How Toxic People Train You to STAY a Victim - Overcome Learned Helplessness

[superslyko]

The 1st step was realizing their behavior was WRONG. Knowledge is key. Learn to trust yourself again (step over that barrier). Your gut knows! When you step over that barrier in the Narcissist presence, the look on their face is priceless. It may take some time. Heck I was conditioned for 40+ years. Baby Steps. It HAS changed my life.

[emadd]

thank you. great insight.I'm 50 years old. I can't believe that just now I'm gaining my confidence back. no contact is the only way to deal with a narcissist mother.

[MassiveGravityForce]

i need someone like this girl to unlearn the manipulations done to me by the people whom i spent half of my life..

[truthmerchant]

Learning you can now say NO to toxic behaviour is one of the most liberating things ever.

[Quantum]

I have said this before, but you are a genius for making such an astute analogy, and so strong for fighting back after the debilitating abuse of a narcissistic parent. Thank you so much for all your help.

[sassysliminsix]

My mother taught me this, she called it long suffering. It was said to be a virtue

[japhillips]

You can not reason with a toxic person, best to kick them out of your life for good they are the weak one's.

[tedschmitt]

This video is pure gold. After 30+ years of emotional abuse, learned helplessness never occurred to me. Being conditioned to accept that it was pointless to try changing the situation is something that lived with for entirely too long.

[phoenixrising]

Conditioned acceptance
Enduring false loyalty
Conditioned submission
You can break free 😅
There is Hope 🙏

[monicarai]

I'm going thru this now. I feel all alone. Only my daughter and me

[dhealing]

Thank you so much for this video! I beat myself up for staying in multiple toxic relationships too long because I could not understand why I allowed it to happen. I realize now that I need to be single and work on caring for myself and developing strong boundaries. I thought I had come a long way, but after my last relationship I realize that I have still continued to settle for I do not want, which are also not good for me. Rather than pleading for that person to see, love, and respect me, I could have walked away.

[sdeshera]

Wow
This is one of your classic, excellent, eye opening analogies!
I love your insights .

[jediloot]

They do things you can't explain.. they are spiritually evil

[Adara]

Excellent explanation as to how those who have narcissistic parents or abusive relationships become conditioned to the abuse. Learning to heal from narcissistic abuse is critical and although it takes time, dedication and support it is so worth it!

[thefalsecritic]

The elephant is stunned developmentally because it was never given the chance to roam free and to explore on its own. It was never given the chance to develop, grown and learn about its capabilities. The act of breaking free is much bigger than just ripping the rope that's keeping it tied up. To break free means to interact with the outside world and to learn to navigate through setback and hardship.


While the elephant may break free, it would be left to survive on its own. The abuse it endures is horrible but at least it has a false sense of safety. At least it has food.

[Azeral]

When u try to apologize and change so much but people still hate u even the ones you apologized to its gets extremely mental exhausting. I feel bad for people who go through learned helplessness whether they had similar or different experiences as me I feel for them and hope they recover from their trauma🙏🏾

[rhondanerren]

Thank you, Michelle. This was excellent. My ex husband of 24 years and father of my six children.taught me not to ask anything of him, question, or ever think I was his equal partner. I was there for his use and if I had any problem with that, I WAS THE PROBLEM! I was the lucky one he chose to have his babies and clean his house. It was much EASIER to just do everything his way.

It has been 2 1/2 years of no contact and an ugly, drawn-out divorce/court battle, but I am healing and growing quickly, and starting to feel like my “former self”!!

[chetpomeroy]

What Michelle told us in this video is *wonderful!* We need to look at ourselves and the self-defeating conditioning we received as children, remember and *identify* those toxic behaviors that were part of that conditioning! This is reminiscent of what Dr. Pavlov discovered in his research with dogs.

[breakthroughmoment]

This information is seriously deep and I am so grateful to learn new things. This really is the key to healing from emotional abuse.

[BC-hcyq]

This is the best description and analogy I have seen. Thank you.