ADDICT MANIPULATION, WHAT TO LOOK OUT FOR!

People in active addiction can be very manipulative. They can make you think that you are the reason for their addiction. The best thing that you can do is stay educated and ask for help. Blaming others, playing the victim, priming the conversation are all different mays that they can try and manipulate you.

[michiellalove]

I have also had the "addict" taking all the blame as well. Saying things like, "I know it's all me", "I'm a terrible person", I am undeserving" Still playing the victim, trying to make you feel sorry for them.

[Swattage]

Can confirm that when you're your healthiest, the addict will leave. It feels like rejection, but it's actually respect. They realize that they can't manipulate you and give up. After 4 years of therapy and training, my addict told me he broke up with me because he didn't think I would let him take advantage of me anymore. He was right.

[Ash_Ley_]

When you are in an relationship with a addict, just focus on your own life goals, they are manipulative and want all sorts of attention and sucking all your energy of you, they want you to stay on there level.. You will never grow in these kind of relationships!
I speak from my own experience
Stay focus❤️

[graemesutton]

And from my experience 1) they continue to do this after they've been clean for years, and 2) it overlaps very much with narcissistic personality disorder. I ended what I thought was a close friendship with an addict who was 5 years clean when I realised it was a toxic relationship and he would never own up to his side of it

[Smooshy]

Oh Wow!! You just explained me and my 44yr old son. Thank you so much!!! He wont be making me feel guilty any more. He just rang me from the mental ward blaming me and telling me Ive never cared. I felt bad. No more thanks to you.

[heretheshow]

Just found out my husband relapsed again. 22 years of marriage and it’s been exhausting. The manipulation is real! It’s time to move on for the sake of myself and my kids.

[jessicabarber]

Omg you nailed it. They do it in recovery too but with other drugs to replace the original addiction.

[jodiburnett]

I picked up my friend from rehab.
The first thing she asked was to go to a CVS to pick up a few toiletries.
She went straight for 2 family sized bottles of Gold Listerine.
As if…..

Cunning.
Baffling.
Powerful.

[motowngirl]

This is not how anyone should live their lives, these monsters need to stay away from people

[adannegadison]

You have to call it what it is. The first step of recovery is admitting it, we have to see it for what it is. This was very informative. You think somebody is really on the journey of healing and then they swoop you back into it with them, then blame you! It’s sad cause it be family. Thanks for the info .

[cd]

He blames me for being angry at him and hurting from what he’s done to me. But usually he is just non- communicative or manipulative, never REAL. He’a sneaky and lies, not argumentative.

[louiseskov]

I have just been dumped by my abusive boyfriend of 4 years, (alcohol and cocaine) I have been the only one there for him when no one else was, I have stood by his side when he was down and scraping the bottom, I have found him where he was about to take his own life, I've been there all the way and found myself in so much crap and lies and now that he's in treatment and on day 40 clean he's ditching me because he needs to focus on himself, I have never felt more used and laughed at. I was good enough when no one else was there for him, when he needed a place to live, when he was at his worst, I stood by his side. I am left with the feeling that now that he is recovering I am not good enough. and the funny thing is that he will never find such a sweet, caring, loyal and loving girlfriend like me. and I have no abuse I live a quite normal life with work and healthy relationships

[achienglilian]

This really helps me. He is manipulating me. The lies 🥺🥺🥺.

[asdfz]

This sounds like what is like to deal with a same

[sical]

Going through this right now. One thing that he also does is trying to divide members of hus family. Once he realises that he cannot manipulate me, he turns to his mother and put the blame on me. And when he is fed up with not being able to manipulate his mother, he will turn to me again. I don't fall for it. And that makes him angrym he blames me for being judgemental when I confront him with his lies, stealing and addiction. He has gone back to his mother again. She believes that he takes heroin every 10 days. Seriously? Heroin? Actually he takes it more than once a day. The only things that keep him away from drugs is lack of money. God bless all of you who are going through this. It's hard to no more recognize someone you love deeply. It's ok to let them go. Please don't blame yourself for showing to them that they can't manipulate you. You all deserve better.

[hayleyshort]

Omg, seriously. I've literally been trying to put all the pieces together unsuccessfully for 3.5 years and although I knew the overall, I didn't realise it was manipulation. Literally, it's all just *CLICKED*. Thank you so much for helping me understand.

[bassicallyandre]

He literally described almost everything my ex wife has been doing for the past 4 years.

She adamantly denies using or ever using, but all the signs are there. For a while, she would gaslight me, manipulate me into believing that I was in the wrong and it was my fault for why she struggled, living off and on in the streets. I would question myself, everything I believed and would let myself be driven by guilt, giving in to what she wanted as a way to atone for what I've done in the past.

I have full custody of our two kids and have given her many opportunities and chances to be there for our kids, but she simply comes and goes as she pleases, only calling or wanting to see them when she misses them. I recently made the decision to cut her from our kids' lives until she gets her life together, but of course she takes no accountability and continues to try to manipulate and blame. She says that she's their mom and has the right to be with our kids, that every child needs their mom, that I need to grow up and not think with my emotions, that I'm only being spiteful cause she doesn't want to be with me. Then she always claims that keeping the kids away from her is illegal, that she's spoken to a lawyer and threatens to take me to court.


I've been doing research on addiction for a while and watching interviews with addicts to better understand addiction, the inner struggles they face, how to deal with loved ones who have addictions and avoid being manipulated by them. This was very insightful.

[michelledubois]

I listened to this and yes everything you said was true except the end where you say "so you can get your loved one clean and sober .Nope, can't be done it's all in them, yes learning how to stop enabling only saves you and that is a hard thing to learn .God Bless all the people who love an addict ❤️❤️

[larechiga]

Is it an addict manipulation to make accusations of mental abuse when the loved one is being assertive and trying to not be an enabler?

You are very descriptive and helpful.

[SpiritEye]

This video just validated what is being experienced in my family. It gives that real perspective.