What I (an INFJ) think of INFPs

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[DeanWinchesterWhore]

INFP here. I'm closed off to some extent but still friendly. Somewhat sarcastic but not rude--but--- If you've done me wrong, I'm honest with you and I back off. I'm very forgiving but that doesn't mean we're buds. I pretty much can feel with my gut, see the way others talk to each other to know if I'm going to let you in. I sympathize with pretty much everyone and can spot a fake right off the bat. I seriously don't have it in my heart to hate anyone. We're quiet, observe but we love with everything we got.

[mtpianohearder]

My daughter is an INFP, and that is one of my most cherished relationships. She is an amazing listener, and we have amazing, deep conversations. She is the only person in my family that I can fully relax with. She helps me resist my Ni urge to over-generalize and systematize, and I seem to be able to motivate her to take action on her rich, artistic gifts. INFPs are gifts to us. ❤️

[CianMcCarthyMusic]

As an INFJ, being around an INFP makes me doubt my introversion!! Well, only for a little bit!

[alyssasembrat]

INFP here, I find the comments about expressing emotion interesting. I've always been under the impression that I'm terrible about concealing my emotions as they come up. While I don't always talk about what I'm feeling, my facial expressions in my body language often give me away, so I've been told by MANY people. But overall most of the time I don't feel the need to share how I'm feeling with other people if I know I'm being irrational or if I'm nervous my feeling won't be received well. Hmm I'll need to self reflect on my behavior I guess😂

[infpsych]

I love INFJs. My only pet peeve is their Fe (my own projection on them b/c I can’t fit in with rest of society). I also notice that the INFJ talks to the INFP like a teacher talks to a student. It’s cute.

[kevinorkvan]

As an INFP, this video was really spot on for me and I really liked how you tied your brother in to illustrate the point on how INFP's function in the real world. Especially your comments about your brother being quite "aloof" or not front facing emotionally while also being very sensitive and not showing it. Honestly so much of this is so on point and it was kind of amazing to hear such an eerily relatable description of your brother. Also as an aside you made another video on INFP on my birthday and your brother is also named Kevin so a little bit of a funny coincidence there.

[nesrine]

I am the only infp in a family of sensors, there is every sensor type in my family from isfjs to estps.
I have one brother who is an intj and I just am so impressed by everything he does, though he's completely different than me but I have always had this unspoken connection with him, when no one in the family gets me I turn to him but I rarely ever get a response from him and somehow I know he gets it

[basmaksaibati]

Do INFPs express their emotions in a sarcastic way and kinda want you to know how they feel but don't want be emotional maybe? im not and I think INFPs know how to put a story somehow they care soo much about small details in their stories ..details that INFJs like me don't think are important, and also they seem disoriented even tho they are not, at least most of the time, also they seem to misread people and incase of an unhealthy INFP they seem to feel that everyone is working against them. ( based on my own observation)

[kev_in_wonderland]

I'm also the INFP brother in my family and it's funny how i can relate to everything you said about your brother, especially the sensitivity part. I remember everytime i watched a movie that made me "feel" things, i always had to diggest it myself while my brothers (also my friends) always expressed their feelings.

[peesukarhu_OFFICIAL]

That's true that we INFPs don't show our emotions but care deeply and feel the emotions really strongly. But there can be certain times when showing them is really difficult, for example in funerals of a death family member.

[sarahg]

INFP here, with an INFJ mother and ISFJ sister. This is a really great video! It's really cool to see such a deep understanding and explanation of how we INFPs function, particularly in reference to Fi's outward coldness, and how that can come across to those who function with Fe. It really comes across how much you love your brother - thank you for this video, it was beautiful to watch.

[aprilparker]

My older (by 11 years) sister is INFP and I am INFJ. The difference you talk about with your brother are in far greater detail than I can talk about with my sister, simply because we haven't been really close since I was younger. But I will tell you this, we are polar opposites. We get along great, but not like we used to. When I was a teenager she was one of few people I wanted to be around. We were so close, and would take rides in the car just to listen to Sarah McLachlin or Enya as loud as we could, with her two children in tow. I got so much advice from her about boys, life in general, becuase she was more in touch with things, whereas I was just lost and confused. Anyway, let me explain a few opposites and a couple similarities.

