Depression and relationship difficulties explained by Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT)

In this video, Les Greenberg explains how depression and relationship difficulties can be helped by getting to the core, primary emotion through Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT).

This video is an excerpt taken from two training videos featuring Les, available to purchase at the following links:

This material includes an EFT therapy session, commentary about the session from Les Greenberg and 40 minutes of bonus content.

[MediCali]

took the words right out of my feelings and thoughts. The struggle is getting people to listen, hear, and understand it and not blame and judge you . People cry for help and understanding, at least that means you haven’t lost full control of yourself. But when they quickly judge, assume and abandon you it heightens . It’s like a hamster on a wheel going super fast but you want to get off and it’s still going to the point of loosing conscience

[victoriamichelle]

My boyfriend is definitely struggling right now with depression and PTSD, I'm doing everything I can to help and make things easier for him at home. But it's so hard. It so hard to support a loved one especially when he isn't getting help. But I also can't imagine what he is going through either.

[Vladimyrful]

This man summed my life up under a minute.

[MalinmedM]

Wow this explains everything in such a great way. I instantly felt YES! Thats it! Why has no therapist ever seen this profound shame and unlovableness inside me and helped with that?

[robinkorch-schwing]

I wish there were more people/doctors/family members that understand what you just said. Depression, Anxiety with Panic attacks and PTSD with multiple traumas and SI are no joke. I feel like I’m trying to make others comfortable and try to hide something that is a part of you. I will be starting Ketamine therapy as a last resort. Not covered by insurance
Which adds another stressor. I might be well at hiding it one day by crying somewhere safe and next day unable to hold it in. Then I’m asked but you were fine yesterday, or go for a walk and shake it off. I even had the providers I worked for tell me things like anxiety can’t cause physical symptoms. I beg to differ.
But the frustration of family and former coworkers truly make you feel like a freak and abandon you. Sadly insurances are covering less and less because they are trying to recoup money d/t influx of people needing help. I am 56 and am completely unable to work as an RN or anywhere for that matter. Now unemployed, it has put strains on my marriage. I spontaneously cry and get asked, why are you crying which makes me so frustrated. I am putting these horrible experiences out there because we need to take away the stigma. My husband is embarrassed of my mental health issues and even though I know he doesn’t understand it makes me feel soooo alone. I just hope that anyone reading this can that relates in some way knows your not alone. We have to just try and get help and those who think they can, share your experience and if that is too much for you I understand. I know I went on a rant but the warmth coming from this channel helped me feel comfortable. I will pray for kindness and understanding for those who are suffering! THANKYOU for listening!

[cadymacon]

This is incredibly, incredibly helpful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[India]

This is so relieving. I feel like I've just done a therapy session.

[ToThoseWhoVanished]

The need for love n validation is met, and yet hopelessness and unhappiness persists. Biological functioning of the brain has a part to play in depression.

[nurasyura]

When he explain about the core becoming depress make me cry bcause that is what I feeling right now..feeling shame, worthles & unlovable..always need a validation from others to make me feel accepted..I use to be rejected by many people make me affaid to open up..😢

[varnishyourboard]

Two years after getting dumped I can't move on and be okay with being alone. Feeling love and acceptance is a powerful drug and I wish I could rid myself of longing for her. CBT, Antidepressants, TMS and DBT have nothing to alleviate the stress of wanting something I have no idea how to get

[subtropical]

anybody else cry real tears watching this

[promisemaliwa]

I love the way this man is describing me ☹️

[Sjshb]

My BF has PTSD. His parents fought a lot when he was little. Well, we had a fight and I yelled at him. I apologized right away. It’s been a month and he’s still not really talking to me. He admitted that he’s fallen into a depression. He told me I can call or text him. I’ve talked to him at least once a week. But I think I’m going to hold back a little. I want him to miss. I’m so sad about this and it’s hard to function everyday. 💔😢

[sayaya]

this was extremely helpful thank you so much doctor

[MikeyBAAZ]

I'm a 40 male all I need is a woman and I set I cried yesterday for 2 hours like the song by Elton John "I want Love." I do have Bipolar 1, GAD, PTSD, and have never had a woman in my life, and people are going to criticize me for not having one maybe I had a girl like a friend but never a relationship. That's what I want, I just don't know how to play the game. The worst people that criticize are polacks. It Hurts (being alone)

[priyankanahata]

My husband had major heart attack few months back, and after that he's totally changed person, sometimes he's very happy, and sometimes he's just pissed off. Before the attack he loved cooking, we would go out in Sunday's, he would play with my son, but now he just stays alone in one room doesn't interacts much. I don't know what should I do.
Can anyone help me how to deal and support him.

[youngboyjg]

You know something I've been dealing with some feelings emotions and I'm so tired of my people making me feel like I'm the one whose being disloyal but they get to do whatever they wanna do and start talking about me to they're friends and that's so fuccin sad asf ❤️🥺 that's why I have an suicidal thoughts and I feel like I don't belong to the world at all 🥺💔

[newtonmoon]

Thank you for the great series. One question, if emotions are temporary, how can we get to the underlying emotion?

[fredo]

My wife have anxiety depression and she always think that she is wrong everytime we have an argument or disagreement. I’m tired i feel like I’m gonna mental breakdown and sometimes i want to end my life because I can’t handle her.

[alexh]

My girlfriend said she can’t listen to me talk about my depression, so I close myself out and she then gets upset because I’m so distant, so I can only talk about simpler things, I can talk about my bad day but can’t talk about my bad life