What Not To Do After A Breakup

If you have been dumped, you possibly responded with panic and shock.

That's normal, but there are things that you should not do if you want your ex back.

As Coach Lee explains in this video, begging, pleading, and accepting friendship are some of those things.

And in order to do those things you must contact your ex. That is something that you also should not do after a breakup.

As Coach Lee explains, since your ex broke up with you, attraction in some form has dropped.

That is usually in the form of emotional attraction. That means that whatever you are "putting out," right now in terms of behavior, attitude, and dynamic when around your boyfriend, girlfriend, or significant other is unattractive to them and is turning them off.

If you back away from your ex and give them the breakup then they won't have an unattractive version of you to remember.

Your ex will, instead, be forced to remember and look back on the relationship.

And there were good times in the relationship or else your ex wouldn't have spent any time in it.

During this time of no contact, the odds are strong that your ex will miss you and reach out to you. But they can't do that if you are there, bugging them, pleading, begging and showing weakness along with desperation. You could very well lose your ex from those types of actions after a breakup.

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[mayorofthenonsense]

This needs to be pinned: "Treat someone like a celebrity, and they'll treat you like a fan.." - Richard Cooper

[donnaortiz]

I don't want my ex back just want to fix what was wrong with me because I NEVER want to attract the same type of person

[claraj]

Just wanted to thank you for your videos, they helped me a lot. My ex contacted me a week ago after almost 2 months of no contact and told me that he had made a huge mistake and wanted me back. Without your coaching I would probably not have made it through no contact at all, but here I am luckier than ever. And to all of you out there, it gets better and in most cases they will contact you sooner or later. If not, they don’t deserve you and someone better is coming your way!

[dianeh]

I cry everyday over him. He just left and refuse to talk me. He didn't block me. Pure torture.

[fahimaqalanjo]

Coach lee. Also what you didn’t add is that No Contact is not all about getting your Ex back. Is about building your self esteem and living your life happy and time will heal your heart if you do no contact rule. All of y’all who is struggling, let your Ex know that you have a life on your own and you can be happy and have fun with friends and doing your own things like hobbies and studies. You don’t have to show off but do everything good for yourself. Your Ex will notice you and who knows! Maybe when you get in that stage, you might want to consider if your Ex is right for you or not because now you feel better and you learned how to live without your Ex. And you have a life on your own and you’re happy without your Ex. No contact is about experiences like self improvement along with self respect ✊ and self love. In the future you will not settle for less and you will not entertain bullshiit but you will chill and live your life and meet or date people who have good qualities of life like you do.

[Yoda-]

I got fired from my job listening to coach Lee and I don’t care I’ll find another job without him I couldn’t wake up in the morning and go to work

[tonyahenry]

No need to chase ppl just move on it hurts but what can you do

[NewKwanTung]

I just arrived at the place where I don't want to stalk my ex's social media. It just hurts too much. I don't want to feel that hurt right now. 3 weeks NC.

[DennisNowland]

Beware the narcissist or the woman with a borderline personality disorder.

[W]

I have been in a relationship with my ex for about 2 years now, he randomly stopped loving me, he acts like he hates me and like he doesn’t care because he already kissed another girl but also says that he is thankful for the happiness I gave him, he said I was the best trophy I had. He gives me mixed signals but from today on I am doing the No Contact method.

[Sparksflymich]

4 weeks NC. Don't even want him back at this point, feeel so good being single!

[jannlewandowski]

Thanks to you, I don't want my ex back. I've been watching you for months now, and you really helped me. My ex married a "rebound" and I would never take him back when the Limerence wears off. TIME is on my side, and I will never trust him again. It's OVER! THANKS Lee..😀

[sshuteandrew]

I haven’t begged or pleaded in 10 months. No drama in months. He still doesn’t want more than casual. I’ve done my self work and he’s unwilling to do his. It’s all about him and his needs. I can do nothing more for him. He’s depressed and refuses to open up- I’m tired of him hurting me.

[deirdremarshall-greene]

Don't give the Least attractive version of yourself. Back Off Go Silent.

[rajwinderkaur]

Mr. Lee as you know, he always takes the middle person, lady or any man, l have not any objection about you, He is talking with you, no matter

[aliray]

My girlfriend dumped me in 2002, she now has two kids with other men and I’m sure she is ready to reach out to me. But what she doesn’t know is I’ve been no contact for 20 years working on myself. Ha! The joke is on her!

[Diksha_Gauns]

This guy has reduced my anxiety to such a great level
Love from India❤

[redqueen]

My bf just ended our ldr 😢.. He said he doesn't love me anymore and this is the second time that we broke up.. I'm picking up all the courage and strength to go NC.. I miss him dearly but I guess there's nothing else I could do except for nc.. Deep down I still want him back but what he says truly hurts, he doesn't feel the sparks anymore.. Wish me luck and thank you coach Lee 😊
New updates : My ex reached out to me after 35 days of no contact saying he's sorry for hurting me but he wanted to be just friends with me :)

[MCass]

I am trying so hard not to go to her house and try and speak with her 🤦🏾‍♂️

[laguilala]

I really hope you see this and can help me out! I have been watching your videos like crazy for over a year now. I'll try to keep this short. June 2019 my ex broke up with me. I cried and begged for maybe 2 days. He is the one who insisted on friendship. He called and messaged me every day. So I never ignored him. We just became "friends with benefits" and finally 2 months ago he was talking about hanging out with one of his co workers (who is a female) and I just couldn't hold it in. I told him I still loved him and that I could not continue to be "friends" with him. He asked me if we could still talk every day. I said no because then we would just continue this cycle that we've been going through for the past year. I immediately went into no contact and he ended up coming to my house 5 weeks later with supplies because our town was affected by a fire. I was nice and polite and thanked him and we talked for about 30 minutes. Just about random things. Then I went straight back into no contact, and it has now been 3 weeks since we interacted. Anyway, I just want to know what your opinion and thoughts are.. do I still have a chance? Did I mess it all up by accepting "friendship" for almost a year?