Can Narcissists be Christians?

There's one question I get asked ALL....THE....TIME is this...Can narcissists be Christians?
The answer may surprise you.

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[NigelSalandy-qhix]

Anyone can call themselves a Christian and fool others but God sees the heart and He cannot be fooled.

[usatodaywife]

Just because someone goes to church doesn't mean they're Christian, it just means they go to church.

[sharondrake]

My former “Christian”spouse helped anyone who asked. He worked for a church for over 25 years. No one suspected what happened when our front door closed.

[ivyhernandez]

The problem occurs when the narcissist appears like a Christian to everyone else accept their spouse and maybe their children.

[cc]

My mother is a “Christian” narcissist and a former pastor’s wife. Through the years, she has caused me, the scapegoat child. and so many others, so much pain. I have had to give her to God and let Him deal with her. He knows all, so I don’t have to. I now protect myself and pray that she will realize how hurtful her words and deeds are and repent.

[steadypace]

With narcissist's it's all about keeping up appearances.

[awesomeaj]

Key 🔑 words, true REPENTANCE, you will see 👀 by their behavior and values

[byfaithcor]

“If someone says, “I love God, ” but hates a fellow believer, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?” 1 John 4:20

[whatistruth]

How can a narcissist repent when they don’t think they are wrong.

[Garden]

I need to add one trait to your list of what can be seen in a Narcissistic person: rage. It’s these rages and then lying and saying she does not rage at family members that has separated me from my sister. I have never seen any change in her, ever.

Jesus did not say you will know them by their profession, but through their fruit. Thank you for your teaching on this very difficult topic.

[missy]

This actually makes my stomach hurt. I cannot believe I missed these signs with my ex, who claims he is Christian. Even the way you mentioned how narcissists apologize is spot on, but the reasoning behind it is really good to know. My ex always said "I'm sorry, " really quickly, without saying anything else or why he was sorry. Many times he'd say "My bad." And often, I'd find myself apologizing to him, so much.
Thank you for educating me and all of us on this. This is really helpful.

[nickgrandy]

This is disheartening to me. I believe I may be a narcissist; likely a covert narcissist to use the labels of the speaker - and I am a professing Christian. In the last five years since my conversion God has revealed more and more of my heart to me, things I never noticed before: chief among them were my pride, arrogance, and selfishness. I truly believe I'm the most selfish person I know. Being unselfish goes against my nature. But I believe Christ is working in me. I trust that if He has truly redeemed me, that He will finish this work of redemption. His Word promises this. I can't believe that there is no hope for the narcissist. In Christ, there is true hope. He can and does transform the vilest of sinners. I appreciate this video and the spreading of awareness regarding this issue, but I wish she would have spoken more about the power of Christ to transform - He is mighty to save, and He can save to the uttermost. This is not a question of the evil of the narcissist but the power of our Lord. I refuse to believe I am without hope in Christ. My only hope is found in Him, with my eyes fixed on Him, seeking to delight myself fully in Him and not in the things of this world. I don't believe dying to self is easy for anyone, I certainly know it isn't easy for me. But God's power is made perfect in weakness. His grace is sufficient. Nothing is impossible for God. If God can transform someone like me, then His power is truly unlimited and He deserves all the glory.

[joyfulife]

That's how I feel all along, my husband being a Christian and narc at the same time. It is like mocking God, saying one thing and doing another. Now I can put two and two together. Thank you very much for your guidance.

[MegUSN]

Here is what I know: I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Complex PTSD. I am also a Christian woman and that's how I identify as the most. Borderline Personality Disorder is horrible. I didn't choose to be wired this way. It affects the way I think, feel, act even when I don't want it to. I am a survivor of a horribly traumatic childhood where adults had free-will and made choices that affected my life, and still affects my life no matter how much therapy I go through. My God is bigger than all of this. And one thing I do know is that generational abuse begets generational abuse. God is still God and He's God even over those who are Narcissistic, which is also a form of mental illness. God's grace covers us all. And none of us knows if those Narcissistic people are products of an upbringing that they didn't also choose and are just trying to cope in the best way they know how, even if it's negative. So, you and I cannot answer to whether someone is a Christian or not. All of us are fallen and broken. God loves me, God loves you, and God loves those Narcissistic people. It is up to us as believers to bring others to Christ and then get out of the way and let Him work on them, this includes Narcissistic people. All people can change when God gets control over them. There are a lot of people out there today who don't suffer from mental illness and who identify as Christian, but when they come before God, he will cast them out and tell them He never knew them. Show grace, love, and kindness. And never underestimate what God can do in a person's life when He's ready to call them to Him.

[cindyc.]

I agree with you. A narcissist can’t be a true Christian. A person has to come to a place in life where they realize they are a sinner and know they need Christ to forgive them. A narcissist will never admit they are a sinner. They believe they are flawless and have nothing to ask forgiveness for. There is no repentance, so therefore they cannot become a Christian. I was raised by a narcissist and I know these things first hand. But I thank my Savior for bringing me through a horrible abusive life, and for saving me ❤

[lorraineniblock]

My pastor husband of 56 years walked out 2/half years ago had committed homosexuality, no repentance and I was ill he did not say goodbye he has always been a narcissist, I am now on my own at 86 he has influenced my daughters against me, but for the goodness of God I so praise Him I manage Lorraine

[ministryofhealingfarm]

Remember traumatized people tend to become Narcissist for example my mother was severely extremely abused in childhood. She is one of the worst human beings I've ever known. A monstrous narc who has visibly destroyed the lives of dozens of her family members and especially her children. The good thing about Christ is that once this person accept salvation that narcissists journey to healing is in God hands. "It is the holy spirit who leads the heart to repentance". That's why the church is always filled with broken people. Christ's kingdom is like a hospital and that's ok. All she can do is run to God, she been a horrible Christian but she never stopped trying shes in her mid 70s now, slowly cleansing her heart bc we serve be a God that loves all sinners the same. This video is a good help for those of us who need to keep safe from these broken people.

[beegirl]

My soon to be ex-husband is a white washed tomb. He says he doesn’t lie which makes him a liar per God’s word. Every man is a liar. He’s covert which was so destructive to me. He was a cop for 31 years so he was trained to “handle”people. So thankful to be on
the road to true freedom & healing. Thank you Jesus 🙏

[Hopefaithlove]

This is so true, I am so glad to be out of the relationship. He was cruel and had no morals no values and he reflected all his issues on me. Praise God he got me out of the relationship and I am healing 🙏 Never ever going back

[shenequademeritte]

So glad I found this channel. I marred a narc 15 years ago pretending to be this God fearing, family oriented and caring man. For years I tried to figure out what was going on this church going preacher was not the same person at home! When that mask slipped and I saw him for who he really was it was confusing and heartbreaking. Until about 3 years ago I heard the term Narcissist. It was like a light came on and since then after the harsh reality set in I am now healing. Its channels like this that makes it so much better. Thank you and keep up the good work. God bless you.