How To Help Kids With ADHD

How do you help a child with ADHD? In today's episode, we want to clear things up first. ADHD, or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, has been overdiagnosed. If your child has a high amount of energy, it doesn't mean that they have ADHD automatically. Let's talk about how to help children with ADHD, but these tips will also work for your children who are very energetic.

00:16 ADHD has been overdiagnosed
02:40 Even if they're not diagnosed, this will work with children who are energetic
03:15 Regulate their own behavior in a better way
04:46 Have a picture list of things they need to do
06:47 Back off
08:10 Let the consequences do the teaching
09:12 Let empathy be your response rather than anger
10:22 A child diagnosed with ADHD may take much more work to teach this skill
10:50 "I trust you to learn from your experience"

Find out more about Positive Parenting here:

Watch and Enjoy!
Dr. Paul Jenkins

For a FREE digital copy of my mini-book, Portable Positivity, visit this link:

Schedule your FREE Parenting Breakthrough call here:

LINKS & RESOURCES:
========================

MUSIC
========================
Track: Kisma - We Are [NCS Release]
Music provided by NoCopyrightSounds.
Licensed under Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0

========================
Video by Nate Woodbury

#LiveOnPurpose
#PositiveParenting

[ambmae]

My son deals with this. Getting him ready for school was insanely hard. He was so easily distracted. We were always late, and I was always frustrated. One day, as I was losing my temper, the thought came into my head, "Whose side are you on?". I stopped in my tracks. It always felt like I was fighting with him, but really I needed to be helping him. After all, if I, his mother, wasn't on his side who would be? Certainly not the teacher who was complaining about him at school, not the kids down the street. It was left to me. After that my attitude changed, and as I reacted to his struggles with compassion rather than frustration it got better. He is who he is. His amazing brain works differently than his siblings, but we're working together to teach him how to be his own master.
For other moms, I hope that helps a little. We're so blessed to have these kids with their energy and unique way of seeing the world.

[thatclover]

it took two years to get my son diagnosed, we looked at everything diet, sleep etc., his teachers blamed me it must be the “environment” finally I got a new dr and boom some help. There’s such stigma just getting help👀 it’s life changing now. With the quarantine I realized he needs redirecting every 2 to 3 minutes. It’s literally painful for him to focus too long on anything. The public school system just let him fall thru the cracks. I got him writing his name, reading, writing paragraphs. He even wrote a letter to Trump 😂 He’s 7(:

[lapetulante]

I really love how you make ADHD children self esteem rise by backing off the nagging and let them do alone and feel the consequence. Thank you for your content

[lovelyletter]

It’s tough to deal with an adhd child
When both parents have adhd to some degree and one of us is also on the autism spectrum. 🤦‍♀️ Sometimes it’s like the blind leading the blind. These videos make perfect sense and are very helpful.

[pinklotus]

I’m a single mom and Licensed Professional Counselor and my daughter has moderate ADHD. She is 10 years old. She is on medication but usually only helps at school. She is such a fun and loving kid but her passive aggressive behaviors are so frustrating. She can also be very impulsive and hyperactive. Cleaning her room had been the most exhausting thing ever! I am a single mom and I cry myself to sleep most nights because her only response for everything is “I don’t know.” I have tried lists, patience, empathy, allowing her consequences, locks on things that she has issues controlling herself with. I feel completely exhausted with micromanaging nearly every area of her life constantly. Lists have not worked well and she has destroyed them in the past. I have not been successful with finding any tools that have worked for her. I’ve backed off and practiced avoidance but that makes it worse. She’s currently failing several subjects in school, she has completely destroyed one side of my home and I’m currently checking out mentally. 😭😭😭😭

[CPeetG]

My son was diagnosed with ADHD. He is 8 years old. Bless his little heart, he’s so sweet and kind. He’s not necessarily the hyper kind- but he fidgets and has a very hard time following directions, focusing and remembering things. Especially in school. We’ve don’t the list every year since kindergarten, except this year and he is struggling with his morning routine again so we are going to have bring the list back.

