toxic girl dads

[nzephier]

As a dad, I don't get this toxic girl dad shit. She's your daughter, not your trophy.

[ToniaEmily]

Little girls are not property. It's extremely creepy and messed up for Dads to see them as such.

[WolfgangDoW]

Everyone is scared of their daughter having to deal with toxic men
But they never question how they're raising their sons to be those toxic men

[sarahnelwyn]

I don’t comment on youtube a lot but i wanted to say my dad is probably the most untoxic girl dad ever! When he was a teenager he read pride and prejudice in highschool and decided he wanted daughters because he wanted to have a relationship like Elizabeth had with her dad in the books. Growing up, he was very much the dad that would always let us give him make overs (wore it to work one time when we were kids for halloween after we gave him a princess makeover) and I don’t think I ever heard the “no boyfriends rule” from him… ever
he’s also been incredibly supportive through my older siblings transition, he bought a bunch of trans parent t-shirts and crafted his own proud parent hat to walk in a parade this pride
overall 10/10 girl dad, he’s adorable

[clawd_not_cloud]

I have a small anecdote in regard to the "girls are more expensive" mentality. When she was young, my sister did a beauty pageant and my mom kept hearing all of the dads complain over and over again about how much all the pageant stuff cost. Like the dresses and the makeup and the hotels. But she said she pulled one of them aside one time and was like "Okay, this is expensive? how much money do you spend on your sons' sports stuff?" and she then said they got very quiet after that point was raised.

[jeremygreen]

I hate being a public school teacher in the United States because of the expectation from my colleagues and administration expecting me to enforce an out of date and mysogynistic dress code. I don't care what my students are wearing, so long as they show up to class and are responsible young adults. It makes me feel skeevey when I, a 40 year old white man, have to pull aside a 16 year old and send them to the office because I can see their bate shoulders, or they are showing off a sliver of stomach... It just makes us both feel awkward. I wish society would just change for the better. Let young people decide what they want to wear, and respect their decision regardless of your feelings.

[mars-liketheplanet]

My dad was a toxic girl dad. He made everything my sister and I did some inherently sexual thing we were doing to lure boys in. Our periods meant we were being women instead of children. I already had a lot of internalized misogyny due to just society and my gender dysphoria but him treating girls like sexual objects constantly being chased just made it worse. I’m a lot happier now and discovered that not only am I not just a girl for guys to gawk at but not a girl. I hope one day I can be a better dad for my own kids and that’s what all men should strive to be. Better than these men.

[FloofByrd]

As the daughter of a toxic girl dad, I can wholeheartedly attest to the fact that when I was finally "old enough to date" and I started going out with my now boyfriend, I dealt with the most sickening and debilitating anxiety. I lived a life of my dad threatening any boys that I was close to, and telling me boys aren't allowed. To make the switch from "I'll get in trouble for being with a boy" to "I'm now dating a boy" was such a struggle. This mentality is so toxic and it really does impact the daughter.

[PumpkinFinch]

This video just made me think of purity balls and girls basically pledging their virginity to be protected by the father. It’s really god damn creepy. It has like dating dad vibes and just, so hyper sexualization of children. Focusing entirely on girl virginity.

[Castkettever]

There is a sub type of Christians which has a weird ceremony/gala where young girls (some are 6-8) wear white dresses, get a ring from their father and promise not to be sinful (regarding dating and sex). It's disturbing to see, imo, but I'd love to see you shine some light on this weird phenomenon

[Venisnotok]

god i hate parents who exploit their children’s childhood by publicly documenting their lives.

[lilaboxx]

Regarding the 16 year old getting stared at: i noticed that a lot of my female and afab friends were catcalled a lot more when they were younger, like 13-15 which is absolutely disgusting

[samwiseb]

The whole “I’m gonna get my shotgun if you are dating my daughter” always scared me as a dude because it’s like “Sir, not is only threatening me with a shotgun gonna scare me away, any man that’s not scared of a shotgun is the kind of man you do not want to date your daughter. Plus what if your daughter is kinky and into sone sexy stuff? Why is it bad she is in to that?”

Like it doesn’t protect her from bad men because bad men see the whole shotgun thing at best as a bluff or worse as a challenge.

If anything you will get the “listen old man, your daughter is my b**** now and I’m gonna get my shotgun and take her from you” kind of guys.

Never ever has the old shotgun threat worked on a abusive misogynistic chauvinist evil man.

[ultimatehawkeyefangirl]

I said it on the last toxic boy mom video, and I’ll say it again, the nice thing about these kind of TikTok accounts is that when their kids go to therapy they can just give their therapist a link to the account and instead of doing a deep dive into the events, and just get right to the “how does that make you feel?” Real time saver for everybody.

[bluphri]

In my opinion, the main reason why these dads make the, "no dating until..." joke is because dating is associated with growth and maturity, and parents don't want their kids to grow up too fast. However, by making these jokes these dads ARE making their daughters grow up fast by implanting the idea of dating into their heads at such a young age.

[Bananasplitsssz]

My dad used to tell me “the first boy you bring home I’ll shoot”, I was five, I’m 15 now and I’ve never had a guy friend over at my house, I’ve never dated, and until recently I hadn’t talked to my dad about my guy friends at school, he’s kept up this “joke” for years and it makes me unbelievably uncomfortable, I feel like I have too hide my friendships from him. He posts pictures of me with the caption “shot gun ready” and would tell me when I was little “no boys till you’re thirty”. It’s not funny, or dorky, it’s sexist, it’s creepy, and it’s a horrible way for children to grow up. It insinuates that your daughter is a prize only too be handed off to someone there father approves of, which stems from a time where fathers would marry of there daughters without her permission or willingness, it’s one reason why, if I get married I refuse to have him “give me away” because I’m not his to give, it treats women as nothing more than an object to be given away, I know most fathers don’t mean it that way, but it’s actually re-enforcing a very harmful attitude towards women.

It’s like selling a sheep to the highest bidder, the sheep just wants to live in a paddock and meet other sheep, but no, “daddy says no paddock till your sold”

[FlashMRC]

It's especially telling how all of those dad's just assume their child, who they percieve as a cis-het daughter, is automatically cis and het.

[safaaaa_]

i have a toxic girl dad. when i first became a teenager, he would somehow sexualize everything i do. he doesn’t consider me a child anymore. he put a lot of misogynistic beliefs into my head. he says “not all men” but also tells me not to date because “all men want is sex” and how they won’t like me for how i am, just looks. he doesn’t like that i act my age and try to express myself. i hope to eventually leave, because its been getting worse recently

[jessebrazeal]

As an afab person, my dad is a toxic girl dad. I remember when him, my stepmother, and I got in an argument because I don't wear bras (bras give me gender dysphoria) and both of them said "Your nipples are too distracting". Another time, my dad made a condition of if I wanted to go see my extended family with them that my stepmother would have to "watch me take a shower with a bathing suit on". I said "Then I'm not going to go" and my dad said "Oh? You want to be unclean?" My dad can be an absolute creep and misogynistic sometimes.

[l.i._.l.l.y]

As someone who’s father sexually assaulted and groomed them their whole childhood. This whole mentality scares me so much. It’s a thin line.