How To Deal With Child With ODD

Oppositional defiant disorder is a real mental disorder in children. In this video, I share with you criteria of someone who is diagnosed with the disorder and how you can deal with it.

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Dr. Paul Jenkins

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[sljs]

God bless each and every one of you who has a child with ODD. It is debilitating, life changing and an absolutely terrible thing to go through. My daughter is 11 and its about to break me. You are not alone.

[heathergunn]

I feel everyone's pain, It is so hard. My son is 13 now and I can tell you it does get better. Needless to say it gets hard as hell but it takes everyone to be on the same team, school counselor, teachers, principal, family. It truly takes a village.. it helped me so much being able to get into contact with the teacher to give them a heads-up before he even got to school. I would know how his day would be when I woke him up for school in the morning. Having direct contact with teachers was awesome because they could help turn his mood by the way they greeted him for the day. These kids are hurting and a constant fight deep in there souls. Don't give up, there is light

[linzianna]

I'm at my wits end. I've been begging for help for 5 years. My son is 7 and displays all the things you talk about. He is the only child out of my 5 children with these problems. We live in the UK where these things are thought of as myths with a culture of parent/victim blaming so I'm frustrated as hell (as you can imagine) 🙄. You are the only person that I've discovered that talks some sense about these issues. I don't even know if my son has any diagnosis but these tips will help us regardless. I will be using everything you have suggested and utilising it to try and create a better environment of positivity like you say. Nobody has put it this simply before. We have been fobbed off by so called professionals and blamed for years. Thank you and God bless you 🙏❤

[aprilthompson]

As the mother of a child diagnosed with ODD, I have to disagree with you that this should not be a thing. It is very much real and walking on eggshells around your child is not fun. Especially when they get to an age where they are taller than you.

[annawilson]

I am absolutely floored by all of the criticism and negative comments on this thread. I found the information in this video to be a Godsend! I can't tell you how much I appreciate all of the wonderful content you put out here for FREE to try to HELP us parents who may be struggling. Thank you so much for all you do! 💕

[shastafog]

Love this guy❤️. I am a grandmother of one ODD child and I am a dog trainer. These tips work for both🥴

[kimberlyvaldes]

I am sobbing right now. I am just exhausted. I can only keep calm for so long before I hit my breaking point. My son is 7 years old with ODD and ADHD and I have to deal with this alone because my husband committed suicide 2 years ago. I also have a 5 year old daughter. My son is impossible to deal with most of the time. He doesn't listen AT ALL. He's aggressive, impulsive, destructive, mean, and spiteful. He talks back to me all day everyday, he hits his sister everyday, he uses foul language, screams at the top of his lungs, slams doors, throws furniture, breaks electronics and toys, and even does self-harm like punching himself or scratching his face with his fingernails. When I discipline him he doesn't care. He walks away from me when I'm talking to him and tells me to leave him alone and he locks himself in a room. When I try to do homework with him he scribbles all over the papers and sometimes crumbles them. When I try to get him to do everyday things like brushing his teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed, and eating his food, his answer is always "NO!" While driving him to school he fights with his sister and hits her and kicks her. At school he breaks the other kids crayons and property when they don't want to play with him or he hits them. He got kicked out of first grade for stabbing a student in the face with a pencil. One day I found a puppy and brought it home, on the 3rd day the puppy peed on the couch and my son impulsively threw the puppy off of a second story and she died from internal bleeding. Then we did psych evaluation and he was diagnosed. Now he's medicated but some days it has no effect on him. People do not understand my situation, they say he's not so bad that many kids are like this. I know that if most kids were like this, nobody would ever want to have kids. When I break down sometimes I want to give him away to his grandmother or send him to military school. But something in my head tells me only the love of a mother could tolerate this. So I hang on one day at a time.

[klm]

Living with a child who is ODD is absolutely miserable. Everything is a trigger it's like living with a ticking time bomb.

[rakka]

Here because my 5 year old is beginning to crush my soul. She’s been profoundly difficult since she turned 3. No rules, no amount of taking things, grounding, motivation, reward, guiding changes anything. We’ve had several behavioral appointments with our pediatrician and are still waiting on a referral for an evaluation. I’m in tears writing this. Her little brother is often the victim of her outbursts. I just feel so broken. Thank you for making this video. I feel seen here. I have worked with preschool and elementary children for years and have met few more difficult than my own daughter.

[camisnyder]

I have to keep watching this over and over. I’m crying again because I can’t do this anymore!! Every day. Every single day. My seven year old fights w me. I am at my wits end. I’m so tired and sad and broken. NOTHING works. I’m exhausted, mentally. He pushes past my limits. I don’t even know what do anymore. I seriously don’t know what to I have six kids and none of them have ever treated me the way my 7/yr old son does. Im crying right now because nothing is working and beyond stressed. I literally end up cussing and screaming and throwing things, that’s how far he pushes me. When all I ask is he gets up for Help me.

