When You Aren't a Priority in His Life: Don't Push Him Further Away

Byron Katie's conversation with a man in a lonely relationship will help you cope with thoughts such as "I need my boyfriend to spend more time with me” and "My husband doesn't love me."

You don't want to suffocate your boyfriend or nag your husband, but you need more time, attention and love. You don't feel like you matter as much as his work, friendships, games or hobbies. “I need my boyfriend to spend more time with me” and “I'm not a priority in my husband's life” are thoughts and beliefs that make you question your relationship.

Our thoughts can be scarier than reality. Byron Katie created The Work, which is a process that helps people question the painful thoughts and beliefs that cause suffering.

Katie questions the following fears, thoughts and beliefs about relationships:

"Does he love me?"
"My boyfriend doesn't love me."
"My husband doesn't care about me.”
“I'm not a priority in my boyfriend's life.”
"He doesn't spend enough time with me."
“I want my husband to pay more attention to me.”

Katie teaches how to meet your thoughts as a friend, with understanding and acceptance. This is the end of fear and anxiety. The thoughts will still come but they don’t cause pain or suffering.

Byron Katie is the author of books such as “Loving What Is” and “A Mind at Home With Itself.” These audio compilations are recordings of Byron Katie doing The Work with people. They are from old tapes, CDs and downloads that are free for sharing.

Byron Katie's books include:

Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life

I Need Your Love - Is That True? How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation

My video footage is from Batchawana Bay, Ontario.

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[wirman]

Personalities dont love. They want something. So her statement gives me hope when she said i love him but cant do anything about it.
That is the beauty of self realization.
Truth shall set us free.

[cathyl]

I love the seagull sound in the background!

[annegonwa]

Excellent! Thank you so much. I listened many times.

[spsk]

Thank you so much I was pushing against my partner, oh honey, thank you <3

[metapod]

This is weird way of dealing w this. Maybe they just aren’t compatible and want different things. Sure you could cope with that on Buddha mode if you want but why not try to find someone who is a good fit.