Healing the Puer Aeternus (Peter Pan) Syndrome & Finding Wholeness

[marilynwarbis]

To act from our spirit involves bypassing the mind and the things of the mind. To act from our spirit is a different way of being from the mental thinking about art and philosophy. In order to avoid the trap of living solely from our thoughts, we must act. Not from a sense of duty, or because we need money to live, but from our inner essence and spirit. That can feel naughty, like a rebellion against thought and convention, but it is entirely good and therapeutic, the only way to live.

[orbiuminnovo]

The tone of the message that I got from the man was 'learned helplessness'. His dream sounded more like he wanted some sense of control over his life, and to follow a direction that he approved, not one that he was told to follow. Which while common, can be corrected, even if it's difficult. Perhaps he was trying to appease ppl in his life yet deep down resented them and that feeling grew to become inward anger, or the feeling that his inner child 'died' at the expense of growing up. Like you said, you have to integrate the inner child and make a decision to heal and find your own path.

[sasankasrinivas]

What this man describes is extremely common, he 's just articulated it while others don't.

Men have pressures to conform and "grow up", so many abandon their true interest and predispositions to avoid being ridiculed as "childish".

[davidbriones]

Hi, great video! I am a Puer Eternus who is looking to reach adulthood, maturity. So the solution to heal the Puer would be to consciously adopt adult behaviors ?? while observing my inner child thoughts, feelings and emotions? in order to help him grow... Or how can I reconcile with it?

How do we proceed to completly heal the Puer?

[pretheeshgpresannan]

The poor man was probably given a formula to make sure he looks grown up and adult. He could even have convinced himself that he has friends just because he acted out the formula for being around some others and call it friendships or even suffer a formula based relationship just to look grownup. He must be appreciated for admitting that acting out someone's formula for looking grownup does not work although nowadays therapist's/psychologist's role is to provide a formula for life and to say that is dangerous way of approaching life isliye understandably not so welcome.
But we can always say he followed A+B=C while he should have followed A+B+D=C with a smile while he just wants to die, and save ourselves from the annoying trouble.

[ChevalierGaucho]

On the last part about suicidal thoughts at older age, I remember The Death of Ivan Ilitch.

[josephang]

I get this and I'm aware that I have to mature and grow up. But honestly, it feels like it Is too late, and I fear I lose this comfort and also fail to how in life anyway, in a void limbo. When you don't grow with close friends and never had love, and you are now in your 30s, it is likely for People like me to stay that way forever... left behind. Suicide indeed is a very tempting option and I'm glad that Canada and Switzerland are making it available. I expect that service to be available everywhere in a few decades and it gives comfort.

[MegaSnippezz]

The puer clings onto fantasies and forms of escape even when grounded in reality. It is not until he controls these forms that he can truly be grounded, in love, in reality.

[reosin]

Still have no clue what healing puer is like instead of killing it.

[bastaballe]

Maybe he drank alcohol since he gave up his dreams and I m almost in the same situation and same age. He said those things but how many others he didn t tell?
Who knows?