[SaraM-wzzz]

I used to work with children age 6-12 who had ODD and other mental health challenges who lived in a therapeutic home/school. One thing that worked really well was to have a concrete “win” each day. They earned a win through the structure of the day program. And each day was a brand new day to earn a win whether they had a win the previous day or not.

[MountainMamaJen]

My daughter was recently diagnosed with ODD at 5 years old. The #1 thing that I've noticed that has started to improve her behavior? Spending quality 1-on-1 time with her. Every night I dedicate at least one hour to playing with her. I never knew how much she needed that time with me. She is so grateful for it, and I am too. 😢 😊

[angelacross]

I think you have hit the nail on the head with this one.
As a teenager I went from a very compliant people pleaser to actually hating the way my mother breathed. I couldn’t help it! And it shocked me.I kept that memory and decided that when I was a mother of teenagers I would respect their personal space as much as was humanly possible.
At the same time as minimizing points of conflict I nevertheless made sure to always win, especially by not being side tracked by behaviors meant to distract me from the issue at hand. Oftentimes kids, and adults too, act out of control in order to control, it’s just a tactic, don’t fall for it.

[parentingandlife]

My 6-year-old son who has ADHD and ODD is always an ongoing journey. we watched part of this video today and hopefully he understands about the three principles period for now we'll work on respect :-) I have respect for every parent who is challenged with these neurological situations. Yes I know some say disorders.

[lindayusof]

My eldest son is currently facing this issue, but he is getting better now.

I started noticing him having ODD symptoms early 2022.

He did a lot of things in school which had annoyed friends, teachers and principle.
And other parents started to complaint due to his behaviour towards their kids.

He never listen, loves to argue, , he always want to win, always annoys others, easily annoyed by others and environment, frequent temper tantrums, and many more.

He hated school, teachers, friends, everything about school.
And everyday was a nightmare, waking him up for school was a real struggle, never without tears.😢

School asked me to take him for therapy after series of events involving him with other kids, teachers, unable to listen to orders and giving disturbance during classes.

I was lost, kept asking why this thing happens, and what went wrong.

Until there was this incident where he had caused injury to one of his teacher. And when the teacher asked him to say sorry, he kept himself silent. And when the teacher calmly said, "If you love your mother, then ask for forgiveness" .

Nothing happened. He acted like nothing happened and I was shocked since it happened right before my eyes. Didn't he love me?? That seemed like a red signal to me.

At home later that day, I asked him whether he loves me, and he said NO😭😭😭 with the look in the eyes full of revenge and hatred.😭

I prayed to Allah to show me the solution in Dec 2022 last year during my pilgrimage to Mekah.

After listening to Dr's recommendations, sharings and comments from social medias, I changed my way of advising him.

No more hanger, no more rattan, no more raising voice to him, always hug him, listen to him and makes him feel important. Always ask how was his day at school, etc.

On April 2023, his school teacher informed me that they were shocked to see his changes.

And of course I feel embarrassed, realizing that I was the one whom triggers this from the very beginning.😢 it wasn't his fault. It was me😢

Now I understand things slowly happened when I started having another baby and he felt neglected.

He used to take all the blame even it was his younger brother's misbehaviour and I changed this behaviour as well. No more bias, be it you are older or younger. Has to be fair among sibling.

I'm happy now that he sincerely confesses to me that he loves the new me and when I asked him why he recently behaved in school, he answered " I behave because I love you". He hugged me closely.

I cried that day the moment I saw him as if I was looking an innocent baby whom I had 8 years ago. My bad, sayang. I am so sorry... 😔

In conclusion, violence never a solution to any misbehaviour/misconduct.
Treat our children with love and respect.

I have learnt the hard way.
I hope others may give it a try too.

[debraawe]

Sir, you are doing truly good work. I am an ODD child who went undiagnosed for nearly 25 years. And your videos are helping me to heal and correct my behaviors

[GK-wegi]

The family rules:
1. respect self and others
2. respect property
3. cooperate and obey

[SolarBrain]

I'm a teacher with a student with ODD, and my heart breaks. I feel like I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't. They can be clever but get hung up on minor issues, start arguments with other students, and barely do any work. I try to help guide them, even let them vent around me, but the other teachers and assistants usually just want to let them be and not even try. "If they don't do it, give them a zero." I don't feel like the student or I are being given the right support.

[InChrist]

This is really a thing. Especially for those with Fetal Alcohol syndrome. I have siblings as grown adults who haven't been diagnosed and just have no boundaries but are trying to gain control. Its just really hard to watch them struggle through life. But all things are possible with God. Prayers for patients, and endurance for all the parents struggling to love their kids through this.

[cprice]

Thank you so muchhhh . I'm homeschooling my son and currently have him doing qEEG adhd therapy because I'm trying to do everything I can to just avoid medication. Thank you for these tips!