How to Know if You've Found 'The One'

Staying on the straight and narrow path can be difficult when you’re discerning marriage and looking for “the one”.

Jackie says we live in a culture where people either say “Love is a choice. Marry whoever,” or they say that you should feel the romance all of the time when you’re with them.

There is a middle ground between these two extremes, and Jackie helps us find it in this video.

She says there are five things you should look for when deciding who to marry. These five things are good signs that he or she is “the one”, meaning the one who will help you and your children get to heaven:

1. You experience peace and joy in the relationship.
2. You have a common goal, which is heaven.
3. You can finally be yourself around them.
4. You can argue with him or her in a healthy way.
5. You’re confident he or she will help you and your children get to heaven.

In other words, don’t get caught up in the romantic, but don’t entirely ignore it either. If heaven is the ultimate goal, everything else will fall into place.

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things shall be yours as well” (Matthew 6:33).

Also, make sure you check out Ascension’s Joy-Filled Marriage program, which offers many great life skills for those discerning marriage and married couples.

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[VictoriaDMunoz]

My boyfriend converted me. I am grateful he didn’t dismiss my potential because I wasn’t already Catholic. He brought God into my life.

[mariettaljiljic]

God, please, send me the man with whom I could have the kind of relationship Jackie speaks about in this video. Amen.

[aveadriana]

Summary :
1. You feel peace and joy
2. You have friendship with romance
3. You can be yourself
4. You can argue in a healthy way (emotionally mature adult)
5. Are they helping you (and your children) to get to heaven? Are they helping you (and your children) to be holy?

[cyrilpajestka]

Consistently feel personally attacked by Ascension presents... videos are so on point.

[asdfasdf]

The anxiety thing can be misleading. Especially for people who struggle with anxiety, you might have that "pit in your stomach" feeling in a relationship that is right for you.

[cabellero]

1 thing i can appreciate here
This woman talks in Realistic terms Not Romantic ones.

Marriage isnt a Disney movie
Nor is it a dysfunctional soap opera, either.
Marriage should be worked on by both husband and wife.

[eyesofamessenger]

4:13 "Lord, I need someone who could be a priest, but not called to be one."
Perfect...

[trevorsalackuy]

Dang, I’m a guy, but when you talked about that anxiety pit in your stomach even though they’re perfect on paper hit home. I know what I have to do now but, wow this is gonna be hard. Lord help both of us.

[rosepearsun]

“I could be a nun but I’m not called to be one I need a man who could be a priest but is not called to be one” yes

[SillyKoala]

I'm Muslim and I can relate to that. Being on the same page spiritually is very important. All of your advice are great and realistic. Thank you.

[Eddini]

I like this a lot. I'm 43 and I'm still praying a lot that I find the right person. I'm on disability though and don't own a vehicle so I get very self conscious because I'm afraid of rejection. I've been on only like 3 dates in my whole life. Everyone who knows me says I need to learn to take more risks. Please pray for me and thank you for this great video. God Bless.

[kenebbepena]

Peace and joy ☑️
Friendship with romance ☑️
You can be yourself.☑️
You can argue with them in a healthy way☑️
They help you go to heaven.☑️

Please Lord, let us have each other.💗

[kassidyhaddock]

This definitely describes mine and my boyfriend's relationship and honestly that makes me so incredibly happy.

[Nicole]

I met my husband when I was 36. About 6 years after I planned in my mind that I would get married. He is absolutely the right person for me and has all of these qualities and more. Even though waiting to find the right guy can be painful at times, it is 💯 percent worth it. Trust God’s timing. He hears every single one of your prayers. 🙏🏻

[faninme]

I watched this video during its first broadcast and I promised myself that I will revisit once I found someone. Four years later, I'm watching again and engaged. Thank you, Jesus Christ. Thank you, Ascencion Presents.

[BillieEnglish]

Thank you for this video 💛
First of all, you have the coolest surname!

I agree with everything you said but I think I would add that a lot of these things are down to us becoming healthy, functioning, mature adults.

If you can't argue well it might be more down to your own inner dysfunction. So instead of searching for a better person to argue with, do a self check and make sure you are a safe and whole person with good self boundaries, a healed heart and good communication skills.

Otherwise its just rise & repeat. Its important to reflect and check what is our responsibility is and where do we need to grow and heal to become better partners ourselves.

Thank you for putting these videos out! ❤

[everMrsB]

I married my best friend and I agree 100% with you Love and blessing from Sweden 💖🙏

[Lee-wil]

I have been in bad relationships, even mentally abusive ones. Then I met my current boyfriend. I need some realistic advice and we meet everything she’s saying. He’s amazing in every way, has seen my ugly anxiety attacks, and loves me still. We argue in a healthy manner and just meet all this. I knew he was the right one, but after Friday anxiety attack, I knew he was the one because he helped me. This video just validates it more. It’s also the first relationship that he is same religion as me and we celebrate that together. It’s beautiful

[ziooob]

1. Experience peace and joy. Feel’s like home.
2. This is friendship with romance. It’s so easy being with them.
3. You could be yourself. They love you for you. You love being with each other.
4. You can argue with them in a healthy way and talk about tough things. Not afraid of breaking up. They’re not abusive.
5. Encouraging and helping each other.

[wolf]

thank you for this i'm realizing how selfish my fantasies were about my crush haha i need to remember that finding a spouse is finding WHO GOD CALLS ME TO BE WITH