How to not sell your soul to the internet: a tutorial

How to prevent the feelings of regret and discomfort associated with oversharing personal information online, i.e. how to not sell your soul to the internet.

References:
James, W. (1890). The Principles of Psychology. New York: Henry Holt.

Penn, J. (2019). Public Speaking for Authors, Creatives, and Other Introverts. Curl Up Press.

Stuff & Things:
- Camera: Sony ZV-1
- Editing: Final Cut Pro

Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
00:45 What does that even mean?
01:50 Why do content creators overshare online?
08:37 Why is online oversharing a problem?
13:30 How to not sell your soul to the internet
17:50 Actionable steps to prevent soul selling
19:30 Limitations & Conclusion

[lrnjulie]

Kant did not say "know thyself" guys it is a saying inscribed on the Temple of Apollo

[MickeyRaySinghell]

Something I heard about authenticity that really stuck with me was like (Paraphrasing here): "You don't have to share your whole self to be authentic. It's okay to keep some for yourself. It's not about the amount you give; it's that you give something real."

[Protomangsk]

was just drawing up a contract to sell my soul to the internet thanks for this!

[goodbye]

speaking from experience, i think one of the reasons why some people tend to overshare online is because of loneliness. posting about their thoughts and emotions online with an audience to speculate gives them the illusion of a shared situationship, even if superficial.

[armanishmael]

"thinking our online audience has a good understanding of who we are as people" is so dangerous! there is such a big disconnect between who we are & who we are perceived to be sometimes

[TheArtofGuitar]

Why is this NOT a Ted Talk? They should be calling you! Actually maybe they don't deserve it. Great video.

[Vladyyy]

It's interesting to hear this take on "selling your soul".

Oversharing has never been a problem for me in my life and I never really view others sharing (what others might call) an excessive amount of information as "oversharing". I always just see it as them sharing the level of information at which they are most comfortable sharing with others.

Like how we all like the thermostat at a certain temperature. We all have varying degrees of openness and how willing we are to share information with others.

Not to mention it's (what we share online) all ENTIRELY optional. So whatever that person shares, they 100% decided to do it themselves. Their hand wasn't forced at all.

Even for the biggest celebrities, nobody is REALLY demanding them to tell everyone how they decide which loaf of bread to buy on Saturday or expecting them to release an essay on why they broke up with so and so. Their followers aren't saying "tell me or I'm never going to support you again."

I view individuals "selling their soul" as people who give up their individuality for the sake of attention, fame, money etc.

Doing things like: regularly following trends, saying controversial things simply for a reaction, promoting products they don't care for, treating their supporters as being beneath them, making obnoxious Mr. Beast style thumbnails, lying/exaggerating to spur engagement, doing things they don't like just for attention, not even knowing what it is they like themselves etc. (assuming they did not regularly do these things before).

[zanouji]

How is this the best documentation of all time

[izzieasreading]

i read the title without the "not" and now i know something about myself i didn't want to know

[RSousa-ruxi]

we, strangers, commenting on this video and loving this channel are part of a paradox.

[MassiveJetGrind]

You are completely right. All YouTubers need separate journals as you describe. The ego of some YouTubers and personalities on other platforms spins out of control because they don't do as Dr. Lauren prescribes. You should submit these videos to your professors, and they should accept them for a 100% grade. You are the absolute bomb. The Queen Nuke.

[Thistrueone]

okay but why is nobody talking about the amazing idea with the sketchbook? It feels like a cute little presentation and I can visualise everything much better. Honestly such a great vid

[JuliusNarte]

i realised i made a great mistake from uploading some videos of my channel
i tend to overshare, but i do that to make my audience relate to me.
because stories impact more than just knowledge.

[JesusIsReal]

This video got that OG 2000s feel bro bro!!!

[lilyliciousss]

This was so insightful. Honestly I’ve been worried about putting myself online bc I’ve always felt like yeah, I’m selling a part of myself. It’s scary in a way but also nice to use your voice. Anyway this video is definitely making me think about it and knowing how I can still keep parts of myself reserved while still making content . A happy balance ❤

[wmnbl]

I can feel that’s so much effort goes into making this video. I rarely comment on yt but hopefully this helps with algorithm to reach more ppl.

[zvezdoblyat]

Very interesting. It reminds me of Harry potter for some reason. When Tom says that Ginny gave so much of her soul by writing in a diary (and overstating personal details about her life) that he was able to consume it and emerge in a physical form.

It also reminds me of another YouTube who had been posting for around 5 years. She shared too much about herself imo, and was never careful about concealing her surroundings near her home. She apparently got stalked due to a fan finding out her address and showing up at her apartment and left YouTube

[VivekHaldar]

Really appreciate the way you construct your arguments and present them.

[charmedprince]

The sarcasm and audacity in the title is OUTSTANDING 😂

[DrowsySpace]

I've been waiting a video like this for so long. You're a lovely and kind person, and your videos gave me mental peace, keep going 💙💙💙