

Wow I never viewed mental health concerns as coping mechanisms before but it makes perfect sense. Anxiety is rooted in a lack of genuine human connection.

[lisavandervelde]

Great interviewer too. Asked the question and listened to the response without interrupting.

[tinytica]

I am 32 years old. As a child (and even as we got older) my brother always made fun of me, and embarrassed me in front of our friends. He used me as a clutch to feel better about himself, to feel superior, because he was my older brother and I looked up to him. He always made me cry, made me feel bad about myself. I grew up insecure and anxious.


It took me years to understand that all along, I was the strong one, and he was the weak one. He is the source of my anxiety, and I dont know how to get rid of it even after discovering this :(

[KRAZEEIZATION]

This guy is the Al Pacino of self help!

[wherethereslifethereshope]

"In a society that makes people more isolated all the time, where human social contact is replaced by the rather cold and impersonal world of the internet and when...young people have less opportunity for meaningful employment and belonging and a sense of purpose than their parent used to, there's more genuine threat" [Gabor Mate, 2019]

#lockdown2020

[somerandomyoutubechannel]

I used to have severe anxiety, with some bad panic attacks. Eventually, a doctor discovered I was not absorbing iron well, which led to testing and diagnosis for Celiacs disease. It is definitely worth making sure there isn't a medical issue going on that has nothing to do with psychology.

[greeleymiklashek]

Most "anxiety" is produced by stressors in our man-made physical environment, and our "hurry-up" lifestyle causes us to become addicted to our own stress hormones and live "stressed-out" anxious lives. Stress R Us

[andynixon]

He's right . The two people who could have been comforting as a kid were emotionally explosive and sometimes violent, definitely not a source of comfort. Even in my 50s this still effects me now .

[trinitytwo]

How I wish I had found Dr. Mate 30 years ago, he is so compassionate and insightful. Not like 99% of Doctors who just slap a label on someone, try to drug them and send away, they dont give too hoots.

[patrickboudreau]

I was admited to the hospital at 4yo for kidney desease. I was in a room where no one could enter for a few weeks. Years later, my father told me that after i came back home, i was changed and never let my mother touch me again. I grew up an adult with a love hate relationship with my mother for a number of reasons. Now, 53, i have uncontrolable anxiety attacks and i even have a psychotic episode about 5 years ago right after my mother threatened to disown me…it lasted two weeks. Parent son relationship deffinately is important for mental health of adults.

[izawaniek]

It only lasts 4 minutes and explains a lifetime of struggle. Brilliant. Thank you ❤

[joesmith-wcqh]

So my stepson came to me with anxiety issues, he was 24 at the time, he was having panic attacks. Now when your between 18 to 30 your body is still in development, your still growing. Some develop early some late. At its most basic description anxiety is the most primitive form of self defense its a chemical reaction you have when your in danger. If you were walking along and you fell into an open pit and there was a tiger down there with you, anxiety would immediately kick in, its a primal survival function, your anxiety protects you. Now while your still developing your anxiety will randomly go off for no reason or something will trigger it. Now when that happens I want you to access your situation and be awear of your surroundings, its a false alarm, like a fire bell going off in a building where the alarms are being tested, you know there was a planned drill, there is no fire, so calmly just walk towards the exit. I hope this helps someone ❤