Grief Attacks - When grief causes physical pain

Grief attacks can occur seemingly out of blue and can be very distressing for those experiencing them. This is my experience with them and some advice on how to move through and move with this pain.

[pamelamcfarland]

I took care of my mom till she passed in my arms on January 9th. My husband passed at home with me on January 24th. These attacks have been so vicious that I have passed out. Sobbing and screaming they have taken me right to the floor. The one I had yesterday while driving made me want to end my life because of the agonizing pain in my heart. My daughter told me what they were and I looked them up. Now that I know what they are and that they will pass, brings me some comfort. I’ve never had this kind of pain before. My whole body is like one big toothache. Thank you for this video. I am going to send it to my friends so they can see what it is like.

[NoMoreTears]

My life ended November 8, 2023 when my son died. Im just here going through the motions of existence now. I dont anticipate true happiness ever again. And that is really sad.

[sunking]

Thanks for your great video. Two days ago my best and long-time friend died. I am having a hard time accepting this...especially at my age...I'm 69. Now I have nobody to talk to. I pray God helps me and all of the many people like me.

[mollybarrall]

My daughter died and I’m so crushed and in a depression 🙏 please pray for me and my family

[annabelbradshaw]

I'm sitting here crying with you. My aunt told me a few years ago, "There's nothing like losing your best friend." She lost hers many years ago, and she still talks about her to this day. When I lost mine, I called her and told her she was right about what she said. She cried with me on the phone. Thank you for starting this channel and making yourself vulnerable so that you can help others.

[ericahilton]

I’m 7 months in after losing my teenage son’s dad (ex husband but also my best friend for nearly 20 Years) I see my youngest and he’s looking more and more like his dad and it crushes my soul how unfair it feels that they have to live without him now.. I feel guilty for grieving so hard when they seem to be doing better than I am.. there isn’t a day that goes by that my chest isn’t aching from the pain and I wonder how much longer it’s going to last or if I’ll always hurt like this…

[cdup]

I just lost my Mom in front of my eyes recently, and my chest keeps hurting when I remember. It feels like I'm poisoned.

[roberth]

I had this sensation - it felt like a really cold blast in my chest, like going outside in -30 weather....my breath taken. My body is hurting so much right now, I have some pain but this is a crushing sensation....I even feel guilty while eating as my friend no longer can. thank you for sharing your pain, vulnerability, your love for your friend.

[ninasky]

This happens to me a lot especially when I think bout the times we could of experience n I'm mad that he dies before we could experience any of that.

Today I just want to hug him and tell him I love him. I want to be able to be near him n just tell him how he made my world so happy. My chest started hurting n I cried uncomfortable and was trying to catch my breath. I would do anything to have him here again but I know he can't n he ain't coming back 😭😭😭😭 it's been a whole year n still I'm like "why did he have to die he was so young 💔 he was my best friend " it literally hurts my heart n the pain doesn't go away 🥺

[Risingphoenixx]

Hello from The Netherlands. Let me be the first to leave a comment. Griefattacks, i experience them right now. Your friend obviously ment a lot to you, I lost my mother recently, she died a month ago. She had dementia and the last ten years were difficult, i slowly got worse and the last three years she lived in a nursinghome. I spend so much time being there and comforting her which was emotionallly exhausitng. The last four weeks i felt so relieved, the pressure was gone, the didn, t had to suffer any longer, but the last couple of spdays the grieveprocess kicked in. My husband left me 1, 5 year ago, my dog died, and now i, m completely alone. Don, t have kids, it, s horrible.When i want to go to sleep the image of sitting next to her bed haunt me. That loving hand which always reached out suddelly didn, t grabbed mine anymore. Despite the coronavirus restrictions i managed to spend the last hours of her life beside her, and i gave her permission to go. We were mire than just mother daughter, we were best friends because our intense life. She died when i came home. I, m happy for her and in a way it, s probably also the best for me but the idea that i can never visit and see her again makes me crazy. This afternoon my neighbours invited me for a housewarmingparty. I went didn, t wanted to be a partypooper and i laughed and made a few jokes. Suddenly it happened, a grief attack and i could, t hold my tears. I left and cried fornhoursnalone innthe forrest. Don, t now how to continue, how to go through this griefprocess alone. When my dad died ten yewrs ago it was intense but i had a husband, a dig, my mother, and now it, s so difficutl to realize that there, s nobody. I, m 54 years old, i, m a gown up right, but i, m a mess. I agree that accepting your feeling and let them come out is the best way as a sort of cleansing. Inhave to find a griefsupportgroup i guess. I, m a spiritual woman and can find some comfort in video, s on you tube from mediums .Albert einstein said that energy can not die it only transforms, like water to steam to ice. They say consciousness stays and the fysical body only dies, maybe it helps you too because there will be a lot more loss in your life later on. Grief is the price we pay for love. And Byron Katie said, maybe it, s not sadness younfeel, maybe it, s love and thwt isn, t something you want to get over. All the best

[devikalitara]

I knew I wasn't crazy! My mother recently died this August and I saw her dying infront of me and her dead body. Everyone has been so supportive but I'm having trouble at work with the grieving. I'm having issues with my boss has he seems to be so self centered and blind to my "process" he actual seemed angry with me since I had to go home to a bad reaction to flu shot as well experiencing a panic attack. I have been told to my face to clock out when I get these so I lost allot of money during my mom's dying period and then told I can't have conversations on the phone during a work hour "I know I sound like I'm nagging but I rarely take perso al conversationa but i had to take allot of them during my my moms dying period* which honestly are important so I keep intouch with my trustee. I now see how much little interaction to the dogs I take care of and how much work my Manger puts on me to complete tasks in a impossible amount of time to a point he told me to stay past 6...I plan in the new year to look for another job while currently I will be standing up for myself when he puts me down...

[keithkirkpatrick]

Thank you for sharing your story, and your insight about grief attacks. I lost my wife just over a year ago, and I still get grief attacks most days. It hurts, but then I breathe, do my best to be in the moment. Hearing your story helps with the pain. Be well and thanks again.

[railinly]

The pain I feel now is the happiness I had before, that's the deal.
C.S Lewis.