Husband Stitch

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[Jynxxyravedoll]

"Absolutely."
*proceeds to stitch husbands mouth shut*

[mahamm]

I remember this person saying that the doctor actually replied with “ no amount of stitches will make it small enough for you “

[marshamills]

During a visit to my OB/GYN (male) several weeks after giving birth, I complained about how much sex hurt. I had healed and had waited the correct time. He said he always stitched up tighter than before to overcome any stretching that will eventually happen and to "help the husband." That was 51 years ago. Since then, I've ALWAYS had a female OB/GYN.

[meeschell]

Ive heard a male doctor say once, "If you were a real man, you'd ask me to leave a stictch out."

[meganclark-hutchings]

My first OB gave me the husband stitch. “I could do this with two, but I’m gonna give you just one more to tighten things up a bit down here.” I had no idea what that actually meant. Sex was painful for the next four years until baby #2 helped stretch things back to “normal.” I was infuriated when I read about the “husband stitch” and realized what had been done to me without my true informed consent.

[jaketaylor]

I remember learning what the husband stitch was and just feeling horrified. Everything about it has so many layers of awful. Like, you just went through what will probably be the most painful, difficult thing you will experience in life, and your doctor is thinking about your partner's sexual pleasure instead of your well being? And then altering your body without your consent? I swear, if I was delivering a baby and I heard a doctor say something about a "husband stitch" and my partner's first response wasn't outrage, I'd being mentally going through a divorce instantly

[jenmedlock]

My doctor actually made that joke after I delivered my first baby. The vacuum and forceps that he used to yank my son into the world caused a situation down below and he thought it'd be funny AS HE WAS STITCHING to crack "And there's an extra stitch for dad as well." I totally thought he was kidding and laughed it off. For the next 3 1/2 years sex was incredibly painful and my vulva just didn't look like it used to, thought that was the new norm. Nope! When my second baby was born my new delivery doctor saw what was done and she stitched me up correctly and repaired what had been done wrong. Everything's been smooth sailing and happy since then!

[HiKingMargo]

My mom had to have an emergent hysterectomy back in 1989 after she had a bladder prolapse. She woke up during surgery, but they obviously did not know.
She was literally paralyzed and had to listen to the disgusting surgeon, of which was discussing with the others in the operating room about how he was tightening her up so good, so that my father could enjoy her. She couldn't do anything but listen to the description of how they were mutilating her.

Needless to say, he messed up her entire anatomy, and she's never been able to have sex again because of what that surgeon did.

What's even worse is there was nothing that could be done afterwards. No accountability. This particular surgeon had cancer and that was his last day on the job. He died shortly thereafter. You'd think a dying man would have a bit of compassion/empathy, but unfortunately not the case.

To this day, she has major problems in her entire pelvic area. She had the interstim therapy device, but it failed and they removed it.. however, they lied by telling us they were able to get the entire device and the leads out.. She then had an MRI of her spine, , which heated up the lead they left in and it burned her pudendal nerve. Causing even more problems and pain!!
I was finally able to get her in with a highly recommended pelvic pain specialist a few hours from where we live, a few months ago. Come to find out, she had a benign tumor growing for years right by her urethra in her bladder, essentially blocking much function and causing spasms. Every urologist ignored this since 1989 until August of 2021. They just didn't look past her now odd anatomy to help her.

By this time, the tumor was much worse than what they thought, so when they did remove the tumor, she had to remain catheterized for a couple of months due to fissures and fistulas which caused urine to leak inside of her. She is scheduled this month to get the leakage fixed. We hope that this will finally cause some much needed relief, but won't be holding our breath.

It's all been a nightmare, and all started with a horrible surgeon 32 years ago.

If you made it to the end of my story, I urge all females to advocate for themselves and for their loved ones. For the guys out there, look out for your SO and your family. Sometimes we need someone else to be our voice, for when we can't do it ourselves. 💖

[Ostarahouse]

Any man who says this does not deserve a wife and family.

[vijfacht]

my male gynaecologist did that to me and told my husband about it with a smirk. I wish I could have smacked him in the face but after 2 days of labour I was in no shape to do anything about it. That he did that made me so deeply uncomfortable that I never wanted to lay eyes on him again. And I didn't.

[pipersisk]

Knowing that this is a thing is one of the reasons I’m terrified of childbirth. My husband would never want it for me but I know doctors have done it with neither parents consent.

[louv]

Any doctor who puts in a "husband stitch" should have their medical license revoked. That is absolutely appalling.

[cecilelebleu]

I’m absolutely terrified of tearing, so I would love to learn more about the subject from someone as calm and professional as yourself. Could you make a more in-depth video about this subject?

[rachelallison]

I had a friend who was getting stitched up after a birth and the (male) doctor looked up at her husband and said, "How tight do you want her? I can make her feel like a virgin." Her husband was too dumbfounded to speak and she said asked for a different doctor to stitch her up. That story still makes me nauseated.

[maaatoji]

Im curious if you could press charges for something like this, like when a doctor puts in an extra stitch without your consent because your husband asked it. It sounds a bit illegal doesn't it?

[lovmibyz]

I tore so badly i needed 93 stitches. As I am laying there worried about my baby who was born blue, watching the nurses trying to get him to cry louder, my (now ex) husband says to my OB "Man she is ruined. add a few extra stitches" and the silence was deafening and my OB said without looking up "if i wassnt covered in your wife's blood right now trying to stop the bleeding, I would slap you!"

[MetalLover]

I honestly couldn't understand why so many women go out of their way to have a female OBGYN until I started learning shit like the husband's sitch now I 100% get it

[saltypork]

Husbands, part of your job in delivery is to advocate for your wife as she will be exhausted. If you hear this "joke" and do not object loudly and insistently until the "joker" is removed from the room, then you have failed as a birth partner.

This is horrifying. We all have to do better.

[ohh]

Ended up googling “the husbands stitch” and my day is officially ruined. The things women historically have had to put up with in healthcare makes me sick ://

[ashe]

My ex BIL said this right after my sister gave birth. The doctor, myself, my sister, and my mother all said at the same time “Get the f*ck out.” All of us were women and I saw the fear of god in his eyes thinking it was smart to piss off a room full of women. My sister divorced him three months later 🥰