Dating for too long leads to problems

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Rabbi Manis Friedman is a world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer and philosopher who uses ancient wisdom and modern wit to captivate audiences around the world. For bookings, please call Zalman at 800-656-5669

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[emeraldchat]

Long-term dating feels like marriage without the commitment.

[kopsie]

WOW, this is powerful and true. Young people, listen to this man. I have exactly 5 holes in my heart. Im done. 😢

[zurikazuri]

Some women have accepted a lie; that physical intimacy outside marriage is ok, is fun, you can do whatever you want, that's what you do to keep your partner and so on... Consequences like single parent, depression, stress, high blood pressure, anger and so on are trending

[Becster]

Rabbi, this advice is fire. Wow. "Don't sanctify dating. Only marriage is sacred". PLEASE say it louder for the people in the back. So powerful.

[kadd]

So sad but true. Many times it's the female that thinks that long dating is like marriage but the guy thought they were lightly committed-so finds someone else he likes better after 10 years of dating.

[mars]

I am not Jewish but what you say touches my heart. It might sound funny, but I partly got married because I never wanted to date again. No regrets after 16 years 😊

[annafoy]

True and also even more difficult now. 30 years ago when I married my husband, our mortgage was affordable. I now have 2 adult children at home as the rents and mortgages are astronomical. This is partly why people are not leaving home and marrying. People are scared to commit themselves and their finances. Also my daughters tell me the dating pool is bereft of decent men who actually are prepared to build a life with a spouse. I feel monumentally blessed that I married a good, loving, faithful, Godly, hard working man. I did make it clear at the time that I would not be living together unmarried. It was a deal breaker for me and he respected that. I made that commitment to myself as a young woman, because I had seen many people hurt by playing around and because of my Christian faith. I think now it’s a whole different situation. I agree with this rabbi and I pray my daughters are blessed with good husbands. Peace and courage to all parents praying for their kids❤

[oncheugbabe]

Dating is in itself mock marriage: All the rites, all the benefits, none of the legitimacy.

[ladyofspa]

Exclusive Dating can be a wonderful experience, but often its so unfair to women and a waste of time.. I am seriously reconsidering the whole process. We are so programmed to do relationships in a dysfunctional way.

[artimasartimas]

So very true. Lesson learned the hard way .

[lutherclement]

this is very true my relationship of four years just ended, it's as if we're the worst enemy now
it's not healthy to really date for too long

[EileenPurdy-qz]

Exactly, too many people don’t understand this. Wish people would listen to you because you have a lot of very important ideas that people need to get back to doing. Intimacy today has become so confusing in the dating scene; nobody seems to know how to navigate it at all. Really wish intimacy was more valued and treated as a serious action that is holy.

[christinamitrovich]

I like how you pointed out the stupidity of dating in this day and age. 😂

[aminaz]

Great thinker and great human this rabbi
A true educator / rabbi

[anonymouslyphantomwarrior]

These people are my cup of tea. Im leaving coffee for now 🍵❤

[ohanailo]

Such wisdom and so true. Marrige gets better with age. ❤

[dinushblau]

Thank you Rabbi Manis for making everything makes sense 😊

[GG_Mad]

Agree dating is like marriage without commitment especially if already having sex that’s why one should not fornicate while dating because than it won’t be dating anymore and someone will get more hurt.

[leaj]

Love the pic of you and your mom. Glad to hear she’s enjoying her retirement. Makes me think of my husband’s grandmother who also was busier as a retiree than when she worked. I agree it is inspiring and I hope to do the same when it’s my turn- volunteer, craft, go to programs at the library and find ways to be useful to the community you’re in. My parents just seemed to sit around post retirement and it’s not healthy in so many ways. Glad your mom is out and about, living large. Fun video idea.

[j.lsantos]

Wow
well said rabbi
food for thought