My Family Treats Me Like A Doormat. Now, They Are Planning A Cruise Without Me....- Reddit Family

My Family Treats Me Like A Doormat. Now, They Are Planning A Cruise Without Me....- Reddit Family
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My Family Treats Me Like A Doormat. Now, They Are Planning A Cruise Without Me And Assuming I’d Stay Behind To Babysit Their Kids.
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OOP, a 25-year-old software developer, had always been the dependable one in her family, frequently sacrificing her time and plans to help her siblings, particularly with childcare. Despite her demanding job, she was consistently relied upon for last-minute crises. The breaking point came when she discovered her family had planned a cruise to celebrate her aunt’s retirement and excluded her, assuming she would stay behind to babysit her nieces and nephews without her consent. Shocked and hurt, she confronted her family, who dismissed her feelings and emphasized her role as “the responsible one.” Her sister Rachel even justified the decision by pointing out that OOP’s lack of children made her the obvious choice.

Instead of complying, OOP used the vacation days she had already requested and rented a secluded cabin for herself. She ignored the flood of angry calls and messages from her family, accusing her of being selfish and blaming her for disrupting their plans. Despite manipulative tactics, including guilt-tripping and threats, OOP held firm, realizing this was part of a long-standing pattern of exploitation where her needs were consistently overlooked.

Upon returning, OOP took decisive steps to reclaim her life. She cut contact with Rachel and Madison, blocked them on social media, and set firm boundaries with her mother. While her family continued to guilt her, OOP recognized the importance of prioritizing her own mental health and happiness. She also began rediscovering her passions, such as hiking and photography, and started planning for her future, including pursuing a master’s degree and traveling to Europe.

Reflecting on the situation, OOP acknowledged the emotional toll of distancing herself from her family but found peace in her decision. Aunt Jean, the family matriarch, supported her, affirming that walking away from toxic dynamics was sometimes necessary. With the help of therapy, OOP let go of the guilt imposed by her family and embraced a new chapter of independence and self-discovery.
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[LAOCHPadre]

I love the "do you know how much I sacrificed and put on hold to raise you" guilt trip. Like, you're the one who had unprotected sex and then decided to be spiteful about it later. What do you want, a cookie? You had a kid. Raise the kid, love the kid, kiss your shallow dreams that were never going to come true goodbye, and shut the hell up about it. You could have used a condom or given her up for adoption. You didnt. That's your choice.

[steampunkfox]

For those who don’t know the proper quote for “Blood is thicker than water” is “The blood of the covenant is thicker than the blood of the womb” basically the blood of religion is more important than the blood of the family

[Its_like_the_T-Rex]

I actually had something similar happen to me but it was the opposite. My older sister used me for free everything, including babysitting, painting her house, dog sitting, someone to talk at (not with)... once the kids were old enough she didn't need me anymore so she went NC. It devastated me and I went through years of suicidal depression. After therapy I realized how much she used me. It made me angry and to this day we don't speak. Some people are just users and abusers and they see those around them as a means to getting what they need. Today I am happy with my found family.

[RachaelWhitefoot]

I hope her family reads that and all the comments people left. I'm glad she broke away from her abusive family and is thriving.

[mistyburkett]

Love how selfish entitled people calls someone selfish when they say no

[Brandon-ud]

How could they call the police on you for abandoning their kids

[dianesinger]

Seriously glad you took off they are using you. I like that you prioritizing yourself
They should have taken the kids with them. Start saying no to them more.

[The_anomaly_eater]

Lol IDC if these stories are all fake, it's just good. Nobody remembers this level of detail or speaks with this language on a post but I like them

[roberthickman]

Is this ever goes to court the judge will literally laugh completely out and then dismiss it.

[gudrunnigg]

Go away. Dont Tell anyone and cut ties

[LadyBern]

"Blood is thicker than water." Yeah and y'all are causing me blood clots.

Creative writing wording aside this was a fun one to listen to.

[ThatbishLeesha]

You never asked me to watch the kids, so how was I supposed to let you know I was unavailable 🤷🏼‍♀️

[MIDZYwhoONCEfoundanNSWERKISSY]

2:20 don’t u just love it when ur mum and sister identity as Fahrenheit

[lashunelillie]

Why would you even wanna be around them? After all this, you should never wanna be around such awful people

[CalebDurocher]

They treated op like dhe was the bbdaddy lol

[notaspeck]

I know this is fake but the ‘blood is thicker than water’ thing makes me viscerally angry. The full saying is ‘the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb’. Like Jesus Christ, people who use the former abbreviated version are literally using a saying that argues the EXACT OPPOSITE of what they’re trying to argue. It’s insane. As a society, we’ve truly in terms of public education.

[fakherabanu]

Why do the ages have Fahrenheit next to it💀

[outmyway]

A testament to hope and human strength

[FKKTruthahn]

So why didn't she talk to her aunt the 'family matriarch'?

[carmensanchez]

Stop babysitting tell them no I will not after the way yall treated me