INFJ - CLOSE THE DOOR MUCH SOONER 🚪

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Join us today as we dive into the INFJ door slam phenomenon. INFJs frequently encounter situations where they give their all, only to feel unappreciated and drained by others. This often leads to the necessity of 'door slamming' - setting firm boundaries and shutting certain individuals out. Let's not just discuss what the INFJ door slam is; instead, let's explore the idea of closing that door earlier on. Discover why INFJs are compelled to take this drastic step, as no INFJ has ever expressed joy in having to resort to door slamming.

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[Wenzes]

When did you last have to "door slam" someone as an INFJ?

[Iowaborn]

Door slamming is extremely painful, 95% of the time it's with someone you still loved.

[jeremy]

I spent 20 years in rooms of recovery here where I live. I was a second class citizen. I was always told that I could never think for myself. The only way people paid attention to me, was when I was making coffee and setting chairs. I knew, long before, this was not going to be good. I KNEW. But I stayed because I wanted to get sober. So I ignored most folks. Douche Bags be Douche Bags. At my 20th anniversary, I stood up, took my chip, said a few choice words, then I slammed the church door behind me as I walked through it, and walked away. Going on 3 years now. They all said to me that it was my EGO and that I was a DRY DRUNK, and NOT thinking correctly, and that I needed to listen to them and not think for myself. God Forbid I think for myself !!
I was like No, Nope, Not Gonna Do It.

[sojourneroftheland]

"Go out with a closed door...and then you let people knock"
Interdependance. Brilliant.

[R.S-]

Infj's realize the value they bring to others life, and when respect is no longer served at the table there's no point in pouring in value. Infj's avoid conflict and the favorite option is doorslam. 😎👌

[lilyghassemzadeh]

Every time I slammed the door was because I came to the realization that I am actually appreciating and respecting them more than they appreciate themselves. They didn't believe how valuable I saw them (this is how I see human beings in general), and mistakenly thought I wanted something in return. They ultimately saw me as a cunning, deceitful person, which in turn offended me immensely, resulting in the door slam.

[anikat]

The more I learn about the INFJ personality type, I'm starting to understand myself more and why I do what I do ❤

[TeamCAE]

Ive become really good in door slamming 🤣... When you have healed yourself from narcisstic relationships, you can see through everyones bullshit... I see the toxic traits and I instantly move on... No more time wasted! Love yourself enough to know what you deserve! And thats love and calm

[KatePamplin-sp]

Only thing I want to say is: the door slam feels SO GOOD when it’s a NARCISSIST! And I will tell those people OFF. We have to, for their own good! We are narcissist slayers, and they need us to slay their ego so they can be adjusted and centered in something greater than the traumas of their childhood. Paul was a narcissist when he was Saul, and Jesus (who is often seen as INFJ) spoke words that shook him right to the core and transformed his arrogance into abject humility. Go read Philippians 3. What a TESTIMONY to the power of Jesus Christ our Savior!

[MonicaGunderson]

In my hermit stage. I have a very small circle of friends, and just mainly spend time with myself, husband, or our son.

[erosv]

I’m in independent mode right now!! 🙋🏻‍♂️

[spiritwanderer]

I hated to slam doors on my ex because I deeply loved her but she pushed me to limits of sanity with her severe avoidant patterns, lack of empathy, refusal to talk despite being together for over 2 years, and attempted cheating.

With my door slam I changed my address, country, phone numbers, emails, even removed myself from all social media and made it virtually impossible to contact me by her or anyone she knows. I took it this far because despite loving her I could not allow such selfish and cold energy back into my life. No more breadcrumbing, silent treatments, gaslighting, pleading. It was the only way to restore self esteem and peace.

After 6 months it still hurts but less than staying in that toxic situation. Endless empathy can be toxic. I learned hard boundaries the hard way.

Being an INFJ woman is not easy, but thanks to your channel I finally understand how my mind functions. You gave me the right words to express it. Thank you ❤

[penne]

The door 🚪 slam are very important for us to protect ourselves! I found this to be very very true.

[nourfattouh]

We don't like door slam but between being someone ur not and door slam the choice is clear

[MegaCyberleader]

The last would be friend wouldnt even knock, Ive been finding myself door slamming people for just 1 red flag in thier personality. Sometimes even a yellow flag.

[derekmorcom]

I'm in the period after closing a door and reconnecting with myself exactly like you've talked about. I'd take a whole video on that period, and how to move through it and start to be interdependent again. For me it's been 1.5 years and even actively working on myself constantly I'm feeling pretty stuck in it and actually more isolated than ever.

[trinitymarieM]

I love how you articulated all of this. Esp the door slam, there's a lot of bad information out there mis- describing it. I call it staying in my own lane. Not much hesitation anymore doing that, get it n my car "close the door" and drive in my own lane. I don't even care right now to interact, fix, adjust or otherwise, the "energy" around me, as soon as I feel that feel in my chest or stomach, my peace affected at all, I'm out. Bye to the stank whatever. And it's also etched in my mind. Hazard. Once I don't care, that's it. There's a song with a lyric " I don't gaf if you don't like me".
The feeling is probably mutual anyway. Also, happy laughing people don't = good energy, evil people revel in all their evil.
❤ Thanks for the awesome breakdown.

[TexasMadeAprilRenee]

AS AN INFJ & A PISCES? THANK YOU FOR THESE VIDEOS ❤

[kan]

Honestly guys to quote wizard Liz - if you want to talk to someone talk to a tree.

[rootsiebee]

We know when someone is misunderstanding us on purpose and infj, being purposely misunderstood is a game we don’t wish to play. They play their wildcards at first, but then they may eventually cheat. To explain the same thing 20 different ways is exhausting., if they repeat this pattern it becomes a problem. Maybe they don’t want to understand.