Winning A Custody Battle | Four Things You Must Do

With divorces comes another inevitable battle - getting custody of your child/ren. As a former custody examiner for the court, I've picked up several pointers on how to face this difficult and trying time. In this video, I'll be discussing FOUR tips on what you can do for you and your child/ren during a custody battle.

00:18 Two worlds
01:40 Number one factor that creates negative outcomes for children in divorce
03:50 Be authentic
05:28 Be nice
07:09 Be focused on the kids
08:51 Be a good parent

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[zoepetersen]

The court isn't in the child's best interest at all. The court legalises child abuse

[eponymoususer]

You’re right. This is the right response. Courts don’t usually care about the Children’s best interests. They’re still treating child custody as a division of property.

[jumpinggakflash]

The court is the main driver of the conflict between parents because it's all set up like a game where, if you have enough money to do so, you can be a "winner who takes all." The best interests of the child standard is anything but. We need family court reform.

[DavidBaronStevensPersonal]

I dig the idea of treating court as a 'job interview' to be your kid's parents.

It'sa hard pill to swallow but it's the truth.

[Asriel]

Unfortunately I've got an ex that does not want to work at parenting, seriously I'm so sick of it, all he wants to do is win, I just want to see my kids

[Siege]

"I never ask a child which parent do you want to live with. That's such an unfair question."

What about when one parent is an unpredictable, lying narcissist that the children want to get away from?

[DavidBaronStevensPersonal]

This is great advice sir. Thank you for sharing such valuable knowledge for free.

I'm representing myself in the UK as a Litigant in Person. Every bit of advice I try to apply, because I'm the only one speaking for my child.

Judges see disingenuous people all day. Be genuine, defend your kids, even if you have to lose a bit. A good judge knows that a parent will give up what is theirs to save their child, not unlike the biblical story of Solomon and the two mothers.

A parent that puts "me first" at the cost of the child will lose every time.

[jans]

The judge and evaluators don't care about the child. And if you're dealing with a mother who is emotionally and physically abusing the child they don't care and won't react. You can "co-parent" with a narcissistic psychopath and they will still advice you to "get along". I've been through this and am shocked at how little they actually care about the child. In my case I have 50 % / 50 % custody but it comes after two years of battle where the covert narcissist mother has launched all kinds of false allegations. Anyone could see it's false allegations but they don't care. And my daughter has to be exposed to it 50 % of the time.

[Knightfelled]

I grew up in this environment after my mother and father separated at an early age and both of them used myself, brother and sister as ammunition on the other and as a result I can't stand and don't want to speak to both of them

[LivingBGLegend]

I abstained from litigation to spare Hope the trauma and pain. When with hope I provide drama free environments, wherever we go because she’s my little princess and somewhere in it is a deep father daughter connection and I hurt and can’t sleep if she is she I just want to see her without outsiders, I want it to be natural as she deserves that. We have so much to talk about in terms of everything except the stuff me and her mom went through

[angelalopez]

My daughter’s husband abused her and yielded at her and the baby and now she has to put up with the family court judge who wanted him to be part of the baby, he was the one who abused them, who left them . Not sure about this law. Why the stupid court decides who the baby supposed to be with. No wonder why those guys continue abusing those kids and women

[jaygrist]

Thankyou for uploading this episode, I am currently building my new home for myself and for the visits of my kids, I'm in good relations with the children's mother and we're both working flat out to make a realistic safe & happy home environment for them, at mum's and dad's houses, I like the way you objectively see the transitions of positive change for the children to & how they see the entirety of the new concepts available, all is well, very busy as you can appreciate, thanks again, respect, best wishes, J❤

[robertcoltrain]

The court incentivizes lying by rewarding custody to the lying parent. It is incentivized by failure to punish. Of of the parent being lied about gets pissed. Until lawyers and their clients are severely punished for this activity, it will continue.

[LivingBGLegend]

I liked the ad, watched a minute of it, she said my name and I don’t hear that often from a woman as I’ve stayed single

[shannonshort]

I'm fighting my own sister in court right now and I've done everything. I had another child with the same woman and we have our youngest kid but not our oldest kid. I pray we get our oldest kid back. My sister is getting us with 600 a month in child support.

[nicolesnyder]

NOBODY “WINS” in a custody battle, Sir. This sick belief is what is destroying these children s lives. Shame on you.

[wanderingjooh]

Thanks, you are helping.
I APPRECIATE your time.

[venessariley]

Thank you for sharing these tips, I have hired a lawyer form David Phillips Law and they are truly one of the best!

[ocdraridrogonel]

The judge is just a referee, the judge is AUTOMATICALLY supposed to give 50/50 custody pursuant to the US CONSTITUTION.

The reason there is so much conflict cause the judge is giving automatically giving one parent more parental access to the child than the other, if both parents have 50/50 then what ever the child does with each parent would be just that and there would be a limited amount of conflict between the parents because there would not be able to be argument on when the child is with each parent.

The only conflict would be if one parent is showing abuse towards the child! The court system is a joke and bias towards one party as well HARMFUL and PREJUDICIAL!

[Nyc]

I’m in court right now don’t understand how, me and my fiancé told her mother we going in the army a couple weeks later we drop my 2year off to see her for 2hours, she locks the doors wouldn’t give our son back we call cops they do nothing tell us go to court, we in court and judge is letting my 2year stay with her when he’s lived with me and my fiancé at my moms house he only met my fiancé mom 4times just corrupt judge at this point