How to Release Shame

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The Holistic Psychologist

[evedangerfield]

I feel shame around the fact that my ego still expects me to be perfect. Giving it a goofy name and imagining it as a beefy overzealous bro that’s always trying to get me to do more pushups is how I smile and heal 💜

[ericgersbacher]

“A lot of us are feeling really ashamed.. at our inability to change things.” Stuck and in some subconscious patterns!!

[sydneyrak]

“We are more than our conditioning”, that’s really powerful to hear. Thank you

[dooorthvader]

dr nicole just KNOWWSS what i need to hear. such perfect timing

[sumernoel]

Exactly perfect. I lived through intense childhood trauma & I got out, did healing work, created a pretty normal life & for a long time the trauma was gone…it seemed. Then, all the things that have happened since Covid in our world triggered that old wound & boy, have I been in every one of those listed items. Definitely felt frozen in my reaction unable to release the fear & frustrated w myself that I’m acting out old patterns. I believe now that I’ve been experiencing C-PTSD. I know where it comes from just not so much how to stop my reaction. I’ve just started seeking help & this is a perfect reminder that it’s ok, I can forgive myself, that I can keep picking myself up, & support is a good thing. Love your work! Thank you 🙏

[hennuhpi]

I feel so validated with the content of this video.. This also inspires me to understand myself more and build self-compassion.. which then leads to a healthier way of acknowledging and taking accountability of my unhealthy actions.

[Latoree]

I've been shamed my whole life. Being in my late 60's it hasn't been easy. Today is so different compared to how I grew up and I just carried shame with me my whole life.
Thank you I so appreciate these videos to help us on our journey's.

[marysparade]

Today I am feeling particularly shameful and this video was very helpful to understand myself.

[sarahjohnson]

I love this. I have felt shame recently over the end of a relationship in which old attachment struggles came up and were very powerful. I am learning now to validate the intense emotions that can occur for me in close relationships and give myself compassion when I feel fear or the urge to avoid. It feels good to let go of guilt over not being "fully healed", but instead to acknowledge my progress each day and each year and continue developing compassion, insight, and healthy patterns. Thank you Dr. Nicole <3

[radicalhonesty]

lots arises in me
as I watch this video.
mainly this:
I'm falling,
again, for another
unavailable person...
because the illusion and fantasy and escape
of this person, is all I've got...
so I let myself fall.
let myself get attached.
because I'm old now,
and the deepest shame and agony
of my life, is that I've never-ever been
in an intimate-romantic relationship...
and the reality of this anguishes me, consumes me.
fills me with: grief, shame, rage, longing, loneliness, despair,
wanting, needing, desperation...
so I cling, achingly, to anyone
that shows me: any attention...

[haliec]

You have a wonderful gentleness with your delivery of this message. It helps to feel that I can be more kind to myself. Permission not be be shameful of shaming. Thank you

[theanxietymd]

I love being able to see the OLD PATTERNS and THEN seeing the CHOICE —even if you don't take it! When you SEE it you don't have to BE it! I do exactly what you are explaining, thank you for expressing it so eloquently!

[ljkohable]

I've been stuck here with shame. I thought i was stuck with neglect. Now its shame.

[jkwinckler]

Wow did I need to hear this today! This week I had a ton of extra work +stress, compounded by CoVID and election stress, and fell off my morning meditation and writing routine this week. Immediately became self-critical. Thanks for reframing these experiences 👍

[sarah.marco]

Ive been doing ego work and i really find myself in tears when i just start believing the stories it says. I have to really journal and self talk myself out of destruction. I know I need to accept it. Thanks for this 🧡❤️

[patronustrip]

The thing that I love about this channel (just found it!) is how the therapist talks about their own struggle and experience, sharing the burden with us listening and how they coped with it. Great videos! Thanks so much for these.

[michellevasquez]

Not even half way through...this is so good. Thank you!

[catherinesinclair]

Give yourself grace compassion and flexibility for your very real wounds..do not feel shame for your wounds..thank you so much. Never heard this articulated before. Cried

[abil]

"We are so much more than our conditioning." Thank you! ❤

[jennifermichel]

Falling off the routine is part of the journey. Thank you. Just what I needed to hear.