Why Narcissists Don’t Love Their Kids

[nadinecolbath]

So, THAT explains it!!!! Thanks for this!! Now I know why he treats them like cold water.

[darlenes]

It took me 30 years to understand this- and a LOT of heartbreak

[christinahavel]

My mom in a nutshell raising me. My dad was the better parent, tbh. She was always looking for me to praise her, and when I did, in the long run, she hurt me. She’d isolate me, start rumors about me, etc.


My other friend was the golden child and she wasn’t even my sibling. She would come over and hang out with my mom and she’d be out on this pedestal and praise her for being her. If I got some award it got ignored and she’d be dismissive and when family would ask about it, she’d say that she got the award herself.

[julie]

First narc proved it ‘ if I can’t have you I don’t want them ‘ ! His words like they were some part of package that only comes with me!
Second covert malignant, I found whilst young very interested in the children, whilst sponges to mould for later supply, once they gain an opinion or voice they seem to disappear they can’t handle that, but come with a weekly visit an hour or quick phone call a night to tell them how he loves them, remember he’s getting older, he’s already made joking comments (whilst I was with him) why do you think we had youse it’s to take care of us in old age, already making them aware it will be there responsibility 😢❤

[UNIQLUVIN]

This explains sooo much to me, thank you!

[Cbt]

Wow!!! That sealed the deal… now I know she’s a true narcissist. Home cooked meals for her dogs and a pop tart on the plate for the kids 😮

[amphibious]

So when I leave her and the kids are stuck with her, what then? How do I protect them? There’s no way the court will take them from her without drugs or physical abuse in this state. At best I can hope she’ll go for 50/50 but keeping them from me will destroy me and she knows that so she’ll probably fight to keep me away. She got to witness all this with my ex wife and knows the game plan and that that IS my biggest weakness and once again her family will financially support her and I can’t afford the fight. I feel like all I can hope is that she’ll want them out of the way so she can resupply. Im so fucking lost and scared. All I want to do is leave but I cant just leave my kids. She already triangulates against the middle one, she does him the same way she does me and now I know she doesnt even love them😭.

[turkeeg]

Yeah then they think they owe them for the rest of their lives.

[cp]

Narcissists and small children both have needs, like vampires. You can't give to someone from an empty cup.

[melodyslocum]

And if the daughter exceeds the mother in beauty and talent, oh boy! Now I know what mumzie was all about. This is why I decided to not be like her. And I had my own image to develop good thing. My sister wasnt as strong as me. sad.

[Nyc]

my son is now w dad and dads feelings is so hurt, that he deleted my and my sons bond, my son already big cant see daddy crying like baby over his feelings, idk what else can happen...

[MLopez]

I felt he didn’t try to make me leave him because of the the tax money that’s the only reason my kids were good for to him and I say my kids even though they are his too because he didn’t care for them at all. This is a sad reality.

[梨-il]

So what the hell happens when my parents and my ex are all narcissists. How am I meant to ever find someone safe? Will there ever be? Is it me? Am I the problem?

[ericcraig]

So true, the ex narc (she) couldn't give a f **k about them, all 4, all she thought about was Drink,

[wolfpower]

My ex’s daughter is his drinking partner. That’s the biggest reason I left.