Working Through a Crisis with My Brother

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[galacticvampire]

I love the moments when we can really see how much of an older brother John is

[raemills]

Hank: you're going to think my anxious thoughts are silly
John, who had deeply struggled with anxiety for many years: nope, absolutely I will not

[sylviaodhner]

John knows what he's talking about, he's a seasoned pro at experiencing anxiety.

[Masque]

How is John just going to drop this absolute elder (beyond his years) wisdom?!? "You are trying to view through the lense of the universal, something that is intensely personal." That hit hard!

[zoematties]

Gosh we need more of this in the world. Two adult men being vulnerable, talking about their emotions unapologetically. You guys are awesome.

[Clockworkbio]

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[never.sneezer.scrooge]

This kind of felt like a private conversation I wasn't really supposed to witness, but I appreciate you being so vulnerable. Hank, you're doing a great job. Don't overdo it. You're amazing and don't need to worry. I know that probably doesn't help much but hopefully it helps a little.

[meggzg]

John saying “did I come on too strong?” After giving his brother loving and supportive advice was just *chefs kiss*

[MamaSassKathryn]

John Green can, and did, make me care about tuberculosis!

[DistanceTraveled]

2:33 John evil eying the audience as Hank dismisses his anxiety is the epitome of he may not think so but *breaks the 4th wall* I know and you know that we know that he does. ❤

[AutkastKain]

"There's a lot of things to care about, and I don't labor under the delusion that the thing I care about is the most important one." This feels like something my American Literature class should have taught me in Junior year in 2012-2013

[laurencastilla]

I am a cancer survivor here to validate you, Hank. I'm 5 years from diagnosis as of last month. I had greater anxiety in the 2 years *after* I had finished my cancer treatment than I did before, or even during it, and the anxiety I felt didn't always have a direct link to something "cancer related, " it just seemed to be a general increase in anxiety as a whole. It's not something that's talked about enough. I hope you know that it gets better, and that you are not alone in the way you're feeling.

[JaredTakesTime]

As an older brother, I really admired what John did around 4:10. Working through a crisis with your siblings takes such a careful tightrope of "Your feelings are super valid" and "But here's something you might not have considered you super need to hear" and he walked it perfectly. Thanks for working through this with a camera on, it's genuinely helpful in this weird, weird time.

[RainbowSprnklz]

6:06 hank is so science brained he expects even his self-worth to be peer-reviewed! (said lightheartedly)

i appreciate you guys sharing this conversation with us, my struggles (seem to) come from a place more similar to johns than hanks, so hearing about hanks genuinely helps me understand the variety of struggles in humanity and their different origins/manifestations

[EunicheCanoGarcia]

When I see Hank and John what I see is people trying their best, helping me feel less hopeless, and having great hair

[ObviouslyBenHughes]

Knowing this was a Hank edit and therefore he had the power to put John’s book over John’s face instead for once, and seeing it done, was a beautiful next chapter in The Bit™️.

[johnchessant]

Remember when in the past, we would always wish reunion videos could be longer than 4 minutes? I'm so glad we can do that now. This video wouldn't have hit nearly as hard otherwise.

[JRegan]

Brotherhood 2.0 - Brothers learning to communicate and build a community together.
Brotherhood 3.0 - Hank makes everything and John grows through the sharing of his own struggles while the community grows.
BROTHERHOOD 4.0! - Hank and John learn to enjoy depth in their community and see it doesn’t always have to grow outward. Then John gets to be the one helping Hank through mental health!
While the world around us may give me anxiety, this era of brotherhood gives me hope and joy.

[andicasian]

Nerdfighter therapist here: Of course this is scary, Hank. Lack of understanding is lack of control, and real or perceived lack of control is a huge piece that underpins anxiety. It must be so hard to not understand if understanding feels core to who you are. I know it doesn’t penetrate but that’s not all or even most of what’s valuable about you. You’re great as you are, Hank, though I can get why it’s hard to see that.

[GrimmDelightsDice]

3:06 "But that's okay, man..." is an underrated human expression and emotion.