THIS is why we cry

Key Points
00:00 - The reason we cry
00:22 - When we cry
02:19 - When other people cry

[Plushcat]

My 17 year old dog died this week and I cried my guts out. And though some of the tears were due to loss, and the difficulty of the final goodbye; I would say the main reason for crying was because of the overwhelming deep gratitude I had for all the joy, love and acceptance he had given me. Safe travels Bailey, I love you. 🐾🌈💖✨🕊️

[bthersme]

Never could stop the tears. Father raged until I cried, then screamed more when I did - accusing me of "turning on the waterworks" to manipulate him... which had the opposite effect. So the insanity of the accusation was maddening. I'm in my 60s, I still cry reflexively when I'm tired, sick, frustrated, angry, and sometimes sad. Spouse knows to tell me a joke, distract me, give me place to breathe and reorient.

[jadzia_rene]

I’m 29 and CRY all the time. People shame me for it, even my mom but I will not suppress how my body naturally reacts to stress

[nyarparablepsis]

"You don't need to apologise for a natural human response" felt so good. ❤

(Having a bad CPTSD day today, and have to just allow the crying to happen without feeling shame.)

[ryannesumbry]

“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about “ I heard that a lot growing up that’s why I feel so ashamed of myself when crying 😢 over small things

[earthzeroapothecary]

My sister started crying on the phone this morning and I told her not to stop until she was ready. Crying turns our emotions into water (tears).

[luisaa.]

I allow myself to cry, but I see we are not educated when someone else cries. Great info, thank you.

[stitchinginthebarn]

Because of these videos, I've finally given permission to myself to cry. I also apologized to my children for telling them not to cry. This literally happened this morning and brought a lot of healing tears. That you posted this video today lets me know I'm on the right track. Thank you so much!

[barbied]

Crying helps me to release stuck energy! 🥰

[jcsrst]

I cry a lot. A lifetimes worth of tears finally finding release!

[aaronjohn]

4:39 4:39 I had to learn how to cry because I thought if I did the tears of anger, grief and hurt would never stop. The message from my family was we have no time for your fear or pain. Society or life was mean and cruel, the message was nobody cares about your feelings. I had to find a way out of the internalized numbness and disregard for my feelings. It's not easy to learn how to cry but it can be done. When I cry every tear is a reminder that I do matter. That my hopes and dreams matter and that in the end my boundaries matter.

[WitchfulWonders]

It's not always a flight or fight thing. I often cry when I'm overwhelmed by awe, or awesomeness.

[aishai]

This is a game changer. I thought I was crying because i couldn’t release the pain, but I’m releasing it BY crying.

[spacegirl]

My problem is that I can't cry. I know I'm hurt and have been hurt for pretty much the entirety of my life through my childhood trauma and my marriage. I can't cry for myself. I have few problems crying when I feel touched by someone or some thing, but the ability to cry for me is missing. I know I'm hurt, I know I'm sad, I know I would NEVER have chosen the life that was forced upon me, but I can squeeze out a couple tears and then my body tells me I'm done.

This has been one of the hardest parts I've encountered in my healing process. I've learned just how deep and compressed my emotions are, and trying to tease them out and feel safe letting them go has been so incredibly difficult. One day I'll get there.

Thanks, Nicole.

[ChooseTruthAlways]

Crying helps me realize what s essential and what's not...

[jazzsoul]

I go through periods where I need to cry and am too stressed to let it out, because we live in a " be perfect or go away" world. I get abandoned by my family for having any problems so I talk to a few people for support. Cats are helpful to, to a large degree.

[sharynbailey]

Until about a week ago I went over 12 months without crying. I felt the need to cry - especially at a family members funeral - but just couldn't let the tears flow. They were blocked. 

Then I realised that my not crying had coincided with commencing a low dose antidepressant over 12 months earlier, along with a subconscious fear of crying from childhood messaging. So I tapered off the antidepressant over several weeks & last week the damn broke. It felt SO good. Now tears are welling often & appropriately, & I realise there must me a lot of unexpressed grief/trauma stuck in my body from the past 12 months of stuckness. 

Not suggesting this is the solution for everyone at all, but it seems I am super sensitive to antidepressants & they do have a profound affect on me - esp when it comes to crying.

[athlene]

I cry all the time and wondered if there was something wrong with me. Thank you for this video. It makes so much sense especially the part about relegating your body after you cry.

[garlicgalore]

Excellent explanation of how crying re-regulates the emotional system and how to be around someone who's crying. Thank you.

[Ariadne-kd]

I hate it when people say "don't cry." Or "STOP CRYING!"