10 things women SAY they want in a man, but they can't handle

Today I talk about 10 things that women SAY they want in a man, but that they can't handle. As always guys, let me know in the comments if you agree or disagree!

[adammathisson]

You missed the most common one requested: Honesty, they can't handle honesty, honesty is always rejected, while a pleasant lie is favored.

[TheFlowNetwork]

There is also "the jealousy trap". She gets angry if you get jealous because it means you don't trust her. But she gets angry if you don't get jealous because it means you don't care.

[greencertifiedweb]

I once had a woman tell me on the phone, that she likes a man to be a gentleman, open doors, pull out the chair, etc... I told her that's how my mom taught me to be.

A few weeks later, on a first date, she ripped my head off for opening her car door... "You're only doing that because I told you to!"

I replied, "First, as I said, I do that for everyone, even my mom. Second, if you don't want to think a man is doing that because you told him, don't bring it up!"

[WelshKnight]

One I've noticed is respect. Women say they want a man who respects them, but when a man is respectful towards them, they conclude that he must be of a lowly status or weak and will jettison him for a bossier man, believing his arrogance makes him more important.

[MSMW]

11: They want a man without close female friends but call it controlling if he wants the same. I've had this in every relationship.

[RainWalking]

Known so many women that want kindness. But when they get it sincerely they claim it is manipulation for something else.

[Alirion]

Missed at least two big points: honesty (=rude) and accountability (=boring)

[JamesKearns-cuzb]

Wow, ticked almost all of those boxes. I opened up about something deep as she requested and I got a lecture. I work all day, she was upset I didn't call. I wrote her poetry (I'm told it is very good) and got a 'What's this!!'. I planned a weekend away, she knew about the weekend but not the plans, which is what she said she wanted, then got upset because she didn't know the plan. We try so hard but get shot down so often. There is so much Less stress and drama when you're single.

[Anon_Please]

Imagine wanting a man that is emotionally stable, then finding one. He then becomes vulnerable infront of her. She then weaponizes that aginst him. Couldn't be me.

[djtomasuk]

1:22 - 1. Man takes the lead
2:24 - 2. Emotions (specifically negative)
3:15 - 3. Vulnerability
4:05 - 4. Logic
4:30 - 5. Sense of Humour
4:40 - 6. Status
5:19 - 7. Intelligence
5:45 - 8. High work ethic
6:46 - 9. Man with money
8:10 - 10. Man that is well-endowed. (the bigger the better)

[toinouH]

Point #2 and #3 about emotions. The only times I opened up it got weaponised against me and lost all respet even among my friends...
That's why I don't do it anymore.

[RohrerBulldogs]

Yeah, definitely intelligence. I had a very successful woman tell me how much she craves depth in a man. She likes talking to attorneys and educated men because of the deep, intellectual conversations. Then she asked my thoughts and opinions on a certain subject in which I just happened to be well versed. I didn't even go very deep into it and she replied, "Wow, usually no one can hold a candle to me on that subject! I'd have to do more research to keep up with you!" And that was the last time she ever wanted to talk about anything deep with me! 😄 What she really craved was proving that she could keep up with intelligent men. Funny thing is, I'm a tradesman with only a high school education. She thought she was going to be talking way over my head. 😆 I don't have any college degrees hanging on my wall, but it doesn't mean I haven't educated myself on my own.

Another one is a highly capable man who can take care of things. Being a tradesman and a mechanic, I just automatically maintain and repair anything around home that needs it. I've been told that is a very attractive trait and skill set. The problem living with a man who can do pretty much anything is some women will start feeling inferior about their own self worth. Then they start talking about the things the do being so exhausting and laborious and complaining that I just never do enough to help them, even though I spent far more hours working around home every week than they did. Not to mention my work wasn't loading and unloading machines that automatically did the work for me. I had to physically work. I NEVER put a woman down because she primarily did interior housework or had only a part time job or no job at all. I was appreciative of the things they did. Yet they acted as if the things I did, which would've cost massive amounts of money to hire someone to do really didn't count as doing my part or carrying my weight at home. There were some serious inferiority complexes in play.

Being mentally and emotionally strong is another. I don't need a woman to mother me. We didn't have any kids and my ex-wife didn't feel needed because she had no one to mother. She eventually left me for a guy on psych meds and health issues who could barely read. No amount of appreciation, encouragement or uplifting will convince a woman with an inferiority complex that she has value. She'll argue and fight for her self perceived limitations and blame you for their existence.

[tomhohl]

Vulnerability? "She would rather see me die on my white horse than fall from it."
Emotions? Emotions are feminine. She'll lose respect for you. No matter how she begs you to open up. Don't do it! It will permanently damage your relationship. Experience.

[led]

Women have also said to me, she wants this, she requires, she would like, she doesn't want, she needs, she must have.

The only thing I've asked of a woman is loyalty and they have always failed at it.

[davidm]

Society likes to throw around "toxic masculinity" but I am just so tired of dealing with toxic women.

It's ubiquitous at this point and men are just over it.

Thank you for helping to open women's eyes. Hopefully it will make a difference.

[aidancampbell]

A lot of this is the idea that “I’ll be happy if I can get (fill in the blank)”.
It’s an excuse to not work on themselves, an excuse to not take accountability for their role in toxic relationships.
If you’re not happy in yourself, you’ll never be happy in a relationship and you will find ways to project the source of that unhappiness onto your partner.

[backyardrailroader]

I can add another one.
#11: A man with many interests or hobbies.

As for the ten that you gave, I honestly have experienced all of them at one time or another with women I have been around.
But, on the wrong side of it:
Not intelligent enough- no degree
Too emotional.
Not high status-blue collar worker
Not enough money
Wrong type of interests ( #11)
You get my position....

[ericcamarda]

Henry Ford said if people were to be asked what they wanted, they’d say a faster horse.

[danmagoo]

The "sense of humor" one is very true. When asked, women will always put "sense of humor" or "makes me laugh" at the top of their list. But if they meet a man like that, within 5 minutes the woman will be saying "Whyyyy can't you be SEEERIOUS?!!"

[THillick]

All a man wants is fidelity and peace.