[rondaarey]

I am a monitor on a school bus. I was working with a child that had issues with riding the bus safely. While talking with her and explaining that she was cteating an unsafe ride for herself and others she said "I am ADHD, I'm supposed to act this way." She was a third grader, so we discussed the topic for a little while. I said that I understood what that was and that it was difficult for her to acomplish some things but it did not mean that she had to act that way. I said if she would let me help her that she coud ride the bus a safe way and everyone would get home safely and probably quicker than having to stop or slow down making the ride longer. Then I reminder her again that just because she had ADHD did not mean that she had to misbehave or have "bad" behavior. She understood and let me help her work on riding safely. It took about 3 weeks but she was successful and was able to see it for herself. I also wanted to tell you that I really enjoy your chanel and find it very helpful with my job. I have 5 children that are grown and one of them has ADHD he is in his 40 now and still struggles with it. I wish I had your channel when he was a child. That being said I love your chanel it helps me a lot in my job and in dealing with people in my day to day life.

[areleyluna]

Just what I needed to be explained to me. Would so love a video in what kind of consequences to give depending on the task or direction that was not followed.

[CherishedNike]

Very helpful… Am so blessed to watch this video my 4 year old functions better with a routine and this is a reinforcement for me…no diagnosis yet pediatrician says he’s just 4yrs old and a boy but he’s to hyper can’t sit still in class but knows everything and has the best writing in class is independent loves to help me clean cook and care for his sibling and even gives himself a shower can count to 500.but can’t sit still

[tguthrie]

Consequences haven’t worked to control behavior, and now he is 17! I think a whole food diet/nutrition is a can be core element in helping change behavior

[cherishandnathan]

Thats what I'm talking about! Thank you. Somewhere i watched that adhd kids needs something physical like you mentioned before outside of the head. I home school now and before we started I let him draw pictures of each task. We made a big bored put itnon his door and he refers back to it. So glad to know this momma did something correct! Thank you again for all your videos.

[dustin]

It's a dopamine delivery or uptake issue like a leaking hose, the stimulates floor the area to deliver the proper amount in a vary simplified explanation.

[JenniferVerdin]

Great tips! I love the idea of a picture list for the little ones. Ahh this is going to help us so much! Unfortunately, our family is plagued with adhd and man oh man is it hard. Thank you!

[mrmattycake]

I love your material, but as someone with ADHD myself, I humbly ask that you please do further research and redo this video. There was no mention of many of the basic functional limitations of ADHD brains such as: executive function, 30% delayed brain maturity, working memory, distractability, lacking in planning and organizational skills etc.
Please don't take this as a negative view on your work; simply an area where people need far more understanding of what specific challenges ADHD brains have, and how to set reasonable expectations appropriate to their abilities.

[loveoneanother-yt]

Very interesting you use a stimulant to calm down ADHD. When I was in kindergarten I was labeled as ADHD and coffee actually helps me be more focused.

[WordsPictures]

Thank you so much for this. This was super helpful. I personally feel way less anxious after watching this.

[geraldlewis]

In spirit prayers for The Little Kids Amen.

[lyndsiemmiles]

Love this! I have found with my older children I can text them a list and it helps so much! Thank you for great tips and tricks!

[KidzAboutTech]

So interesting!! Great video!! Very true, as I also heard that anger doesn’t work for kids with ADHD, as they are not receptive to it. It’s only through explanation you can get through 👍🏻

[ozmaiqbal]

Thank you SOOO much for this video and all the others. I'm always waiting for a new upload and referring back to videos for help. My 4 year old is incredibly hyper and being seen by a paedratrician we still haven't had a diagnosis of any sort. We have behaviour problems, I've been using tips from your videos especially the consequences and it's taking alot of practice but she's understanding now.