Do Women Hate Attractive Friends?

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[ChrisWillx]

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[SovereignSelf]

Sometimes it’s better to be alone than be around the wrong kind of people

[bellalovretich]

My good friend was a runway model and it was INSANE! Other women would treat her so badly and the men where almost animals around her!

[travismarshall]

Ive seen this 1st hand..
A few years back i knew a girl who i would have rated a perfect 10/10 for looks.

She had NO friends, guys saw her only wanted 1 thing.. obviously.
And all the girls were just so damn jealous of her..

She had no one.. it was really sad because she was actually a really sweet and friendly girl

[BLE]

Sadly, this is true. It is extremely isolating and hurtful. My very own sisters have tried to destroy my character, business and family life. Being an introvert, I have always found it difficult to be around others, and this surely hindered the situation even more so. Not to say that I think I am equivalent to the women he is referencing, only that I have had my fair share of ill intent for no obvious reason.

[Mistical]

My friends were awful to me at times. I was the “good looking one” in the group. They would hone in on any flaw or insecurity and shoot me down with it. It would have a knock-on effect in my romantic relationships, ruining them. Looking back - why on Earth did I stay friends with them for so long? They’re not my friends now.

[ptlovelight]

I can confirm this. My sister and I would both be considered attractive. But she is more sexualized in her style and mannerisms, and I oscillate between sleek/sophisticated and casual/cute. People react to us TOTALLY DIFFERENT. Even when we wear similar outfits, people will label her as "sexy" and thus treat her more negatively. But I'm always considered "cute", "wholesome" "stylish". The funny thing is, I'm actually more curvy than her, but because of that I try not to draw too much attention to my body and focus more on style and balance with colors. My sister's clothes always show off her body, intentional or not. I used to feel insecure about not being seen as "sexy"', until she pointed out to me that I am better able to make friends because I'm not seen that way. Interesting...

[BeeBlot]

Yeah, f this 100% never dumb down/ugly down/nice down yourself just to make those jealous b's comfortable. Be you and your peers will find you and you'll have REAL friends rather than backstabbers. Take it from one who knows.

[Leaux.Behold]

I’m a former model and the hate I get from other women and from men is unhinged, honestly. It’s disgusting.

[mutendemsiska]

This is why we shouldn't be quick to judge a pretty lady who doesn't really have female friends.
The jealousy that comes from fellow women can kill

[Kr]

In my experience the women who are happy with as many aspects of their lives as possible make the best friends.

[SweetNovember]

Being too pretty is bad, women don’t hire very pretty women. Having women collegues is hard being too much of anything is isolating. Have to learn to deal with it.

[TheTsugnawmi]

One could argue that “Pretty Privilege” only took off as a talking point because unattractive women were using it as strategy to eliminate women they saw as a threat.

[TheAvgWoman]

Something I went through my entire teens, twenties and now my 30s. I have aged gracefully, but I’m not 20 anymore.

I remember other women even admiring me and staring at me. It’s calmed down now and I’m so grateful.

I also modeled and sang professionally, so sometimes I felt so alone and friendless.

The world can be unfair and dark sometimes.

Sending love.

[Billiard-cpmy]

Most girls are very attractive when they are young anyway. I think by the time girls get to their late 20s, there is a clear difference between girls who have looked after themselves and the ones who have not. Jealousy can set in at this point.

[angelab]

I am not a woman who is jealous of other women and don't understand that jealousy except it stemming from deep insecurity. I actually prefer to not be center of attention because of my looks. I have been unintentionally but in my experience other women make comments in a passive aggressive about me being slender or in shape. I always show kindness but prefer to hang around women who are authentic and don't care what i look like. I think society has really shaped idea of beauty in a way that's not real as well as pitting women against one another.

[MrBatesy]

I believe this is very similar for Men. I would suggest that good looking men learn how to be humble (friendly), be able to run, and lastly but maybe most importantly, learn how to fight. Or you can be taken out by envy, the same as attractive women.

[bhavyasharma]

I’m definitely not a 99/100, I’d say I’m average, when I look in the mirror, I don’t perceive my self as attractive at all. But I’ve had plenty of women who’ve been threatened by me, even those who are more beautiful than me. No nonsense of “friends” for me, no “internalized misogyny” delusion of feminists: I’m sick of their bullying 🤷🏽‍♀️, fuck them

[helgaioannidis]

All my female friends are very attractive. If I'm out with my female friends I'm the one recieving less interest from men. And I don't see that as a reason not to be friends, because they are really good friends. They are caring, honest, loyal and we can laugh together. That's what counts in friendship.
But I've ended friendships with two very attractive women, not for them being attractive, but for how they were ready to completely ignore my existence as soon as they had the attention of a man. I'm not a backup company you drop if you find "better" company. If you ask me to spend time together I want you to spend time with me, not to have me sit in silence watching you chat with people and ignoring my existence.

[jeffreyriley]

Emma Watson is the Girl Next Door. She's not some bombshell.