How to hold EYE-CONTACT

Sustainable eye contact = balance of sharp and soft in inner and outer energy

*TIPS:*
- Breathe before and throughout the interaction
- Keep eyes sharper, face softer but conscious
- For more intensity - tilt head downwards
- For 'doe-eye' - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with relaxed or slightly open mouth
- For sharper intensity - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with more 'hold' on the mouth without clenching
- To be more relaxed - tilt head upwards (also easier to initially practice with)
- To be relaxed AND sharp - tilt head upwards, mouth relaxed, with focused eyes (show your emotion through your eyes)
- For comfort in the mouth - gently place your tongue at the front of the roof of mouth
- To take breaks - look away in reflection then look back, without moving the head too much
- Taking natural breaks throughout keeps it sustainable for both
- To ground and flow in conversation - set an intention before every interaction

See my Instagram and TikTok for practical examples, and come to YouTube for breakdowns!

0:00 Introduction
0:55 Tips and Techniques
11:11 Conclusion

*CONNECT:*

*ABOUT:*
My name is Ariel Niu, I create, speak, and coach on improving self and social interactions. I give examples on social cues and techniques, and I share stories on how everything and everyone is connected. Since 2018, I have been practicing using my own energy to change outer experiences and people. I love creating content about human connections, and I am grateful and excited to help those who resonate with my messages.

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[ArielNiuViews]

TIPS:
- Breathe before and throughout the interaction
- Keep eyes sharper, face softer but conscious
- For more intensity - tilt head downwards
- For 'doe-eye' - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with relaxed or slightly open mouth
- For sharper intensity - tilt head downwards, eyes focused, with more 'hold' on the mouth without clenching
- To be more relaxed - tilt head upwards (also easier to initially practice with)
- To be relaxed AND sharp - tilt head upwards, mouth relaxed, with focused eyes (show your emotion through your eyes)
- For comfort in the mouth - gently place your tongue at the front of the roof of mouth
- To take breaks - look away in reflection then look back, without moving the head too much
- Taking natural breaks throughout keeps it sustainable for both
- To ground and flow in conversation - set an intention before every interaction

[ymepive]

For me,
as a guy with autism, your work is pretty awesome.

[cory]

When I was in college, we were winding down the semester and my professor stopped mid lecture and told the entire class that I had the best eye contact he's ever come across. The entire semester he noticed it daily but didn't want to say anything. How I'd follow him throughout the room and it was a great quality to have.

I was embarrassed and immediately broke eye contact but in that moment, that was the only time I noticed I had eye contact with him. That was also the day I began to overthink whether I'm having too much eye contact with people. lmao

[CyndiGarguilo]

This is great but I have a suggestion.. allow yourself to feel something and don’t be afraid to allow others to see how you are feeling. You don’t have to hide who you are because people genuinely want to know you. Then, you won’t have to force or fake a personality.

[geauxtama]

ngl, I enjoyed the unintentional echo effect.
Good tips here. A lot of my eye contact insecurity stems from a lack of confidence in my physical appearance.
But honestly, I doubt anyone cares (that much) or even shares such a "not positive" opinion.

"Breathe!"

[LoneStyleTribe]

Thank you I really appreciate your videos. I’m a recovering people pleaser and I’m learning not only boundaries but how to authentically present myself. You’re really helping me❤

[iMoosker]

There have been many charisma videos for men, but not so many for women. Keep it up, you will gain many subscribers

[starlightdust]

Thank you because I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to be honest

[brooklynpark]

I guess I was born naturally a genius in doing things like this. 表演型人格的特质

[randomaf]

girl firstly you look GORGEOUS, secondly you are so comforting but also you help and inspire me to grow <3

[nathvlya]

as a neurodivergent person i apreaciate u so much explaining step by step this stuff and also putting them in the description, its usually stuff ppl forget to explain and i always fail to get 💝⭐️

[stan_dinghere]

this is great, much more helpful than other guides ive seen. and it feels very customizable

[anindaosman]

@NiuViews I request you from the bottom of my heart to make a video on how to behave sharp in different social settings. I apologize for this second request but its very challenging for me to say no. Even when i say no softly it doesnt work and my bounderies are being crossed by people left and right. I dont have time for myself, i dont have time left at the end of the day for my personal growth which is my top priority. My growth and positive aura attracts attention from people around me, I love helping people as well, but I need to find ways to be sharp so that I can pay attention to myself for a change, heal, and grow more. I hope you understand and read this and accept this request of mine. Thank you.

[ludsayuri]

The most helpful video about eye contact ever, I swear ✨❤️

[ArielNiuViews]

ok I know... less echo next time! don't @ me lol

[sophiealeqyan]

I am Soo thankful, I know this is not just a random video, this is the answer to my question that I asked so long, this is not a random thing, this is the sign that the universe supports me

[LadySevereGenerator]

LOVED this video! Thank you! Love your style and clarity!

[estifanosberhane]

It like something I have to do before I go out

[reikenzan]

Exactly what i needed at the right time. Bless

[WillSolis-zhkm]

I've been waiting so long for this video thanks you're fantastic 👌🏻