She was rebellious and I firmly adhered to rules. She was more selfish (but not a truly selfish person in general) and would act out in things that she wanted for herself whereas I always put others first, even though things I wanted were big goals for me. When my ESTJ father (boy was that a hard relationship and still is) won custody of us, she ran away at 16 because she couldn't handle his strict authoritarian parenting style. Rules and expected obedience was not for her, so she went to live with my mom, and became pregnant at 16 and had a second child at 18, also became a stripper later on in life, was very promiscuous, and did many, many drugs... etc. I, however, followed rules, was not promiscuous at all, hardly even tried drugs, was more shy and embarrassed whereas she was very confident. Now, even though we are still opposite, we have more similarities as she has calmed down quite a bit, and is more introverted than ever. She had charisma and charm and good looks right off the bat when meeting people, and I had warmth, sincerity, and empathy/compassion. I was more genuine and caring, and she was more fun and able to express her artistic side. Even though she is artistic, she was never truly interested in writing, painting, and things of that nature. Her outlet was music, but just listening and feeling it. She was more in touch with herself, and I was confused about myself. She also moved A LOT and when problems would come her way she would dream of a fresh start somewhere new. She loves spontaniety and I love to plan. (J vs P) Interestingly, she is more tidy than me!

Similarities are few, like being deeply emotional but in diferent ways, both inspired by beauty and the arts (but I acted mine out more, dived into writing and singing and am way craftier than her) and there are many shared principles, but I stand by mine no matter how complex, whereas she is more flexible or willing to act differently than she believes if that makes sense. I am sorry I can't describe more accurately our comparison, but I am sure as soon as I stop writing I will think of a million more things. I wish I didn't need to get everything out, to explain every single thing in my head... lol

[lzmw]

So true! I still remember that once my father got drunk and said to me: “why are you so cold.” And I have difficulties to express the reason why I behave in that way...

[karak]

How facinating! Great interpreation. As an INFP I can understand that people sometimes view me as cold, I don't often find it comfortable letting people into that deep part of myself. Which is why were initially closed off for the most part. Especially, since it can feel like a never ending story: my inner world. I do believe with this whole personality type thing I'm not fond of the idea of utterly limiting myself to a box, because I'm aware my personality has many facets. I can sometimes be more like an INFJ and sometimes more INFP, but I'm dominatly INFP.

Internally if I had to say, I do notice that INFPs struggle ferociously with getting to that intimate/seclusive emotional place with someone, even though we have that relationship with ourselves. It entices protection mode which is why we can seem aloof, distant, ice-cold, but really were more aware then we seem and more emotionally intelligent then we come across.

Just because we are "feelers" doesn't mean we let people feel what we are feeling all the time and we are not naive even though deep inside we care a whole lot.

(I also think your experience with INFP and INFJs getting along depends on your relationship with them, when its family/siblings you can have a much different experience than with a stranger/spouse. At the end of the day I love both personality types and wish you all the best. May God be with you.)

[MintBunny]

I am the only infp in my family and everything u said is very true for me. i have been accused of being cold by my them which honestly shocked me because I feel that i am the opposite. I dont show my feelings well because usually i either dont want to or dont know how/cant express them for the life of me. It’s frustrating because it has caused all sorts of misunderstandings in my life. People are always put off by it and either lose interest in interacting with me or worry that i dont like them or something. Usually i dont even notice that they feel this way about me which doesnt help. I do care though, i just dont like making a big deal of my feelings. Thanks for makin this vid, it was very interesting! :)

[ExtravertmE]

Im an INFJ and have an ESTP dad, ESFJ mom, and ESFP bro. Never felt understood, but there was a lot of affection.

[robgreen]

im an INFP and my sibling and both parents are sensors, it feels like a very distant relationship, to the point where i find that i can relate to my friends better than my sibling

[INFPHD]

Hey Ren nice to meet you! Yeah so my family and the career path I’ve taken over the last 20 years are predominately sensors. This has given me many skills in managing in that environment BUT it gets very exhausting where it’s hard to be ourselves as open as we INFP’s would like. The older I’m getting (38) I am starting to let more things out in the open than I used to which things just feel so much better towards who I am and the authenticity that I all so crave.

I also have made some great INFJ connections and even though we are very different in the function stack, there is similarities to which I feel we both “get each other”.

Thanks for this great comparison and understanding! Really cool...

Sean

[michael.]

I grew up, I think, with an INTJ father, INFP mother, INTP brother, and I am INFJ. I think we have all things covered:-)) One of my best friends is infp, and I also notice that she can write like a novelist and vividly, but that sometimes I wish could share her emotions more freely, though I can sense they are there. Thanks for your thoughts about your brother.