Help ADHD Kids Improve Emotional Regulation At Home

"Affective Calmness" is a concept I teach in Scaffolding Better Behavior, the ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training program. It means you show calm even when you don't feel calm inside.

Affective Calmness is modeling healthy emotional regulation skills. More importantly, it "anchors" kids when they're upset/angry. All parents need to serve as anchors for their children.

Affective Calmness should be done while maintaining boundaries/expectations for treating family members with the same respect you give your child. Remember, having ADHD is not a justification for poor treatment of family members.

Using Affective Calmness takes time. It took me years to improve and be able to use it consistently.

Please visit the "Behavior" playlist on @ADHDDude for more strategies. When you're ready to follow the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended treatment for kids with ADHD, please check out Scaffolding Better Behavior, part of the ADHD Dude Membership Site.

ADHD Dude provides parent training through the ADHD Dude Membership Site, in-person school-year programs, and summer camps. ADHD Dude is not gender-specific content.

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Ryan is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified School Social Worker, and father to a son with ADHD & learning differences. ADHD Dude is based in Tucson, Arizona.

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[holleighlordel]

It’s soo harrrrd to not freak out too when you have adhd also 😭 But having everybody upset and yelling and crying is even harder. At least now I know it’s a thing and I’m not defective and neither is my child. That’s empowering 🥲 I shared this with my husband. I will watch this a few more times and write it down and put it somewhere so I can see it multiple times a day to remind myself.

[retrogamerdave]

I have definitely been failing at this lately, it's good to have a reminder to keep on trying

[NeuroSpicyMomOf]

Im the tolerant adhd mom who gets yelled at by her kid… infuriates my hubby BUT its as if i dont really notice it or feel like its aimed at me? I get extremely frustrated really fast so its like i understand his outbursts of impatience and anger…? Either way, my son is in mega need of some chill vibes! 😫

[cmpremlap]

What is your advice when correcting a child that is too upset to listen? Or when you give them an instruction they act as if they do not hear you or are not responsive? Or redirect your instruction back to you? I will be talking to his primary care doctor regarding medication this week. I also heard there is a shortage of ADHD medication due to laws passed to reduce abuse. Another parent mentioned that sometimes they run out due to this and it greatly affects their son as well. Our son will be 6 in a few months and is unbearable at times. We need help.

[andreacook]

"Somebody has to be the adult." Yes, very simple. I'll just switch off my own ADHD so I can be a good mom.

[Blufftonbeatch]

This is so hard for me, especially when he is so physically aggressive with me.