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Why is it that we seem to be attracted to certain people who only give us scraps of attention? It often happens when we tell ourselves that someone is so rare and desirable that they’re worth holding on to even if they don’t want the same things as us.

In today’s video, I’ll show you the trap that many people end up falling into, plus one key quality that results in more commitment. Whether you’re sick of superficial situationships or want to learn how to grow closer in your relationship, this is for you!

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0:00 – 1:35 – If You Want a Committed Relationship . . .
1:35 – 4:51 – Why We Lower Our Standards
4:51 – 6:45 – Chasing the Wrong Metrics
6:45 – 7:52 – What Drives Us
7:52 – 9:43 – Moving Beyond the Superficial
9:43 – 10:20 – Multiple Realities We Can Choose From
10:20 – 12:33 – The Quality That Results in More Commitment
12:33 – 14:04 – Discipline Begets Discipline
14:04 – 17:27 – An Evergreen Respect

[atty.veronicainoturanosg]

Unfortunately, based on my personal experiences & observations, a lot of people LIE & PRETEND to also want commitment. But what they really mean is they just want the benefits, sans the responsibilities. It's so painful & heartbreaking to eventually find out that yet another person has taken you for a ride (i.e., taken advantage of your love & kindness or taken you for granted).

[sarahwren]

I read that Lincoln said this: “Discipline is a choice between what you want now and what you want most.”
I remember this daily.

[kateaghaghiri]

Thank you 1000 times for including aging people’s photos in this. I am 70 and just broke off a 2 year relationship with someone I had once dated in high school. It hurts to my core and adding to that aging makes me feel like it’s over for me forever.
I was settling for bread crumbs because I thought at my age it was all I could get. Especially after looking at my long life patterns.
Your videos and especially this one has helped get me to the point of examining my worth and being disciplined enough to accept nothing less.

[deborahwalker]

I chose myself first, still do. Did the work, changed my vibe. It worked. Not nearly as many superficial people showing up now.

[EdelweisSusie]

What I've learned since my ex destroyed my life by wearing a mask for 4 years then abandoning me without a word, is that women need to closely observe a man's ACTIONS and not his words: how does he deal with crisis situations; is he there for YOU when you have a problem; what does he do to remedy the situation; are you top of his list of priorities or aren't you even on the list?? All these tell you about the INTEGRITY of the man: and if he isn't talking commitment after a year or so don't waste your time on him - move on.

[ParagraphGurr]

There is a unshakeable faith that I have based on consistent positive outcomes that God has granted me in my life. No matter the heartbreak and tough lessons, I am still here, still functioning and still given the chance to choose future outcomes. This faith keeps me from being jaded and helpless because as I am working on myself, so is the man that is meant for me. He is a man that I haven’t met and will not meet until I am ready. I worry less about anyone that comes into my life until then because at the very least, I am walking with Him that will always protect and reciprocate my love.

[thecommonsensecapricorn]

For me it’s as simple as not sleeping with men and getting to know them in a platonic way before moving into romance/intimacy.

[Frederiekje]

What I learned from Matthew: commitment is not the ring, the wedding, or some magic words uttered. Commitment is shown in actions. Does he SHOW your feelings, your wellbeing is as important to him as his is to yours? When you ask, for instance, to solve a problem, does he show the kind of willingness to help that someone would if you mattered to him? Do his priorities imply he's with you for the long term? Does he choose the course of action that truly benefits you and you both, or the course of action that only benefits him and his control over you ( gaslighting you, blaming you, belittling you for having this problem, etc)

[Shanieceflordi]

Fantastic video My five-year relationship ended a month ago. The decision to part ways with the love of my life is something that truly consumes me. Though it's all in vain, I've tried everything to get him back, and I can't fathom my life with anyone else. Even though I've made every effort to quit thinking about him, I can't help but miss him and can't stop thinking about him. Why I am stating this here is beyond me.

[rakcityequine.]

I feel like everyone here needs to read this.

Unavailable people (people who are dating others) do not do last minute plans created by you.

They will never be available for you on your time.

If they are in a real committed relationship they absolutely won't be available on weekends and most nights especially closer to the weekends.

Also, people already in relationships won't go out with you to local pubs near their home or living area. They will want to travel the way to you and go to quiet dive bars where it is less likely they will be noticed and disguise it as intimate conversations

[gaellelebray]

Settling for breadcrumbs when people have been emotionally deprived for a long time is an easy choice especially when the fear of ending up alone kicks in. It takes a lot of courage, personal development work on self worth, respecting our own values and standing strong in our non-negotiables to decide that someone isn’t for us and realise very quickly the real incompatibilities so we minimise the energy investment in something that long term will be more painful and a waste of time. It’s not easy but it feels like by remaining single and yet open hearted, we have a space for the ‘right’ person to come in.❤

[IndigoHazelnut]

Oddly enough the concept that 'just because someone else's reality is as such, it does not need to be mine too' has been swirling in my head the last two days 😊

[juliehogan]

I should have left 4 years ago when ALL the red flags were there. I kept coming back to you Matthew, throughout the relationship and everything you said aligned completely with how I was being treated. But I kept giving the benefit of the doubt.

I'm back for the last time as I dumped his ass 2 weeks ago. Gone for GOOD this time, thankfully! The moral of the story? Ladies.. please listen to Matthew he is speaking 100% the truth!

[darcyferrier]

Matthew’s content at the moment definitely knows there’s a situationship abundance. Matthew thanks for your help, the epidemic of no commitment seriously sucks ☹️

[tasrajwani]

I like the "We also have to give a little more credit to the world" point. I absolutely agree! We only see and attract what we believe. Great video!!!

[studioart]

I waited for more than a year before intimacy. I got to know him + thought we were best friends + soul mates. He still dumped me without reason or warning +then ghosted me

[changemakercoaching]

I absolutely love the passionate way you speak about what you believe is true Matthew.
I’ve just joined your LL Club.
Thank you for the effort you put into creating videos like this one.

I am proud to share that I showed discipline with the last man who came into my life - we had sexual chemistry but I didn’t get intimate with him.
Felt wonderful to have his respect and feel in control. He ended up not being available, but it was fantastic dating practice!

[ShopgirlNY]

When dating apps don’t have any matches for you and they recommend you adjust your filters, to me that always seemed like them saying lower your standards and maybe you’ll have more matches. No thanks I’ll pass.

[Trex]

Right on time. I keep stating my standards that I want relationship, not friends with benefits.. Keep being strung along a little bit but 9/10 times I walk away less hurt than if I wasnt so focussed.
I'm not sure I am comfortable with being put in the friend zone, I walk away. (If I accept it, it means Ive found better than what the man offered. Hey, thats why men do it to us women..)

It means I am alone but I have more time to look after myself and my goals that dont revolve around the idea that I MUST have a relationship.
Do I have to be the hot one..? Ive never been the hot one. I have turned into the independant one. I'm not upset about it. I wished I'd done it sooner.
..

[Mystic_Paths]

Committed partners often provide a sense of emotional safety and stability, knowing they are invested in the relationship and willing to navigate challenges together.