Are narcissists happy?

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[michelleharvey]

Look in there eyes. It’s like looking at a dead person. No empathy, no life

[taotaostrong]

I think happiness almost bores them. They seem more comfortable in their misery and the chaos that comes with dragging others along in the drama. They are allergic to quiet joy. 🤧

[jolly]

Narcs are often sullen with their "loved ones, " but let a stranger knock at the front door, my goodness, the narcissist suddenly jumps up, turns on the superficial charm with the person, and becomes happy as a lark, which adds insult to injury to the targeted significant other.

[kennywally]

this is so true. The best definition of a narcissist I've heard. They don't have true deep empathy for others. It's all about them.

[manmanman]

They are happy if they can hurt you. If they aren't happy they will hurt you.

[phemyda]

Their happiness is shallow because it's built on shallow things. They're afraid of intimacy and vulnerability so they are incapable of experiencing true happiness.

[zaeinabafsari]

They are happy by their own standards.
For me, their life is a hell.

[kendrariedelrealestateprof]

My narc said he had everything exactly how he wanted it, when I was feeling so desperately miserable 😔 that's when I knew I had to leave. That was so wrong.

[samphazm]

I don’t think they realise that they’re un-happy. Total disconnection within themselves.

[catitude]

People like this are not worth the trouble. I don't care if they are happy or angry.

[wayticketsncarryons]

This was my experience 100%. We would have an amazing day and suddenly they were upset and we’d fight. I’d look at myself in the mirror and I wouldn’t even recognize who I became with them. I always thought, if I do this or that better, maybe we won’t fight next time. Not true. Living on eggshells is not a comfortable place to live.

[hollyjackson]

Are narcissists happy? As the Little Shaman says “We can use their behavior to judge their happiness. Do people who are truly happy and love themselves need to hurt and degrade others to feel better about themselves? Do they need to feel like someone else lost to feel like they won? Do they use people, manipulate others? Do happy people constantly complain that nothing is good enough, that no one does enough for them? Do they go around constantly saying ‘what about me’? No, they don’t.”

[anupriyabanerjee]

Once these narcissist matures, they control their emotions really well and gaslight the other person constantly for pleasure.

[MsKK]

When I was living with my Narc, I noticed that his steady State was very volatile...he was never content...he could get excited about something..a new car... a new golf club...a new outfit... a new woman (his favorite).... but happy? I never saw it.

[Sunny-iqhm]

I have found that they are happiest when they're making others miserable! They complain "woe is me, woe is the world, isn't everyone and everything miserable?". You're left feeling down, and they walk away with a smile!! Not anymore!

[jeniferjohnson]

I’ve also noticed narcissist is constantly on the hunt to make the ppl around them look bad either by circumstance or by their own power

[MsMichelle]

They are deeply empty and unhappy yet they will act grandiose and off the wall not realizing how fake they come across. Jumping up and down when something great happens is fleeting. That isn't what deep happiness looks like. True happiness is peaceful and comforting. It's contentment. A Narc will NEVER know what contentment feels like. Ironically they will accuse you of being a downer because we aren't acting like Golden Retrievers all the time, not realizing that they are the truly miserable ones.

[jcat]

If they're happy that means you're allowing them to control you. Test them and they flip

[nancycharraga]

Happy people don't use & abuse others- only miserable people do that.

[moirafion]

I noticed that my former husband of 17 years didn't have the ability to generate his own happiness like a normal person can. He was emotionally dependent upon other people providing him with that feeling, and when that didn't happen, he felt that they had failed him.